do we have funerals to help us cope with the inevitable death of a loved one or is it for their sake, even though they are gone. was just wondering because in detroit there are 100's of bodies just laying around in the morgue because folks can't afford a funeral/burial
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they're for the living.

once you're dead you don't know any differently.

For the living ~ overall

It depends on your faith.

the living

for the dead, who can afford it, attended by the living who can't...

it's a closure for the living..
what goes down after living is mystery..

purplewisdom said:

Perfectly stated.

I just can't stand the way families "come together" when someone dies. I remember when my father passed, I saw relatives I had never even seen before and haven't seen since. Obviously, they didn't come visit in life, but were front and center pretending to be so torn up and concerned after death.

I say, show me you care, bring me flowers, tell me you love me, while I'm still here. Otherwise, don't bother once I'm gone.

xpertluva said:

I fully concour and relate to this part, with my dad's departure, i saw a bunch of monkeys at my place eating food, talking shyt, and day after til now, they seize to exist.

CarrieMpls said:

you don't really know that for sure.....

xpertluva said:

I generally agree, though I think the grief of even folk who were absent in life can be genuine in some cases.

Nevertheless, it would be nice to see us nurture relationships in life. It's fleeting, and we should all appreciate that.
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BklynBabe said:

Just as you don’t know for sure that unicorns don’t exist. But until evidence shows otherwise...

That really has little to do with the topic. The deceased isn’t present at the funeral (in any discernable way), so of course it’s not about them, that's all I'm saying.

CarrieMpls said:

I think it's both. Like people have said, the living need closure, but also, its showing dignity for the person who has passed on.


WOW! How long do they keep bodies around in Detroit?? In some states there's a law that if a body hasn't been claimed in a certain amount of time, it gets cremated.

CarrieMpls said:

It's a ritual for the living to give them some sort of official closure. Of course any sense of real closure comes from within. Once you're physically dead unless you pass over you won't know. Of course if you do cross over you know you've gone, well that's what i get from the readings i give. Unless science broadens it's horizons there will never be any evidence but that doesn't mean its not there or real. We all have souls but there's no scientic proof of it. But that's another topic.
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sorry to switch the subject, but has anyone else tried DMT? I have.. after doing this, i have placed the object of death as a continuation of where i am. Great experinece.

Most definitely for the living. As are cemeteries.

xpertluva said:

I fully agree with this.

Depends, sometimes for the living, sometimes for the dead, sometimes both
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CarrieMpls said:

Unicorns dont exist





next you'll be saying theres no Santa





as for the topic, funerals are for the living....but they should be a celebration of the departeds life.

purplewisdom said:

What's a DMT? Some sort of reading that tries to contact the other side? Sounds interesting.

If I'm not dead enough for life, am I alive enough for death?