teller said:

I agree with you, teller. I also think that we should re-discover ourselves and our partner from time to time. Find something new to do together... explore new avenues. Keep the relationship alive. It isn't easy, but I do know that it can be done.

My aunt and uncle have a wonderfully exciting marriage. They've been married for 41 years. Instead of just settling in, they both keep their interests of old, but they also find new things to do from time to time. My uncle always makes the joke when I ask him how my aunt is or what she's doing.. "Who knows...she may have discovered something new about herself today... who knows who she is now... but I'll enjoy finding out!"

Zthe9s said:

I see.

I just had a discussion similiar to this last night. I was asked how come American women are so greedy with their men. Why do women want to "own" (not allow them the freedom to see others intimately) their men...and vise-versa. That if we just "lived", there would be no need for marriage, divorce, affairs, etc.

I believe you are right, as much as I don't want to.

The term "she got her hooks into him"

You seldom hear "he got his hooks into her"

I guess the same can be said for women...

Very well said Teller!

LaVisHh said:

For the same reason I won't quit smoking--shortsightedness and laziness.

teller said:

teller said:

i quit and guess what penn i mean teller

i can SMELL again!

that and the pocket change is an added bonus

shausler said:

it's quite a chunk o' change, too...not sure if i really want to smell again...

teller said:

Sure you do, nothing like smelling the nectar of your woman creaming for you, teller.

LaVisHh said:

she refuses to quit herself...

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[This message was edited Mon Jan 13 14:11:36 PST 2003 by shausler]

I dont see anything wrong with it if the mans not married.

shausler said:

I'm glad I saw that before you edited it out, shausler. You are such a romantic. Your lady is very lucky.

:OOPS:

shausler said:

Take pride in that! It's a rare gift.

teller said:

I believe that people are continually growing and learning and that perhaps they close their eyes to the growth potential within them, as that may mean change, which is unknown and may be painful. Maybe...

Maybe they should just scratch their itch and keep their pants on.

LaVisHh said:

:NOD:

I think after a period of time in a relationship people, men and women, like to know if they are still attractive to other people.

I think that mostly this may just involve some flirting with workmates or whatever, just to see if someone still finds you attractive. The big test is whether you do anything about it.

I will admit to having flirted a little to see if girl showed interest in me but have not and would not take it any further. Once you know someone is attracted to you, you at least feel that you are still an attractive individual I suppose. It's good for your ego.

I guess quite a few people get carried away and let that attraction turn into an affair. That is a failure of resolve and inner strength. They want to actually taste the forbidden fruit, so to speak. It all the depends on willpower and whether you are prepared to betray the trust of your partner.

I dont think you can ever really get over betrayal. At least I couldn't.

look but don't touch

teller said:

like the boss said

Is it hard to avoid the "want" of new pussie? Seriously, men.

LaVisHh said:

Over here you have commitment, and over here you have NEW PUSSY! (thinking hard)

LaVisHh said:

Well, it's impossible not to be attracted to other women. It's just a question of controlling yourself I guess. Remembering your committment.

4LOVE said:

I hope you are still thinking. (that's a good sign)

bkw said:

Very honest answer. Thank you.

And I agree, it's all about knowing what is important, and making the right choice.

let your right hand be your mate



and buy a puppy

shausler said:

Nothing wrong with keeping your pet happy!

LaVisHh said:

VOOMYS BABYS


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