What would you say if your 20 year old son told you he was "dating" a 40 year old woman?

Over the last week, several of my girlfriends aged 37-42 have told me they are seeing dudes that are 12-20 years younger than themselves. In all these instances, the guys pursued them. I, myself, picked up yet another 20-something year old last week to add to my collection of hot youngstas. What is really going on lately??? Is this shit an epidemic or something? And what do you mothers think about your baby boys chasing women your own age?
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The same things I would say if he told me he was dating a 20 year old. Probably with a bit more cynical interest, if I'm being honest, but I'd want to know the same things: is it a healthy relationship? Are they good to each other? Tell me about her as a person.

Oh man, I dunno. Part of me would think he's entitled to do what he wants and another part of me would think it's fucking weird...gross even.

PunkMistress said:

As a grown woman yourself, wouldn't you be concerned that he's bitten off more than he can chew, especially if he's pursuing a "relationship"? Or, would you be bothered if he told you it's a strictly physical relationship (are kids that frank with their parents tho?) Would you view her as possibly just making sport out of your baby?

" when can I meet her " would be my 1st gut reaction/question

Then I would have some questions that would float in to ask her at the meeting ...


after meeting her and trusing my intuition --- I am certain more questions may rise to ask my son

JustErin said:

Last nite, I met a 41 year old friend for drinks and she was telling me about this 21 year old that she brought home with her and how she jerked him off. And I was so weirded out.

Then I mentioned that in a few years her son and I would be the same ages she and this dude are now, how would you feel if I went out with him???

I know it's a double standard and that men have been doing this shit for ages, but somehow I expect more from women and mothers, specifically. I dunno.

I think your 20 year old should just spare you the details of their "dating"

I'm trying to get with a 20 year old my damn self.

Vendetta1 said:

here's one to chew on...

GOLDIGGAS!

young bucks lookin' for shuga mommas, too lazy to work, think they're fly, lookin' to live the cougar life...

I've interviewed my share of 20-something dudes and I get the impression that a whole lotta tools haven't been sharpened recently...

good lawd a 20 year old is going ot learn some bad things from a 40 year old IMHO

When I was 20, I was trying to get got with the older crowd.


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RenHoek said:

I can see that. But in the case of my friends, none, except for 1, are dating or living with these dudes. From their end, it's just a fuck thang. For me, I ain't fucking none of mines, but I like looking at something young and pretty e'ry now and then.

Cinnie said:

Ain't been right since

SCNDLS said:

Every person I have been interested in or has been interested in me in any form for the last 10 years has been younger than me. Two of them have been at least 10 years younger.

I don't care who my son dates. He's 22. I would know she's not going after him for his money cuz he ain't got shit.

What if you had a 20 year old daughter dating a 40 year old guy? What do you call him??

Street runs both ways on this topic.

SCNDLS said:

anyway, I ain't a Org Mom so I'm peacin' out

lilJ said:

"shrug: I'm not teaching 20 year olds anything bad.

RenHoek said:

Not even. It's about sex.

luv4u said:

Pretty much. And at that point, my daughter would be an adult and I would stay out of her business, unless he was mistreating her in some way.

Vendetta1 said:

I've always dated older dudes, 7-15 years older than me since junior high. But in the last 5 years I haven't seen anyone older. I don't approach men at all and I've noticed that those coming on to me are getting progressively younger. The 23 year old is latest in a string of youngins. A few years ago there was a 21 year old who was on a serious mission.

JustErin said:

must be a left coast thing...

RenHoek said:

you ain't a org mom either!

RenHoek said:

Sorry?

SCNDLS said:

I set out years ago to date older guys because I thought their playing days were over with. NOT!!!

Cinnie said:

so? I'mma post where I wanna...

JustErin said:

I see dudes out here in Cali always trying to get with career women, hence my theory of Goldigga-ness. Female friends of ours are always recounting stories of how they get hit on in the club and get asked odd questions like, "What kind of car do you drive?" or "Do you own or rent?"

now if that ain't diggin' HARD then I don't know...

luv4u said:

It doesn't IMO. That's always been common. It's still gross but very accepted and doesn't raise an eyebrow.

RenHoek said:

I hear ya. I know that for some there's a definite hustla angle to it.

RenHoek said:

Oh, I see now.