purplekisses said:

co-sign!

document, document, document! i cannot stress how important this is!

and get on the phone to any social and/or family services in your area.
also, call your local churches. many have benevolence funds for these
types of situations. they will help you with rent, utilities, groceries, etc.

it WILL get better. keep your head up. walk this out with intelligence.
in the end you and the kids will come out ok.




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GET YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS TO YOUR LOCAL SOCIAL/FAMILY SERVICES OFFICE RIGHT AWAY!!!
Seriously, there are programs out there that might not solve all of your problems but at least help in your dire situation.

It also sounds like you might have to budge on where the kids go to school. It's completely admirable that you don't want to disrupt their lives by switching them but you having a good solid job is more important at this moment for their stability and well being.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.
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ZombieKitten said:

thats what i was thinking....
dumb arse males who dont take their parenting responsibilities seriously.
and dumb arse system that lets them get away with it.

disclaimer: this isnt aimed at all the wonderful, caring male parents, and yes, i do know that some women can be just as bad

i hope things turn around for the better soon Dani.

prb said:

someone like this (and it really worries me) sounds like the kind of person that may harm his kids just to get back at his ex - such is the disregard he has for them as his OWN CHILDREN.

ZombieKitten said:

Me too. Putting them onto the street so he can claim some property. Revolting.

johnart said:

This is the wisest course of action I believe.

Cinnie said:

and how mental is he, burning perfectly good furniture

slimhustle said:

AGREED. Take careful note of what slimhustle and johnart have listed here and start strategizing right away.

ZombieKitten said:

seriously praying that doesnt happen

johnart said:

good advice John

Thanks for all the advice.

There's this lady I know who her son goes to school w my son n daughter goes to the daycare my daughter goes to. I'm gonna call her today n ask her if shed be willing to pick my kids up n watch them till I get there for $35 a week. I no it's not a lot but I'll also b paying 115 a week for daycare.

I really thought about the switching schools but I'll b moving again in the spring when this house goes up for sale.

So when my daughter starts kg next yr I will start them in watever school district I am in. Hopefully it will be more permanent

you work it out, gurl! don't let no fool hold you back!

don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it either. You'd be surprised, as many people that want to kick you when you are down, there are twice as many to hold you up when you are falling!

Stay strong and for real, tap into every resource out there. Keep focused and diligent and tho I know it has to be nearly impossible to do, see yourself with your kids in a better life, one in which you're all happy and safe, with or without your ex's help...you'll make it.

Oh my! I think I just figured out who you are....maybe not.
anyway I'm so sorry about what you're going through. it seems in the divorce the judge should have realized all the vehicles were in his name and rule that one of them must go to you.
I hope things work out for you and your kids. Stay strong, you can do it.
I'll pray for you and your kids.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm so glad that there's a possible solution.

My prayers and thoughts go to you and your children.
As it has been pointed out above, there must be some organization or woman's group that can help out. Keep looking

BklynBabe said:

Word! I don't got to church becuase I haven't found one I'm comfortable with, but that doesn't mean that God is not in my life. People will let you down, but God never will. All you have to do is ask Him.

Shyra said:

There's a lot to say on this but this is neither the thread nor the forum.
Or she ask the universe (yes, it's very "Secret") and work towards faith in herself. And believe that she is fully capable (and will) pull herself and her kids out of this terrible situation.

Sh said"Fuck my Church" not "Fuck God". It doesn't at all mean she's shut god out of her life.

John is spot on. Please, go to family services and access the system that's what it's there for. Food Stamps, housing voucher, even emergancy houseing. Keep the faith.

You may need some legal assistance or advice to help you with child support payments, the division of property/martial assist. I don't know your circumstances but access the Legal Aid in your respective state, city and/or county, here's the link - http://lawyers.justia.com...rs/divorce - and find a lawyer who specializes in divorce & family law. If this isn't an option, check area community center, women organizations, and churchs who offer free legal services or advice on the weekend or every other weekend. If you live anywhere close to a university/college that has a law school, you can call and ask if they offer pro bono services.


It's realy important you get your housing situation stablize so you can concentrate on making sure your ex doesn't hang you out to dry any more than it appears he's done. Also make sure you are getting all of your mail, check again with the Post Office to make sure they have your current address correct and make sure the people who really need to stay in contact with have your current correct address. If you know your ex husbands social security number and you're a lil' computer savy or know someone who is, you may learn more about his income and finances, legally. These search engines/websites.... find-out-about-some-one dot coms always suprise how much personal info is floating around in cyberspace.

I hope everything works out and as scary, stressfull, and painful this maybe, "this too shall pass". Stay strong. Peace.


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TD3 said:

Or try to call the Bar Association for whichever state you're living in, they may be able to direct you to organizations that provide low cost or pro bono legal assistance.