nyse said:

You once mentioned you were dealing with this. I shouldn't be joking about it.

I'm really glad to hear you're managing better. Keep it up.

thx lammastide. been alot better. But i am typing this with a hangover..lol

Vendetta1 said:

Yeah, me too.

tackam said:

Awwww zaza and nyse... I have had this conversation sooooo many times with my daughter.... I wish one of you would live close cuz Id TOTALLY set you up!! Everyone finds love at different times... if you havent had a shitty relationship then how would you know a good one when you have it? This is a poem i sent to her and i believe it to be true! (I had to switch girls for boys)


Boys are like apples on trees.

The best ones are at the top of the tree.

The girls don't want to reach for the good ones because they're afraid

of falling and getting hurt.

Instead they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground, that

aren't as good, but easy.

So the apples at the top think that there is something wrong with

them, when in reality, they are amazing.

That is why we just have to be a little patient and wait for the right

girl who will come someday..... ..

, the one who has the courage to reach the top


She like the both of you are sweet and kind who want to love with all your heart and soul, but are afraid to give it all for fear of getting hurt... I believe there is someone for EVERYONE and when you find them it will be everything you dream of! You know what you want, so dont settle for any less! It may take time and I know it bothers you guys when we say this, but you are young and have time to play with right now! Dont rush into a relationship and get treateed like poop just because you feel you "need" to be in one... you will never be happy that way... When I met my husband I knew that very first date I was gonna marry him! I "felt' it... And here we are almost 22 years later and still very much in love!

So dont sweat it guys, your both a GREAT catch and you know it! Any girl will be lucky to find you and those that treat you like shit are always gonna be miserable yucky people who you dont wanna be with anyway!

whistle said:

tinaz said:

Thank you tinaz, I absolutely love you You're so nice person..and that poem is true. Thanks for you kind words

And nyse, bro..there's no sense in alcohol. I don't drink and I'm glad for it. My friend broke up with his girlfriend and he just drinks more and more and it's getting worse..don't do the same mistake as him. Give up drinking!

some people are sheer fucking evil and you're better to be rid of them.

don't give up on love though!! i don't think i ever could. it feels too lovely when you get it right.

evenstar3 said:

Thanks, beauty Some people are so evil they totally turn everything against you so you get out of it as the biggest bastard in the world

tinaz said:

Beautiful story. I wish you were right. I´ve just turned 30, still looking for the right one and the older you get the more hopeless you get. I don´t think I am that pessimistic, but waiting for 30 years has been too long for me and I pray that it will be over for me soon the way it happened to you.

evenstar3 said:

Yes and yes.

Imago said:

That's the worst and I'm seeing it now. A couple I know ( same ol' story) broke up. He said to her "I have some big news for you. We need to talk tomorrow" and then tomorrow came and he said the same thing. The next day he said he would be leaving her tomorrow. She said "Ok, but why not leave today?" and with that she packed up the PS3, flat screen TV and a whole bunch of other things that she had paid for but that he wanted and drove him to his ex's house. He had eBay and Paypal accounts he used, but with her credit card and bank account. I went around there yesterday to help her with it. He didn't want to give passwords and shit to help her. That made me feel sick, because if I were in her situation I'd want to break all those links to the person. In the end I managed to help her to change passwords, remove his e-mail account from them, pay off the fees he'd accumulated and get it all sorted. Part of the reason for the split was him calling their newborn baby girl ugly and asking for a DNA test to prove it was his, yet shortly after the split he was saying "Shouldn't your mother give some gold for the baby?" before asking if he could have it. She didn't care about all the things she'd bought, or the money she'd spent on his food, his visa runs, her credit bill he'd wracked up, not to mention paying for lots of stuff for his child by his previous wife. She just wanted to do whatever and give whatever it would take to give him as few excuses as possible to come back into her life. He'll find ways though.

evenstar3 said:

That seems to be the thing if you've had bad experiences, learning from it, being wiser and keeping your feet on the ground a little more in future, but still being open to the possibilities of love.

whistle said:

Chin up, zaza. Take it all on board, not as baggage and bitterness but as experience, and keep on keeping on. What else is there to do? You're a sweet guy, and some women may use you and not treat you as they should, but I think you'll be alright. Just keep being who you are and bide your time.

evenstar3 said:

yes it does!

Fauxie said:

I'm going to guess this is the same Voldermort you went on a Visa run with?

Lawd, I don't know how you do it.


No, my ex wasn't that bad. She was an emotional cripple, don't get me wrong. But, it was just one of those silly little games she played when she shouldn't have been. I had emotionally moved on after our last breakup , and I'd say within about two month's time, I had absolutely no desire nor emotional attachment towards her. For me, the line had been drawn and I was happilly on the other side. However, this did not mean that I particularly liked her nor wanted her in my life to any capacity.
I avoided old haunts we both liked, I stopped going to clubs I assumed she might go to, etc. etc. Basically, I created a new univiverse without her in it, and was happy to do so. The only thing I didn't do was change my cellphone or living address , which was problematic enough.

I swear to gawd, it took everything I had in me when she said, "I'm just trying to be friendly. We've known each other for years..." not to respond with, "bitch, you weren't friendly to me when we were together--why start now? "

Just hook your friend up with a new man--she'll forget her ex fast enough.
It sounds like he's in no way, shape, or form good for her.

Imago said:

Same Voldemort, yes but we didn't do the border run together. Got that tomorrow, in the van with Mon, Mae and Nong New.

Yep, why is it that some people think every broken relationship will and should turn into friendship once some time has passed? Same Voldemort could never accept that Mon's sister just wanted to cut him completely and absolutely out her life. He couldn't understand why all the years together couldn't make her be friendly with him. If someone was so bad to you why would you even want to be civil? Just as in the response you felt like saying to your ex, why if Mon's sister's ex was an awful husband would he be anything other than an awful friend?

It's funny. Mon's sister and Jane want to meet up sometime. I bet they'll get on famously. Jane's not looking for a man right now, she's all about taking care of her gorgeous baby girl but there's no doubt she can do better than her ex!