Question: How do or did you learn or help your significant other with techniques? Did or do you read books on it? Watch videos- (excluding porn)- trial and error- is your knowledge from experience (meaning you learned everything you know from someone else). Seriously how do/did you find out what pleasures you the most and how would you share this (not your sexual exploits) with another person seeking info?

Some men are too egotistical to recieve info and some ladies are too shy to ask....

Well in my experience...
Just get down to it and tell them what you like as it happens.

That's it.

Talk to them. If their hand is at point A, and you like it better at point B, just move it, and keep going. Men and women have to communicate, either physically, verbally, or otherwise. No one is an expert lover, or is born knowing how to please someone. Cuz foreplay starts....in the mind.

If he's not receptive (& into what pleases you) it won't work. All you can do is guide them in a positive way

ernestsewell said:

Open communication is the key. Find out what they like. Tell them what you like. Discuss each others fantasies

don't forget what Nietzsche said about women not being capable of friendship.

I say 2 must connect on an animal level (if at all), I'd never say anything verbally lest I later be quoted out of context.

My last boyfriend was a very (deceptively) bookwormish, super sexy Japanese boy who always insisted on researching every aspect of life before he tried it out, even matters of sexuality. I have to say, in the end it made for some pretty incredible sexual technique on his behalf and encouraged me to step my game up tremendously by way of asking, observing, and learning...often in a situation that begins in a non-sexual fashion...practically clinical, but eventually it would evolve into some pretty mind blowing experiences that left me (happily) scarred for life

I think it all depends on how well you can communicate with your partner and your level of trust and abandonment with each other. Without those three criteria, it might be rather difficult to explore your sexuality together. Books and being up on clinical/anatomical knowledge is a definite plus...you only need so many seconds to bring your lover to an earth shattering (almost violent) orgasm, but it takes a little bit of research and tender exploration to master those techniques.

luv4u said:

I don't know a guy yet who hasn't said, to another guy or a girl, during a blowjob, "Watch the teeth!" It's a start.

ernestsewell said:

It's understood one does not scrape the dick with ones teeth

Practice and knowing what I want and being not afraid to ask for it.

Ottensen said:

im a book worm too- just looking for the right books.

Rightly said:

with who? each other? men?

i just keep paying until they are willing to fake.

Rightly said:

Let's not forget that Nietzsche had major issues with women (I would even go so far as to call him a misogynist as well as a misanthrope!). The best way to get your partner of any sex to open their sexual horizons is to inspire a sense of play and experimentation...as you explore each other's...assets.

Evvy said:

Try anything from the series of books or audio cds by Lou Paget:

http://www.loupaget.com/

ZombieKitten said:

hurrah. Attention.

he meant with both.

Rightly said:

so women just didn't particularly like him probably!

ZombieKitten said:

I don't think he had much pulling power, being so wrapped up in himself.

but, of course he was brilliant. To be absolutely honest I'm not sure whether he came across an objective truth or not.

luv4u said:

That's not always the case, I had one guy who liked a bit of teeth action but I think he was into pain and shit cause although when I attempted that on the next dude it didn't go down well; this was in my late teens so you live and learn, I makes sure they's covered always now.

Evvy said:

I'm not too egotistical at all. The quickest way to get your feelings hurt is to assume what works for one, works for all.

Tell me what you like. Plain and simple. I'm flexible. Eager to please. Just tell me what you want.

Rightly said:

those brilliant folks usually tend to have social difficulties

Evvy said:

How-to books, erotica books, dirty magazines, blogs, internet porn, porn DVDs, masturbation, masturbation, masturbation.

I recommend all of these highly. Get to know your sexual self and you will be a great sexual partner, able to confidently guide your partner into pleasing you the way you want to be pleased, and vice versa.

Ottensen said:

thanks