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Printablesextonseven said: meow85 said: Don't you know if you're going to someone's house what they want done with shoes? How can you be unexpectedly barefoot? Maybe it's an American thing, but we don't call each other up before visiting the first time asking what their shoe rules are.  If I show up and I see other people's shoes by the door or the host asks me to take them off then I will.We don't call each other either.  | |
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SCNDLS said: meow85 said: Don't you know if you're going to someone's house what they want done with shoes? How can you be unexpectedly barefoot? No, no one has ever said before they invite me to their house that they expect you to take your shoes off. You typically don't find out until you walk up to the door and there's a collection of shoes outside in the elements. Tacky! And no one has EVER provided slippers or booties to wear. That's why I think it's inconsiderate to invite folks to your home, especially for an event like a party or holiday dinner and do this to them. I don't walk around barefoot at home, I always wear slippers, therefore I sure as hell don't want to go to someone else's house and walk on their dirty ass floors. And after the episode of Sex and the City where someone stole her $500 shoes at someone's apt who demanded she remove her shoes, I know that I will be turning around the next time somebody springs that on me unannounced. People leave their shoes outside??
We take them off in the house, in the foyer and they go neatly by the door or in the closet. | |
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Efan said: SCNDLS said: You typically don't find out until you walk up to the door and there's a collection of shoes outside in the elements. Tacky! And no one has EVER provided slippers or booties to wear.
Yeah, that's the worst. When it's snowy or rainy or otherwise inclement, that space where everyone is taking off their shoes gets all wet, so then you gotta walk around with wet socks. Ya, that's awful...that's why we have mats and rubber mats in the closet to prevent that. | |
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tbh, it's easy to gauge people's standards. my house sparkles and i wanna keep it that way, people who come round respect that, they haven'y got to worry about sticky spots and wotnot..but i've been to houses where people clearly don't give a damn, usually people with big stinky dribbling dogs and little snotty kids. i keep my shoes on and wipe em on the way out! | |
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 unless there's some heavy duty construction work going on in my house you take your shoes off in my home!
but bring them inside i'll have a place to put them. goodness gracious 
my own mother doesn't get away with that mess, it's just gross. unless you're there for a special reason (cable guy etc) if i even have to ask i'm not going to be nice about it  [Edited 1/5/10 16:21pm] 12/05/2011 
P*$$y so bad, if u throw it into da air, it would turn into sunshine!!!  | |
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matthewgrant said: unless there's some heavy duty construction work going on in my house you take your shoes off in my home!
but bring them inside i'll have a place to put them. goodness gracious Canadian, right? | |
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JustErin said: matthewgrant said: unless there's some heavy duty construction work going on in my house you take your shoes off in my home!
but bring them inside i'll have a place to put them. goodness gracious Canadian, right?  12/05/2011
P*$$y so bad, if u throw it into da air, it would turn into sunshine!!! | |
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you have to get over this sort of thing if you go to Japan. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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Guest should always follow the house rules |
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I don't think it's rude to ask someone to take off their shoes when they come in your house. I do think it's rude, or rather just unfair, to invite someone in and not tell them to take off their shoes and then cop an attitude with them when they don't.
If the person lives in a country where that is the custom, they should already know better, but if they don't, it's not very nice to get stank with them when you could just ask them nicely. Hell, it takes less energy 
And it's damn sure rude to ask someone to take off their shoes and leave them outside. wtf. [Edited 1/5/10 18:55pm] I graduated bitches!!! 12-19-09   | |
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I think the problem with this custom in America is that some (or maybe all) of us tend not to think of our guests. I have absolutely NEVER heard of handing out freshly laundered socks or slippers to guests after they have removed their shoes. I think if ppl in America did that, those who feel put out by taking off their shoes would be more receptive to it. I graduated bitches!!! 12-19-09 | |
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PurpleRighteous1 said: I don't think it's rude to ask someone to take off their shoes when they come in your house. I do think it's rude, or rather just unfair, to invite someone in and not tell them to take off their shoes and then cop an attitude with them when they don't.
If the person lives in a country where that is the custom, they should already know better, but if they don't, it's not very nice to get stank with them when you could just ask them nicely. Hell, it takes less energy
And it's damn sure rude to ask someone to take off their shoes and leave them outside. wtf. [Edited 1/5/10 18:55pm]  | |
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PurpleRighteous1 said: I think the problem with this custom in America is that some (or maybe all) of us tend not to think of our guests. I have absolutely NEVER heard of handing out freshly laundered socks or slippers to guests after they have removed their shoes. I think if ppl in America did that, those who feel put out by taking off their shoes would be more receptive to it.
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yes.
it's not appropriate to ask them to take your shoes off however. | |
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I don't think it's inappropriate at all. When my mother first moved into her new home many years ago, my aunt and uncle visited her. They had just been garage saling all morning in the hot sun and wanted to use her restroom. They ended up tracking tar on her new carpet, a mess she was never able to clean entirely. To this day, you'll get knocked the fuck out by her husband if you so much as think about walking on their carpet with shoes on. Shake it til ya make it | |
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SCNDLS said: meow85 said: Living in Canada, it is rude NOT to take off your shoes in someone's home. I can't for the life of me comprehend why people in certain countries think it's okay to track dirt and dog shit though the house.
