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PrintablenurseV said:  for Moni
It is good for them to get out and experience different things-I wish them well. Thank you hun & I agree, it's good for Christina and my grandbabies. It just makes me sad. I guess I am being a bit selfish. I know as long as my baby girls are happy I will be happy. Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian  | |
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psychodelicide said: MoniGram said: Today my eldest Christina told me her hubby Cody received orders and now they are moving to Germany in June. I am happy and sad about this move for them. Happy because my daughter and grandbabies will get to experience another country, sad because my sweet grandbabies and my daughter won't be here with me any longer.
 I know it's her family and she needs to live her life, but my heart is hurting. I have never been away from my daughter, she has always lived less then 30 mins from me. I knew this day would come, but it doesn't hurt any less.
So...do I have any fellow orgers who live near Germany? Any orgers who have had to deal with their kids moving across an ocean from them? I'm sorry to hear about this, Moni. That had to be very hard news to hear and to accept.  Nancy it was real hard news. I didn't let it hit me until Tina went home yesterday, and I still havent shown her how sad I am. But yesterday afternoon and most of the evening I was crying like a big baby. But this morning I decided I just can't be like that, because I need to enjoy every last minute I have with my girls. Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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prb said: MoniGram said: Today my eldest Christina told me her hubby Cody received orders and now they are moving to Germany in June. I am happy and sad about this move for them. Happy because my daughter and grandbabies will get to experience another country, sad because my sweet grandbabies and my daughter won't be here with me any longer.
I know it's her family and she needs to live her life, but my heart is hurting. I have never been away from my daughter, she has always lived less then 30 mins from me. I knew this day would come, but it doesn't hurt any less.
So...do I have any fellow orgers who live near Germany? Any orgers who have had to deal with their kids moving across an ocean from them? oh no Moni 
I can feel your pain, from all these miles away....i so want to be able to give you a hug hug, but this will have to do
Good luck to Tina and her family xx Thank you Sweetie...to bad they weren't heading your direction...you could keep an eye on them.  Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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MoniGram said: psychodelicide said: I'm sorry to hear about this, Moni. That had to be very hard news to hear and to accept. Nancy it was real hard news. I didn't let it hit me until Tina went home yesterday, and I still havent shown her how sad I am. But yesterday afternoon and most of the evening I was crying like a big baby. But this morning I decided I just can't be like that, because I need to enjoy every last minute I have with my girls. Awwwww. RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Tell them to send you lots of pics and do the skype thing! 
Big hugs to you Moni!!!  and wishing Christina and her family all the best in their new home! Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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veronikka said: Tell them to send you lots of pics and do the skype thing!
Big hugs to you Moni!!! and wishing Christina and her family all the best in their new home! Thank you Vero.
I am trying to plan things so the girls will remember their Memaw. I am planning on taking pics with them, and asking Christina to put the pic in their bedroom. Then I heard Build a Bear has something you can put in their stuffies where you can record your voice. I am planning on doing that, so the girls will remember what I sound like. I have decided just because there will be an ocean between us, I won't and will NOT miss out on their lives! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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wildgoldenhoney said: Thank you Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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MoniGram said: veronikka said: Tell them to send you lots of pics and do the skype thing!
Big hugs to you Moni!!! and wishing Christina and her family all the best in their new home! Thank you Vero.
I am trying to plan things so the girls will remember their Memaw. I am planning on taking pics with them, and asking Christina to put the pic in their bedroom. Then I heard Build a Bear has something you can put in their stuffies where you can record your voice. I am planning on doing that, so the girls will remember what I sound like. I have decided just because there will be an ocean between us, I won't and will NOT miss out on their lives! it's wonderful that you are making plans like that! you are a sweet memaw!  i know my mom is having bad depression since she moved to texas so far away from her grandson, that's why i'm taking him to texas next month to visit with her. | |
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MoniGram said: psychodelicide said: I'm sorry to hear about this, Moni. That had to be very hard news to hear and to accept. Nancy it was real hard news. I didn't let it hit me until Tina went home yesterday, and I still havent shown her how sad I am. But yesterday afternoon and most of the evening I was crying like a big baby. But this morning I decided I just can't be like that, because I need to enjoy every last minute I have with my girls. awww....it is hard for a dedicated grandparent to be so far away from her grandchildren, my husband's parents live all the way in brazil and don't get to see our son very often, and i know it's really hard on them! it's why i am always making picture dvd's for them, videos, and posting online on orkut (the facebook of brazil) for them. and i send them drawings he does in school, etc...i think it helps somewhat. | |
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kimrachell said: MoniGram said: Thank you Vero.
