So, I was in Vegas this weekend and got a chance to see a friend of mine who informed me that next week she will be completing her final phase of her transition from male to female. I'm so excited for her that she finally gets to be the person she feels she was meant to be. I think she's very courageous and I'm so proud of her. I'm totally cool with her decision and support her 100%.

On Saturday, I spent time with her and her boyfriend of more than a year. When they met, he thought she was a girl and when she told him her status he decided to pursue a relationship with her. He apparently is totally straight. Since I'm a nosy ass heffa, I asked her how the sex was. And she said it was good, when they do it. I asked, "Is he uncomfortable because of . . . well . . . you know." She said she wasn't sure but thinks things will improve after her surgery. After spending time with both of them, it's obvious that he loves her very much cuz he was so sweet and attentive and all that.

I've always been of the mind that no "truly" straight guy would be sexually involved with a person with a penis regardless of their situation unless they were somewhat gay, bi, or something. But I've heard several people that are pre-op refer to their significant others as straight males. What do ya'll think? Straight dudes, if you fell in love with a girl who was transitioning would you overlook her penis and get down? Would you question your sexuality?

That's really cool congrats to your friend

I saw a hermaphrodite that was outwardly male with female genitalia and I was so enraptured that I probably would consider it. At least to know what it was like to be with him.

Congratulations to your friend and tell her WE WISH HER AND HER HUSBAND ALL THE BEST!

Awwwww that's awesome. She seems very happy.

Keep us updated.

Yeah, I'll tell her you all wished her a Happy Snippity Doo Dah Day.

SCNDLS said:

That is really awesome that she found love. I'm sure it can't be very easy for transgendered people to get past that when pursuing relationships. Good for her.

SCNDLS said:

Mach said:

After her surgery, I'ma send her flowers with that phrase on a card, cuz I don't think Hallmark has anything that quite captures the moment.

Maybe ya'll should submit suggestions for appropriate well wishes befitting this occasion.

SCNDLS said:

A happy birthday card may be fitting.

Lammastide said:

Yeah, we talked about that. She turns 40 in a few months and I dubbed it her Re-birthday. But she likes inappropriately funny stuff. She literally spit out her drink when I trotted out "Snippity Doo Dah Day" at breakfast.

Anyway, what do you think about the straight male part? I'm really intrigued by this idea, not just with them but other times when I've heard people say this?

PurpleRighteous1 said:

I agree. I kept telling her that it's hard for most people to find someone that accepts them as they are, flaws and all. But she IS a hot heffa. Makes me SICK! However, the fact that he won't regularly have sex with her causes me to pause. Not sure why but it does.
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Lammastide said:

How about a bris card asking if they didn't over do it a bit?

Mars23 said:

SCNDLS said:

They don't cut off the penis????!!!!! They invert it inside the body. Congrats on your friend.

NastradumasKid said:

I don't know the particulars but something definitely gets snipped

SCNDLS said:

Maybe the testicles, but NOT the penis!!!!! That's dangerous! I believe they invert it inside the body.

SCNDLS said:

BTW, the boyfriend really isn't straight, he can claim that if he wants to but he's not. Not that its a bad thing just saying.

NastradumasKid said:

All of it sounds painful and scary as hell

and I totally think it's possible for someone to consider themselves a straight male or female and get involved with a transwoman or transman and vise versa you can see yourself as gay or queer.

from what I've heard, people in relationships with closeted or even unaware transpeople who continue the relationship through completion of the transition say they're in love with the person and not the gender/sex. it doesn't change their orientation.

comes back to that spectrum of human sexuality. everyone = bisexual
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matthewgrant said:

Are you a straight guy?

NastradumasKid said:

SCNDLS said:

oops no. but what i mean is if someone wants to fit into a box while negotiating what that will look like, it's up to them.
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matthewgrant said:

You're gay of course. just to answer SCNDLS's question. Hello BTW.

matthewgrant said:

if your boyfriend decided he wants to be a lady, would you stick it through? (this is a whole other scenario like in that book Transister Radio)

NastradumasKid said:

hi

matthewgrant said:

Bisexuality in everyone???? Well, we all have our moments....

ZombieKitten said:

if i had built a good size of my life with this person I could see myself sticking it through I don't actually know what our sex life would look like anymore but I don't see it any different than openly gay men that continue living with their wives.

matthewgrant said:

I think in theory "it's still the same person" but they will change. Hormones change you to some degree, and I would expect personality changes too - it would be inevitable!

matthewgrant said:

So as a gay male, could you see yourself having sex with a transman with breasts and a vagina? How would that work from a sexual attraction standpoint?

I'm soooo confuzzled!

SCNDLS said:

I always thought you were a guy for some reason. Now, I'm confused.