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anyone in their mid 20's and stuck in a rut? I'm completely stuck. I feel like my degree is of no use, and the job I had full time which is no longer full time for me was a flop. I have a big debt to pay off cause I spent too much money and I'm too shy and quiet to really be out there. On top of that, I'm fighting bipolar depression and sleep all the time cause of my meds.
Despite stress, I used to be so strong and try to pray about it and all, but now I'm losing hope. Has anyone been through this or still going through it? I even feel like everything I did up to this point was a big lie, though I have a good resume. I don't feel happy with myself [Edited 11/10/09 14:02pm] | |
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I'm going through somewhat similar things myself. I haven't found a job yet that my degree helps me with and I graduated 2 years ago. I recently finished working the 3 month notice period at my now previous job. I'm still somewhat happier now even though I'm currently unemployed for various reasons. I'm really shy and quiet myself and I've had some anxiety issues. None of this is helping me in my job quest although I think my resume is quite good and appropriate for the jobs I'm applying for. Also for the first time ever all my male friends now have girlfriends and I'm still the only single one in the group. I don't feel like that's going to change anytime soon.  [Edited 11/15/09 8:12am] | |
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Got a degree that turned out to be useless? Two, in fact? Check.
Worked my ass off for months to get a job that was supposed to be full time with benefits, but has been downgraded to part time, and to top it all off the employer is ridiculously unprofessional given the size of the company? Check. In a massive amount of debt from student loans to pay for aforementioned useless degrees, and several months' worth of having to pay rent with my credit card, and borrowing money from various people for groceries? Check. Have a grievously dishonest and uncooperative landlord who now owes me a large sum I suspect I'll have trouble having paid in full? Check. Terminally single? Check. 
I'm there, you guys. Let's start a club or something.  "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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yes, I'm stuck in a big rut....hopefully things will get better. unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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I'm 19 and I feel I'm stuck in a rut. I'm going to school studying music industry but I really have no idea what I want to do. My school does have co-op (intern at a place where'd you wanna work for 6 months) so that helps. But when I finish school, I'm going to be in debt about $120,000 and that's not going to be fun... | |
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Going to turn twenty-five in about a month, and feel like what's been abandoned weighs more than what's accomplished. Dropped out of school a couple of times.. lost what may be the important love of my life due to carelessness and immaturity.. missed out on important opportunities as a result of irresponsibility or cluelessness.. plus, the fact of being human (flaws and all). It can seem a bit much, especially if your main activity is thinking/analyzing. 
But.. simply posting on this thread is enough proof that what is felt is universal, though the details may be specific to each poster. And there's comfort in that recognition. 
.. recently had a summerfling and he told me of how what I'm going through is nothing but a quarter-life crisis. That term is kind of funny, but is there any better description for it?
I made the decision to move across the country as an attempt to completely change life, quite recently. Sometimes it's really tough, but there are signs that this move is the right thing. And ultimately it comes down to belief.. it may sound silly, but faith and belief (coupled with focus and action) can get anyone further than previously imagined. Or so that's the belief in mind.
It's all adjustment and a moment in time. Even if you're in debt or single or clueless to your purpose in life. Maybe there isn't enough attention paid to the changes humans go through as they age; well, more attention. [Edited 11/10/09 21:05pm] | |
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RenHoek said: What happened to the darkness? They're really good small circles, big wheels!
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Rightly said: RenHoek said: What happened to the darkness? They're really good Split up 
REALLY too bad too!! They rocked!  A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon |
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I think I had it slightly more together in my mid 20's than I do know in my mid 30's.
I feel like all the energy is being sucked out of me trying to deal with people! I am just no good with being around too many people....  and no good at changing myself either. No matter how nice I try to be, it just never seems to work out for me | |
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Finally, a thread I belong in. I'm 26 and I don't know what's going on . I just spent the past year taking a Graphic Design course that hasn't taken me anywhere, except winning a national competition which I was told was nationally recognized and would have companies knocking the doors down to hire me. Since I have no family in LA, i'm staying with one of my friend's family from school, and their living situation is HORRENDOUS...If only I could find some way to post pics :disgust: I'm looking for work, but unsure of what I want to do, the guy i'm dating told me I have a week to find a job or he's dumping me...whatever...I'm just lost. I'm waiting for something to fall out the sky and hit me on the head. But I like to think that for now God has me on the bench while he cooks something up for me. He didn't give me talent just to not do anything with it. | |
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Set yourself a target, pay your debt off.... Then travel the world, your eyes will be open, and your mind will be free!! Keenmeister |
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doing nothing doesnt help me when im lost .. reprioritz things n start again .. do what you can do n dont let neg thoughts crep in it doesnt help. | |
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I would love to travel, but it's impossible right now. I did some traveling last year though when I had paid vacation and all. I've fallen so hard and feel like I can't get up again. | |
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alphastreet said: I would love to travel, but it's impossible right now. I did some traveling last year though when I had paid vacation and all. I've fallen so hard and feel like I can't get up again.