I am trying to plan things so the girls will remember their Memaw. I am planning on taking pics with them, and asking Christina to put the pic in their bedroom. Then I heard Build a Bear has something you can put in their stuffies where you can record your voice. I am planning on doing that, so the girls will remember what I sound like. I have decided just because there will be an ocean between us, I won't and will NOT miss out on their lives! it's wonderful that you are making plans like that! you are a sweet memaw! i know my mom is having bad depression since she moved to texas so far away from her grandson, that's why i'm taking him to texas next month to visit with her.Awww thank you hun! I am concerned that I might get depressed after they leave. That is why I am trying to find a group I can join.Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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MoniGram said: kimrachell said: it's wonderful that you are making plans like that! you are a sweet memaw! i know my mom is having bad depression since she moved to texas so far away from her grandson, that's why i'm taking him to texas next month to visit with her.Awww thank you hun! I am concerned that I might get depressed after they leave. That is why I am trying to find a group I can join.yes, finding a group is a great idea! having the support of others will help a lot! | |
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MoniGram said: RenHoek said: As the others have said I'm both happy and sad for you...
Geilenkirchen, however, is a beautiful part of Germany. It's very close to Koeln (Cologne) where I lived for 5 years. It's also really close to Aachen and Maastricht (Holland). If I were you I would TOTALLY start getting my travelin' shoes on... there's places and family to see, orgers to be met, photoho threads to be started!!!! This could be the start of something GRAND!! I agree with you...traveling there would give me a chance to do something I have always wanted to do. I could finally meet some orgers  and see my kids.
I am happy for her, it's hard not to be happy for her. She is just so darn excited about going. That makes me happy. This is the city website in English... http://www.geilenkirchen....glish.html looks really nice and green.
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MoniGram said: vivid said: [/b] Kinda the opposite. I moved abroad and stayed there for 6 yrs ( I did come back and visit every year), and my mum found it really hard - especially in light of the fact that my older brother and sister had already emigrated about 10 yrs before and my younger brother was going off to university in another city at the same time. She'd lost all her babies! And her grandchildren are all abroad too (I'm back in London, but can't help her out there). Like I said, she found it really difficult, but she was really happy for me that I did it (She'd emigrated here herself in her early 20s - from Germany as it happens  ), and it was the best thing I ever did. She also came over to visit me in a couple of countries and had brilliant holidays.
So, I guess I'd just try and be happy for your daughter and support her (it can be difficult moving to a new country, and feeling guilty at the same time won't help), and start saving up for holidays! The Black Forest in Germany is beautiful. I am really do my best to support her. I want her to enjoy her life there. I am just upset about my grandbabies. My Seyhan will be 2 in April, and my Zoey will be a month old on the 29th. I was just hoping for more time. But this Memaw will use the heck out of webcams for sure. I plan on saving like crazy so I can visit my girls as soon as I can.   | |
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MoniGram said: MrsMdiver said:
Aww sorry to hear this. Luckily her being on a base, she will make friends quickly and be surrounded by other women with children that are going through what she is going through for support. As for you, my mom would probably email with you, someone that knows what you are going through as a Grandmom being so far away. My mom had never traveled outside of the US until she came to the UK in Sept. You can do it! 
[Edited 1/20/10 6:40am] Thanks Val...it's going to be real hard. I decided I just need to spend as much time as I can with those grandbabies. I had Seyhan most of the afternoon today and I found myself looking at every detail of her face. How does your Mom do it? I am not sure how she does it to be honest. I am an only child so it was hard for her when I moved. Then I decided for the first time in my life to give her a grandchild. Poor Grammy only got to see her Grandson for 2 days and we were still in the hospital for the visits. I do try to send her pics and videos often but some times I think it makes her sad because she wants to hold him. All we can do is look forward to her next visit over here whenever that will be. I am finding it really hard to be a first time mom without my mom around. Thank goodness for the internet. Though the bloody time difference sucks. You are a wonderful mom and grandmother, your family is blessed to be so strong and connected, the miles apart will never change that. Hang in there and know that it will not be forever.
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I understand your hurt but you are focussing on all the negatives. What a fantatsic oppourtunity for them to experience a great (safe!) country. Your grand kids will have a wonderful life experience and you can visit too. Stop off in London on the way through and I will take you for drink! Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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Erm. What city do they live in? | |
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PREDOMINANT said: I understand your hurt but you are focussing on all the negatives. What a fantatsic oppourtunity for them to experience a great (safe!) country. Your grand kids will have a wonderful life experience and you can visit too. Stop off in London on the way through and I will take you for drink!
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MoniGram said: tinaz said: Right after we had our daughter my husband got shipped out to germany... She was only 2 months old when her and I finally got to go be with him... My parents were heartbroken also... My mom was VERY attached to her first grandbaby.. It will be hard but she has such an exciting time ahead for her! We got to come back and visit while my hubby was in the field! So you will see her and just think, you will hae somewhere to stay when you go to visit!
