I need help with gift ideas for someone I just started dating. We've known each other for several months but only as friends. Our relationship only made a turn recently. We've yet to even go out on a real date and I don't expect anything from her. However, I thought it might score me some points if I got her a gift. I just don't want to overdo it and scare her off. Besides, I'm not sure if this is really gonna go anywhere and I don't have money to just throw around.

Any suggestions? Thanks in advance!
[Edited 12/20/09 20:54pm]

a scarf
a photo frame
a picnic
candles

when I started going out with the master he nearly scared me away with a too generous gift, he got me a lamp, a novel, and a statuette of a duckman it was too much, I'd advise something small, funky or cool

Just give her something small and take her out to dinner.

missmad said:

I think a scarf or candles is too hard to someone you may not know well. I mean, unless you're 100% sure they like a particular scent, I stay away from scented lotions, candles, etc. A scarf might be okay, but again, I think unless you know the person really well, it's best to go more generic. A photo frame is nice, you could put a picture of the two of you in it, if you feel comfortable doing so.


I usually go for a nice book about something I know they like.

I've never been scared off by nice gifts. No hablo this language.

C$SH.

Start here. It worked for me. http://prince.org/msg/100/326271 LOL

BUt keep your spending limit reasonable since this seems to be a newer relationship for you, and is still unpredictable as to its future. I'd go to a mom and pop shop, or some non-department store type shop and find her something unique, and special. Even if you break up, she'll always remember you for it, opposed to a gift card or something generic like that.

If you've known each other several months as friends, what do y'all talk about/shared interests? Do you know what music she enjoys? What type of books she might enjoy reading? Or what movies/shows she likes?

I understand not wanting to go overboard on something extravagant, or giving something that comes off as "clingy" or moving too fast, but I think something that's a bit personal would be appreciated (especially if you're looking to score points). For example music. "I remember you saying you listen to _____. I thought if you like _____, you might enjoy _____."

What would register (to me at least) would be that you remembered and put a bit of thought in the gift.
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johnart said:

Just don't say that part like Netflix or Amazon.com.
[Edited 12/20/09 22:15pm]

johnart said:

and don't give her a library book

ernestsewell said:

All of the suggestions have been good, but this sounds like the way I want to go more or less (not the Vizio of course:) But I do want to get her something unique. I'm just awful at knowing what would be cool to someone else. I like the book suggestion too. She's the artsy type, so I have a little bit to work with I suppose. Too bad she's not into Prince. That would make it real easy! lol

ZombieKitten said:

I forgot about Duckman! You may have given me an idea for a gift to myself, assuming that show is on dvd. lol

xpertluva said:

If you can think of some of her favorite artists, or styles you can't go wrong with a book on that artist/style.
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missmad said:

good ideas! i think a scarf or a photo frame is a nice gift!

johnart said:

Is a pet goldfish too much?

lazycrockett said:

Cash Rules Everything Around Me. Cream get the money. Dollar Dollar Bill y'all.

jone70 said:

ah, ok. I'm just guessing, I'm not sure. Single and ( for the most part) lovin it

kimrachell said:

Thanks Kim

I had started dating him at the beginning of December last year, but we had been friends for a while... we had a running joke about "muscle cars", so I went to one of those calendar kiosks and got him one with 12 pix of classic muscle cars, and a nice card.
It was just enough for our fledgling relationship, and a token of our friendship.
He mentioned how much it meant yesterday...

Maybe one of those boxed {whatever}-a-day calendars with 365 pictures of artwork, and a mushy card?

xpertluva said:

I just googled, mine looks nothing like the official "duckman" mine looks more like a man in a suit with a duck's head

I just bought someone the inner workings for a toilet!

Original, I guess

A brooch? I don't know.

How did the relationship turn a corner if you haven't been on a date? What happened?

NDRU said:

someone new?!?!? talk about romantic