My guy told me point blank that he can't stand when a woman's nails aren't done. He said he notices right away whether or not they've been taken care of. He doesn't see it as "high maintenance" or "insecure"; he sees it as carign about your appearance right down to your nails.
I also got a whole thing about feet...
Then he made it clear he wasn't talking about me, because he knows I already take care of it.

I think that like anything else, some people like them and some don't.
But to say that we are automatically vain or insecure is unfair.

ZombieKitten said:

Women get them does to impress other women yes and they don't mind telling you what others think of them. With the price that is paid to have them done i guess they have the bragging rights to say what they wish.

I might not be a man but I have seen enough hands to know what women like on there nails

What the fuck is so wrong with being high maintenance?

Or do men think someone that is high maintenance when it comes to their looks is somehow automatically high maintenance when it comes to relationships?

I'm definitely high maintenance but sure as hell am not when it comes to relationships with others.

lilJ said:

some, possibly even most, but definitely not all

and men couldn't give a shit

I painted my nails the other day, like a dark noticeable colour.

I spent the day worrying (or at the very least it crossed my mind) about

a) what my partner thinks - it's out of character for me (I'm a tomboy like fauxie's missus) what changed my mind? who am I trying to impress?

b) what women think - I was a little self-conscious since I didn't do such a good job painting them

c) what other men think - since we went to a party, and 2 very cute guys went out of their way to spend a LOT of time talking to me (both of them, neither paid me much attention other years and it wasn't just to be polite, you know?) so I started to wonder, was the nail colour some kind of SIGNAL to them :

anyway, it got me thinking, hence this thread

ZombieKitten said:

Well, it may have had NOTHING to do with the polish at all, Maybe it was something you were wearing that was making YOU feel extra special even if you were unaware of it. Maybe a cologne or some jewlery?
For me,if I have just spoke to my baby on the tellie I must get this sexy glow and since i usually like to try to go VERY unnoticed this is very odd 4 me
So is it possible you were feeling mayb something else maybe a conversation you had and you were unaware men were picking up on it....They are crafty things when they want to me.

chocolate1 said:

When he said "nails aren't done" does he mean as if getting acrylic nails? Or natural nails polished all the time? Yes he does sound a bit vain. If that is the case, then in his theory, most men don't care about their appearance then.

lilJ said:

not really, I spent the whole day wishing I'd worn something else because I thought I looked fat
I WAS being a lot louder and cheekier than is normal for me, but that is because my mother in law was next to me, and she brings that out

ZombieKitten said:

u can blame the in-law we won't tell
& I am sure you didn't looked very stunning

missfee said:

Um, I never said he was vain. Why? Because he likes nails that are taken care of? I said that it's unfair of the people who keep saying that those of us who get our nails done are vain.

do straight guys like girls with painted nails? like is that a desirable thing?

(I don't necessarily mean long talon-like nails )

missfee said:

Um, I never said he was vain. Why? Because he likes nails that are taken care of? I said that it's unfair of the people who keep saying that those of us who get our nails done are vain.

I don't really see what's wrong with vanity either.

Genesia said:

Hmm, not necessarily. The real cause of a nail fungus is trapped water (or other agents like bleach, dirt, old food) underneath acrylic, so if the acrylic is constantly lifting and you are constantly dealing with water (washing clothes and dishes) then your chances are greater for a fungus to form. I do agree though, that its best to pick very carefully where you go to get your nail service performed at, recommendations are best, but it also depends on how well you take care of your nails in between services also.
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JustErin said:

It's better to look good than to feel good, that's what I say.

lilJ said:

some, possibly even most, but definitely not all

and men couldn't give a shit

I painted my nails the other day, like a dark noticeable colour.

I spent the day worrying (or at the very least it crossed my mind) about

a) what my partner thinks - it's out of character for me (I'm a tomboy like fauxie's missus) what changed my mind? who am I trying to impress?

b) what women think - I was a little self-conscious since I didn't do such a good job painting them

c) what other men think - since we went to a party, and 2 very cute guys went out of their way to spend a LOT of time talking to me (both of them, neither paid me much attention other years and it wasn't just to be polite, you know?) so I started to wonder, was the nail colour some kind of SIGNAL to them

anyway, it got me thinking, hence this thread

maybe painting your nails made you feel sexy and you gave off that vibe at the party?

Painting nails is like any grooming. It's better than nasty unkempt nails. But it's not that important to me. But virtually all grooming gives a person a little more self confidence and makes them a little sexier, unless it's over the top.

It doesn't make a difference to me honestly. Like Lammastide said, really long nails with all the bells and whistles are definitely a turnOFF. Shorter nails with dark colors on someone that was clearly left of center in her style is hot only in that the entire package goes together, but on the average woman, I generally prefer lighter shades if any color at all.

Painted toenails are cute. But only if you have cute toes to begin with obviously.

Painted toenails are cute. But only if you have cute toes to begin with obviously.

NDRU said:

possibly the fact I was very aware of them, since it's novel for me had an influence? who knows, I wasn't feeling sexy at all though

ZombieKitten said:

so maybe you gave off a demure vibe

I really like the look of shorter nails with dark polish

However, I rarely paint mine cause I hate when the polish chips

guys don't worry much about attachments...I mean, a woman could have a twin like tumor growing from her neck and some guy somwwhere is gonna wanna hit it...

I like painted nails myself, but only slightly more than I like tumors...

NDRU said:

with plenty of yawning, since it was new years day and everything



possibly those 2 were tired and hungover and bored or something

ZombieKitten said:

don't be modest, you were obviously hot!

missfee said:

I got a nail fungus on my toe from a salon years ago. So it's often from improper reuse and cleaning of manicure tools and the foot basin