I feel ya. Right now I owe more money than I actually make in a year, and it's not a good feeling. It's not like I did some dumbfuck thing either like blow it all on coke or cars. Just silly, frivolous things like getting an education and paying rent have put me this far in the hole. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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alphastreet said: I would love to travel, but it's impossible right now. I did some traveling last year though when I had paid vacation and all. I've fallen so hard and feel like I can't get up again.
If you ever need a chat mate, give me a orgnote, I've been down, at 18 I was diagnosed with depression, Its a hard thing to come to terms with, but your not alone mate, millions of people are going through the same things/if not worse..... I am more than happy to listen. Talking can sometimes be hard to do, but often the best! I'm always free... [Edited 11/12/09 1:05am] Keenmeister |
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Sorry to hear that. I've had it for a long time too but it got worse this year and really escalated. | |
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Try some "SAM-e"
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this bit of info isn't likely to help but I've the emotional maturity of a 20 year old from the year 1989
and strictly materialistically speaking I'm stuck in an awful rut. small circles, big wheels!
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meow85 said: alphastreet said: I would love to travel, but it's impossible right now. I did some traveling last year though when I had paid vacation and all. I've fallen so hard and feel like I can't get up again.
I feel ya. Right now I owe more money than I actually make in a year, and it's not a good feeling. It's not like I did some dumbfuck thing either like blow it all on coke or cars. Just silly, frivolous things like getting an education and paying rent have put me this far in the hole. I can relate to most of ya'll too, I'm 27, bought a townhouse last year and I'm on my third job since graduating from college in '04. The multiple job thing wasn't my fault though, I worked at a bank for two years, then left and took another job (my last one) for growth, but after two weeks of being there, the company announced a merger and in another year and half I was in danger of getting laid off. So to prevent that from happening, I had to take the first job offer I got which is the job I have now. Got my MBA in marketing this summer, but now i'm stuck at a job where I'm being underpaid, and under utilized. Everybody was telling me that after I got my MBA that it "shouldn't be no problem finding a job with your creditials and experience".....definitely not the case. Now I'm running into issues where I'm living paycheck to paycheck. Because I finished my MBA this summer my student loans came back into effect and those are extra expenses. I was thinking of getting a part time job in addition to my current sucky job just to have some extra money for groceries and gas! That is until I find a full time job paying me the salary I know I should be paid and challenging and motivating me as well. And let's not get started on Christmas, I doubt if I can even give gifts at all.....the only ones I'd scoop up some change for is my mom and my boyfriend. Everyone around me tells me to just be patient, but if I meet another person that I graduated with who has a job hardly doing anything but almost getting paid 6 figures, I'm going to throw up! [Edited 11/13/09 10:38am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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You guys that are struggling with the purpose of your education and earning a living may find this useful.
http://tchl.freeweb.hu/th...ter_1.html | |
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Right now I'm feeling like I need to take on a part time job just to get extra income for groceries and gas for my car....but why should i need to do that if i got my MBA? Plenty of people in my department have poor work ethic but are somehow making more than me, what is wrong with this picture? it's time for me to get the fuck out, i know that much, i've brought ideas for our department to the table with upper mgmt but they want things to remain the same while i work on some "side projects" and might i add that they don't want to give me any compensation for these side projects that aren't in my job description? i getting madder by the second here  Why did i even go to school all those years for my BS and my MBA if i can't even make 40k a year? The shit is rediculous. I'm steadly applying for other jobs but nothing is coming up, all I get is the "while you are qualified for this position, you weren't amongst the highly qualified candidates".....  I really don't know what else to do.[Edited 11/13/09 14:12pm] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: meow85 said: I feel ya. Right now I owe more money than I actually make in a year, and it's not a good feeling. It's not like I did some dumbfuck thing either like blow it all on coke or cars. Just silly, frivolous things like getting an education and paying rent have put me this far in the hole. I can relate to most of ya'll too, I'm 27, bought a townhouse last year and I'm on my third job since graduating from college in '04. The multiple job thing wasn't my fault though, I worked at a bank for two years, then left and took another job (my last one) for growth, but after two weeks of being there, the company announced a merger and in another year and half I was in danger of getting laid off. So to prevent that from happening, I had to take the first job offer I got which is the job I have now. Got my MBA in marketing this summer, but now i'm stuck at a job where I'm being underpaid, and under utilized. Everybody was telling me that after I got my MBA that it "shouldn't be no problem finding a job with your creditials and experience".....definitely not the case. Now I'm running into issues where I'm living paycheck to paycheck. Because I finished my MBA this summer my student loans came back into effect and those are extra expenses. I was thinking of getting a part time job in addition to my current sucky job just to have some extra money for groceries and gas! That is until I find a full time job paying me the salary I know I should be paid and challenging and motivating me as well. And let's not get started on Christmas, I doubt if I can even give gifts at all.....the only ones I'd scoop up some change for is my mom and my boyfriend. Everyone around me tells me to just be patient, but if I meet another person that I graduated with who has a job hardly doing anything but almost getting paid 6 figures, I'm going to throw up! [Edited 11/13/09 10:38am]
So many people I went to school with have shit-easy jobs they either just fell into or were handed (nepotism!) and rake in the money like it was oxygen. A lot of them aren't even really qualified for what they do. I will not lie, at this point I'm seriously considering becoming a stripper or doing webcam shows for the money. [Edited 11/15/09 14:43pm] "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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ConsciousContact said: You guys that are struggling with the purpose of your education and earning a living may find this useful.