If you don't mind me asking, how did your Mom handle things? I feel like I am going to lose my mind. Christina & I have never really been apart except for the 30 mins in her adult life. She has been by my side since I was 15. Then not to mention not seeing my grandgirls as often as I do now. She cried alot at first...Listened to roy orbisons song crying over and over lol... She worked alot and we talked on the phone... We bought a video camera and sent home movies back home which I think helped alot so they could watch them grow... We were gone for 4 years... I too had never lived more than 30 mins apart when I left.. Dad and her did alot of traveling, working, and kept busy with fishing and things... She did still have my brother and sister at home but they were in high school... I dont know that there is anything that anyone can tell you that will make it easier for you honey, its just gonna have to be a phase in your life that you will take one day at a time... Your babies wont forget you, you can send videos or tape recordings and like others said the technology today makes it ALOT easier to stay in contact than it was for us 20 years ago... You have us all here at the org to vent to! While the time may seem long you will look back on it in a few years and think how fast it went by! I know from when my son joined the marines how it felt to have him gone so I joined a support group for marines parents... It was a wonderful way to connect with other parents who were having a hard time with the separation... I made some really great friends and even still volunteer time helping out since they were there for me! (my son is TERRIBLE at keeping us informed lol) , im not sure what branch he is in but marineparents.com would welcome you even if you are not a 'marine" lol...
Big hugs to you and dont forget Im here for you as are all these other AWESOME org folks!! ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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RenHoek said: MoniGram said: I agree with you...traveling there would give me a chance to do something I have always wanted to do. I could finally meet some orgers and see my kids.
I am happy for her, it's hard not to be happy for her. She is just so darn excited about going. That makes me happy. This is the city website in English... http://www.geilenkirchen....glish.html looks really nice and green.
Thank you for the link hun...it will be quite helpful! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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MrsMdiver said: MoniGram said: Thanks Val...it's going to be real hard. I decided I just need to spend as much time as I can with those grandbabies. I had Seyhan most of the afternoon today and I found myself looking at every detail of her face. How does your Mom do it? I am not sure how she does it to be honest. I am an only child so it was hard for her when I moved. Then I decided for the first time in my life to give her a grandchild. Poor Grammy only got to see her Grandson for 2 days and we were still in the hospital for the visits. I do try to send her pics and videos often but some times I think it makes her sad because she wants to hold him. All we can do is look forward to her next visit over here whenever that will be. I am finding it really hard to be a first time mom without my mom around. Thank goodness for the internet. Though the bloody time difference sucks. You are a wonderful mom and grandmother, your family is blessed to be so strong and connected, the miles apart will never change that. Hang in there and know that it will not be forever.
Thanks Val! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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PREDOMINANT said: I understand your hurt but you are focussing on all the negatives. What a fantatsic oppourtunity for them to experience a great (safe!) country. Your grand kids will have a wonderful life experience and you can visit too. Stop off in London on the way through and I will take you for drink!
Yes I agree it's a great chance for my daughter, her husband,and my grandbabies. I am trying to focus on the good. My daughter's Dad was an Air Force brat, and he was able to see the world. He has told me he has no regrets growing up that way. I just need to be strong, and pray the time goes by quickly. I do know if I make it over there...I want a HUGE org meet & greet. Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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MrsMdiver said: PREDOMINANT said: I understand your hurt but you are focussing on all the negatives. What a fantatsic oppourtunity for them to experience a great (safe!) country. Your grand kids will have a wonderful life experience and you can visit too. Stop off in London on the way through and I will take you for drink!
Ummmmm WE will take her for a drink, thank you! Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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tinaz said: MoniGram said: If you don't mind me asking, how did your Mom handle things? I feel like I am going to lose my mind. Christina & I have never really been apart except for the 30 mins in her adult life. She has been by my side since I was 15. Then not to mention not seeing my grandgirls as often as I do now. She cried alot at first...Listened to roy orbisons song crying over and over lol... She worked alot and we talked on the phone... We bought a video camera and sent home movies back home which I think helped alot so they could watch them grow... We were gone for 4 years... I too had never lived more than 30 mins apart when I left.. Dad and her did alot of traveling, working, and kept busy with fishing and things... She did still have my brother and sister at home but they were in high school... I dont know that there is anything that anyone can tell you that will make it easier for you honey, its just gonna have to be a phase in your life that you will take one day at a time... Your babies wont forget you, you can send videos or tape recordings and like others said the technology today makes it ALOT easier to stay in contact than it was for us 20 years ago... You have us all here at the org to vent to! While the time may seem long you will look back on it in a few years and think how fast it went by! I know from when my son joined the marines how it felt to have him gone so I joined a support group for marines parents... It was a wonderful way to connect with other parents who were having a hard time with the separation... I made some really great friends and even still volunteer time helping out since they were there for me! (my son is TERRIBLE at keeping us informed lol) , im not sure what branch he is in but marineparents.com would welcome you even if you are not a 'marine" lol...
Big hugs to you and dont forget Im here for you as are all these other AWESOME org folks!! Awww thank you so much for all your sweet words. I plan on finding some sort of support group. I still have my other 22 yr old daughter in town, and my 16 yr old son living with me. I need to be strong for them too. My daughter and I have talked and we will be on webcam like crazy...I want to see everything and anything I can when it comes to my grandbabies. Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian | |
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