My sisters boyfriend,and I are good friends,share similar interests,and can easily talk to each other. Lately I have moments of feeling like I would like to be more than just friends,but I would never hurt my sister like that,so it really isn't even an option for me. Other times I look at him,and there is only the friend feeling there. it is really confusing,and annoying. Has anyone else had these conflicting feeling before?

probably. long, long ago...

3some

not so much confused but feeling bad because it's wrong

Yes.

JustErin said:

co sign.

Oh yes. Very, very confused. And sometimes I'm confused by my lack of feelings for someone.

So how do you deal with it?

The same way I deal with everything. I didn't!

Yes. Every day of my life.

If I were a professor of Human Emotion 101, I'd simply teach this...

it's not always possible control how you feel...it's how you respond to those feelings that's important...
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EmeraldSkies said:

yep

EmeraldSkies said:

You get over it!

That's all you can do.

JuliePurplehead said:

Same here

roodboi said:

Could it simply be the attraction to the mysterious and something you can't have even though you get along really well, I mean you know you can't be with him because you wouldn't hurt your sister, but it might also be a fantasy kind of thing. And yeah that's confusing because you know it's not the reality.

ZombieKitten said:

Same here.

EmeraldSkies said:

plenty a time and they disappear after a while and sometimes you just got bad luck and they stay. Then it's up to you to change your thinking and take a distance. Good luck.

yup. but i'm so glad I shut them out and tried to be rational about it.

Lammastide said:

Only when somebody has something I want. Oddly, if they no longer want it then neither do I.

NMuzakNSoul said:

No,cuase see most of the time,guys make me very nervous,but this guy doesn't,which I found really interesting. I know it will pass,it has happened before,with him,but it's still anoying when it comes back out of no where.

I think at one point or another in life everyone feels like that. You know that you're not going to hurt your sister, but I understand where you feel confused and probably a little undued guilt. Only you can figure out where you stand... good luck!

I've had confusing feelings before... oh lawd. Let's not think about that...

Yes, of course. I was wildly charmed by one of my exe's close friends. His mannerisms, his personality, his smile--everything. It was strange cause I had heard such negative things before I met him too.

Also, I've had conflicting emotions with a few of my female friends and vice versa. My ex girlfriend was an ex friend for a short period before it got physical.

I think it's natural if you have alot in common to tack on an extra layer of fuckery to it all--and I don't think there's a standard template to follow...you make it up as you go, no? At least I hope so.