If someone says, "whoah, too high maintenance" about someone they'd refuse to date, what do they mean?

High maintenance to me means someone who has to be constantly complimented or reassured of their worthiness. If I have to consciously put forth an effort in a relationship with someone then they're too high maintenance for me.

high maintenance = too expensive to financially support

that you're going to drug them?

I can't define it.
I guess I'm the high maintainance one
But I mean, in regards to how I take care of myself. I don't need anyone taking care of me for myself.

ScarletScandal said:

someone that needs taking care of
good one :thumsbup:

cborgman said:

More times than not it means they're too lazy to care about you.

ernestsewell said:

too self-absorbed, world revolves around them kind of deal?

Drama.

lazycrockett said:

oooooh yes! good one

people who get worked up over the tiniest things.

perspective is everything. a mcdonald's employee put ketchup on your burger after you said no ketchup does not warrent a freak out.
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To me it means someone who needs a LOT of attention from me, in whatever way.

so basically a nutcase

lazycrockett said:

Yes, Lawd!

You wonder why these fools don't pursue a career on the stage.

cborgman said:

YES.

IT.

DO.

ZombieKitten said:

No, more like "I'm just not THAT into you". High maintenance for some is normal expectations for others. If they want someone with no maintenance, get a cat. Otherwise, they person HAS to expect to put a lot of effort into ANY relationship.

Someone with unrealistic expectations too I'd think

ernestsewell said:

but why would they then bother being with you

sounds like we need to hear from connorhawke

thekidsgirl said:

that's me!!!!
that is exactly why I am such a pain in the ass to live with!

I expect my partner to be a friend and companion as well as fuck-buddy, it's just asking wayyyyy too much I think

ZombieKitten said:

If you think that of yourself, then others will too. You create your own reality, so play your cards carefully.

ZombieKitten said:

That is NOT, I repeat NOT an unrealistic expectation!

ZombieKitten said:

Well wait, if that's you definition...

TD3 said:

sorry I was venting

however, to my partner, that is unrealistic

ZombieKitten said:

That doesn't sound too unrealistic to me.


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Too much drama, wanting to be together far too often early on in the relationship, or wanting to be taken care of constantly.

N E E D Y

NOW LET ME BACK UP MY CRAP:

They need your attention all the time. complain all the time. Negative

they are nagging you 2 do STUFF all the time for THEM!!!!!
i don't get some of a men's viewpoint in terms how they should be. a man that treats you like a servant all the time.
cuz if you don't do what they say they can loose it at any time.
and it's always your fualt.i hate those kind of dramatical men
if a women doesn't feel like having sex one day the man""" gets all offensive!
Women can go without sex more then a man does thats how we are built.
if you don't like me i wont be around simple as that
i like a man to not be so into himself where he can say "hey honey i can do it myself"
not because its a women's role but because they want to do it out of love
a man that is not so insecure where he has to make up all these stupid lame tests to see if your the right women for him.
for example, bringing friends over the crib to check you out and they don't even know you. you pay for something cuz they were sick then when you get sick its like "oh i ain't got the money for that". then they spent the money on stuff they wanted to buy for them
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ZombieKitten said:

Haha why me? Am I high maintenance? Nah just kidding I get it.

I think many people use the excuse "high maintenance" when they actually couldn't be bothered dealing with the difficult parts of a relationship, or don't know how to. Some people go into relationships with ridiculous subconsious Hollywood-esque expectations and then wonder why things work out.

I'd classify both myself and my partner as high-maintenance because we both stupidly do things that fuck things up.

Now I clean my house when it's dirty. I also do this for relationships. I don't think I could actually qualify many people as high-maintenance. The ones I could are ones like those you meet on-line, don't know from squat and they still manager to get all needy or pick fights with you. Whafuck with that?

lazycrockett said:

Yeah, I think that's it.

Probably means one of two things to me:

1) You'll be responsible for making them happy...all the fucking time.

2) It looks like it takes then 3 hours to prepare themselves just to get out of the house and go to dinner with you.