http://tchl.freeweb.hu/th...ter_1.html That was beautiful, but all very airy and idealistic for one to consider when they're getting their meals from the food bank and going without heat. Sure, life is about more than just earning a living. I think most people would agree on that point. But when you're eating plain rice and beans for the 4th day in a row -like me -suddenly income and a career become very, very important. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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meow85 said: missfee said: I can relate to most of ya'll too, I'm 27, bought a townhouse last year and I'm on my third job since graduating from college in '04. The multiple job thing wasn't my fault though, I worked at a bank for two years, then left and took another job (my last one) for growth, but after two weeks of being there, the company announced a merger and in another year and half I was in danger of getting laid off. So to prevent that from happening, I had to take the first job offer I got which is the job I have now. Got my MBA in marketing this summer, but now i'm stuck at a job where I'm being underpaid, and under utilized. Everybody was telling me that after I got my MBA that it "shouldn't be no problem finding a job with your creditials and experience".....definitely not the case. Now I'm running into issues where I'm living paycheck to paycheck. Because I finished my MBA this summer my student loans came back into effect and those are extra expenses. I was thinking of getting a part time job in addition to my current sucky job just to have some extra money for groceries and gas! That is until I find a full time job paying me the salary I know I should be paid and challenging and motivating me as well. And let's not get started on Christmas, I doubt if I can even give gifts at all.....the only ones I'd scoop up some change for is my mom and my boyfriend. Everyone around me tells me to just be patient, but if I meet another person that I graduated with who has a job hardly doing anything but almost getting paid 6 figures, I'm going to throw up! [Edited 11/13/09 10:38am]
So many people I went to school with have shit-easy jobs they either just fell into or were handed (nepotism!) and rake in the money like it was oxygen. A lot of them aren't even really qualified for what they do. I will not lie, at this point I'm seriously considering becoming a stripper or doing webcam shows for the money.
[Edited 11/15/09 14:43pm] thanks for the Maybe things will start to look up for us soon. I just know that on Friday I felt so low that I literally cried at work for a good hour at my desk and then cried on my boyfriend's shoulder when I got home. I'm sick of dealing with my current situation, but hopefully it only means that the best is yet to come.I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Not in my mid-20's but plagued by a sense of malaise lately. Things feel empty. I get indecisive. My confidence wavers and I'm sick of chasing after romance. I want to feel whole. | |
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meow85 said: ConsciousContact said: You guys that are struggling with the purpose of your education and earning a living may find this useful.
http://tchl.freeweb.hu/th...ter_1.html That was beautiful, but all very airy and idealistic for one to consider when they're getting their meals from the food bank and going without heat. Sure, life is about more than just earning a living. I think most people would agree on that point. But when you're eating plain rice and beans for the 4th day in a row -like me -suddenly income and a career become very, very important. I like Krishna Murti too. But he was a chosen 1 and he never had to deal with what normal mortals have to deal with. By the way, is nepotism any more silly than "being qualified"? So you were priveleged enough to go to college for a few years, while the not so priveleged were being exploited and humiliated in order to survive. check that whine. small circles, big wheels!
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oh, and good luck! small circles, big wheels!
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Rightly said: meow85 said: That was beautiful, but all very airy and idealistic for one to consider when they're getting their meals from the food bank and going without heat. Sure, life is about more than just earning a living. I think most people would agree on that point. But when you're eating plain rice and beans for the 4th day in a row -like me -suddenly income and a career become very, very important. I like Krishna Murti too. But he was a chosen 1 and he never had to deal with what normal mortals have to deal with. By the way, is nepotism any more silly than "being qualified"? So you were priveleged enough to go to college for a few years, while the not so priveleged were being exploited and humiliated in order to survive. check that whine. College isn't a big class issue here. There's no privilege. As long as you're a citizen you can apply for a student loan if you can't pay for school yourself. Of course, that does throw a person -like me -into a ridiculous amount of debt. But if it potentially can give you a leg up out of minimum wage jobs it's worth it. How can you compare nepotism to qualifications? "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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