 I'm sure I'd notice if I had dirt or dogshit on the bottom of my shoe. I've never tracked anything into anyone's house that's what a door mat is for. I don't see how it's any more unsanitary than having dogs and cats walking around in a house.
And it ain't like I'm going around doing this type o' shit that's the first thing that came to my mind too
seriously though, i don't take off my shoes, i just wipe them on the doormat and that's it. but over here 98% of people have hard flooring so it doesn't matter that much anyway. even if someone enters my house with wet shoes from the snow these days i don't even blink an eye. i clean the floor 3 times a week anyway on account of my dog so what the heck to i care. now, if someone were to whipe their cowboy-pimp boots on my brand new couch, we'd be talking serious trouble, lol. i've been asked to take off my shoes twice. one time when i went to a dinner party with a close friend and i didn't know those people, so i just shrugged it off and left my shoes at the door. the second time was when i came to view my current house and the owner at that time chirped "we always take off our shoes when we come inside" and i just said "ow, ok, i guess if that works for you" and walked in with my shoes on. pfff. whatever. and true love lives on lollipops and crisps | |
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JustErin said: sextonseven said: Maybe it's an American thing, but we don't call each other up before visiting the first time asking what their shoe rules are. If I show up and I see other people's shoes by the door or the host asks me to take them off then I will.We don't call each other either. You guys don't have to because it's already understood to take your shoes off in Canada! | |
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sextonseven said: JustErin said: We don't call each other either. You guys don't have to because it's already understood to take your shoes off in Canada! And in turn Canadians have clean, well groomed feet.  | |
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What?
People wear shoes inside the house in some cultures? What kind of barbarism is this? | |
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For some reason, it has always really annoyed me to be asked to remove shoes. I do it, but I hate it. I don't even know WHY, exactly. Nobody who knows me will be able to make any sense of what I'm about to say ( ), but . . . I guess it feels undignified, and overly personal. It's fine when it's close friends, but if it's people I don't know well, I feel half-naked without shoes on. In a bad way. And wearing slippers really fucks up an outfit. 
I keep my shoes on at my house when I have guests over, too. Now, winter messy boot situations are different. If the shoes are really dirty, they have to come off, obviously. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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tackam said: For some reason, it has always really annoyed me to be asked to remove shoes. I do it, but I hate it. I don't even know WHY, exactly. Nobody who knows me will be able to make any sense of what I'm about to say (
), but . . . I guess it feels undignified, and overly personal. It's fine when it's close friends, but if it's people I don't know well, I feel half-naked without shoes on. In a bad way. And wearing slippers really fucks up an outfit.
I keep my shoes on at my house when I have guests over, too. Now, winter messy boot situations are different. If the shoes are really dirty, they have to come off, obviously. you don't own an iron!!!
But yeah, I really see both sides of this one. |
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CarrieMpls said: tackam said: For some reason, it has always really annoyed me to be asked to remove shoes. I do it, but I hate it. I don't even know WHY, exactly. Nobody who knows me will be able to make any sense of what I'm about to say (
), but . . . I guess it feels undignified, and overly personal. It's fine when it's close friends, but if it's people I don't know well, I feel half-naked without shoes on. In a bad way. And wearing slippers really fucks up an outfit.
I keep my shoes on at my house when I have guests over, too. Now, winter messy boot situations are different. If the shoes are really dirty, they have to come off, obviously. you don't own an iron!!!
Or a hairdryer. I'll leave the house in wrinkled clothes and wet hair, but I feel silly without shoes on. I KNOW, I know. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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People know I prefer them to take their shoes off. I don't force it, but if they're comfortable with it I'm a happier host.   I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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XxAxX said: a lot of cultures require removal of shoes when entering a home.
In Japan people are in shock if you forgot to take your shoes off when entering. Is there any place of refuge one can flee from this insanity | |
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SCNDLS said: meow85 said: Don't you know if you're going to someone's house what they want done with shoes? How can you be unexpectedly barefoot? No, no one has ever said before they invite me to their house that they expect you to take your shoes off. You typically don't find out until you walk up to the door and there's a collection of shoes outside in the elements. Tacky! And no one has EVER provided slippers or booties to wear. That's why I think it's inconsiderate to invite folks to your home, especially for an event like a party or holiday dinner and do this to them. I don't walk around barefoot at home, I always wear slippers, therefore I sure as hell don't want to go to someone else's house and walk on their dirty ass floors. And after the episode of Sex and the City where someone stole her $500 shoes at someone's apt who demanded she remove her shoes, I know that I will be turning around the next time somebody springs that on me unannounced. I thought of that episode the minute I saw your first reply
I had to watch that episode for Humanities class "We may deify or demonize them but not ignore them. And we call them genius, because they are the people who change the world." |
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roodboi said: JustErin said: it's customary in Canada to leave the shoes at the door.
your igloo has a door...AND first run American tv shows??  "We may deify or demonize them but not ignore them. And we call them genius, because they are the people who change the world." |
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MarySharon said: XxAxX said: a lot of cultures require removal of shoes when entering a home.
In Japan people are in shock if you forgot to take your shoes off when entering. Same here. The only people who really have the nerve to do that are, like, maintenance personnel and even in that case it's quite inconsiderate. There have been however some occasions when I've asked myself a special guest to wear shoes inside the house. | |
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Absolutely, your house, your rules. It's normal in most of the world anyway. As you walk down the road of life... hitch-hike fool, it's faster - Homer Simpson
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