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I've seriously never felt so hopeless in my life I never ever thought I would think or feel this way but lately I sometimes wonder if I'm even going to be able to take care of my kids.
Things are so impossible and Ive thought I hit rock.bottom so many times over the last 6 months but now I really think it is impossible. I truely believe me n my kids r gonna end up on the street. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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 Hang in there.If prince.org were to be made idiot proof, someone would just invent a better idiot. | |
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seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before   | |
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oh dear. Do you have the support of your family? Your parents? Siblings? | |
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There might be programs out there to help you. Maybe you can get food stamps, welfare...
I know it might sound like another world (it sort of does to me, honestly) but those programs are there for a reason. My Legacy
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  Sorry to hear what you're going through. I'll keep you in my prayers. | |
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What can I do to help ?
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Have you fallen behind on rent, mortgage or utility bills? Is it something more serious? I hope you're okay.
Is there anything we can do to help? | |
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 to all of the above!!
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No friends or relatives who can take you in temporarily? Anything is preferable to living on the street. | |
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I know this sounds absolutely aweful, but do you have parents or a parent that you could stay with for a little while?
I didn't have kids but I was in a similar prediculment not too long ago, and my mom was a godsend. I honestly never even considered her helping me an option at all due to pride and other things. But when the cards where down, nobody was there to help--not my ex, not my friends, nobody--family was still there. It was humbling and much appreciated. It helped me rebuild my relationship to my mother too. There are many many people who have been in similar situations. I can't imagine it being easy at all. 
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I've moved my kids to 4 different places in the last 6 months.
I'm in so much debt from my divorce. I don't have a vehicle cuz they are all in my husbands name. He dropped me from our car insurance in June. I rented a vehicle and bought there INS for June and July. I was living with my mom 40 mins away from the marital property. I needed to rent a vehicle because there was a lot of him draggi g me to court for bullshit. Plus custody stuff support stuff etc. I paid 370 a week for the rental car n about 1500 forhotwl rooms cuz I didn't think it was safe for anyone to know where I was in thebeginning. The last week I had the rental car I couldn't pay for it so I gave them my jewelery n promised I'd be back to pay them someday. I finally got an apartment and it was gross and the kids woke up evry morning full of mosquito bites but we made do. We had no furniture and only some of our clothes at this point a d my mom had given me her vehicle to use because the school yr was coming. I kept my son in his old school because I didn't want to change one more thing on him. It got to the point where I couldn't afford the apt anymore and I decided to move to a one bedroom flea bag place worse than the first.....something similar to my moms but closer to my sons school. Out of no where a woman who I hadn't talked to inyears n really didn't know all that well appeared like an angel n offered me to stay in a house she bought and was going to flip in the spring and would only charge me $400 plus utilities. We've been here 2 months and I was finally getting on my feet again n my support stopped. Now I got an awesome job offer that I'm supposed to star nxt week and figure out for the life of me wat to do w my kids. They go to school/ daycare an hour away and I can't get them to n from n make it to from work too. My fucking stupid husband live 2 seconds away from where they go n won't pick them up for me. I watched him burn our furniture in our yard this weekend. Which I really don't care about the furniture....it's the point that he continues to get away with this shit. My kids n I slept on the floor for 2 months till I could get them beds at salvation army n he burns shit Then to top it all off the chic who owns the house shows up looking for her money n I don't have it. I feel bad. She's doing me ahuge favor n I don't have her money. There's so much more but that's just the jist I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
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Dani, talk to your pastor/priest. if you cant find help from within the church, well.....
Call up the local newspaper. tell them you have a story to be told...get the word out that way.. take the job. God didn't put you on earth without having good plans for you. one door closes, another door opens up | |
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you poor thing! I am praying for you. | |
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TotalANXiousNESS said: I've moved my kids to 4 different places in the last 6 months.
I'm in so much debt from my divorce. I don't have a vehicle cuz they are all in my husbands name. He dropped me from our car insurance in June. I rented a vehicle and bought there INS for June and July. I was living with my mom 40 mins away from the marital property. I needed to rent a vehicle because there was a lot of him draggi g me to court for bullshit. Plus custody stuff support stuff etc. I paid 370 a week for the rental car n about 1500 forhotwl rooms cuz I didn't think it was safe for anyone to know where I was in thebeginning. The last week I had the rental car I couldn't pay for it so I gave them my jewelery n promised I'd be back to pay them someday. I finally got an apartment and it was gross and the kids woke up evry morning full of mosquito bites but we made do. We had no furniture and only some of our clothes at this point a d my mom had given me her vehicle to use because the school yr was coming. I kept my son in his old school because I didn't want to change one more thing on him. It got to the point where I couldn't afford the apt anymore and I decided to move to a one bedroom flea bag place worse than the first.....something similar to my moms but closer to my sons school. Out of no where a woman who I hadn't talked to inyears n really didn't know all that well appeared like an angel n offered me to stay in a house she bought and was going to flip in the spring and would only charge me $400 plus utilities. We've been here 2 months and I was finally getting on my feet again n my support stopped. Now I got an awesome job offer that I'm supposed to star nxt week and figure out for the life of me wat to do w my kids. They go to school/ daycare an hour away and I can't get them to n from n make it to from work too. My fucking stupid husband live 2 seconds away from where they go n won't pick them up for me. I watched him burn our furniture in our yard this weekend. Which I really don't care about the furniture....it's the point that he continues to get away with this shit. My kids n I slept on the floor for 2 months till I could get them beds at salvation army n he burns shit Then to top it all off the chic who owns the house shows up looking for her money n I don't have it. I feel bad. She's doing me ahuge favor n I don't have her money. There's so much more but that's just the jist OK, this doesn't help, but why did the payments stop? Is he authorized to stop paying? Shouldn't he be paying until they're 18? | |
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They can't take more than 50% of ur income. All of a sudden his income has significantly decreased. (in other rss the shady ass car dealership he works for is now paying him under the table)
I would bet my life on this. He has court the 15th over it n then again we go in the 23rd cuz he's trying to lower it for the 3rd time. The enforcement officer said if it doesn't get lowered then he owes me all the back suppor but until then don't be surprised when u don't get it. So WTF do u do in the meantime??? Not to mention the emptied bank accts, sold vehicles, n atvs, boat n wat not. Everyone says 'be can't do that!!!!!' Ya, but he did mago said: TotalANXiousNESS said: I've moved my kids to 4 different places in the last 6 months.
I'm in so much debt from my divorce. I don't have a vehicle cuz they are all in my husbands name. He dropped me from our car insurance in June. I rented a vehicle and bought there INS for June and July. I was living with my mom 40 mins away from the marital property. I needed to rent a vehicle because there was a lot of him draggi g me to court for bullshit. Plus custody stuff support stuff etc. I paid 370 a week for the rental car n about 1500 forhotwl rooms cuz I didn't think it was safe for anyone to know where I was in thebeginning. The last week I had the rental car I couldn't pay for it so I gave them my jewelery n promised I'd be back to pay them someday. I finally got an apartment and it was gross and the kids woke up evry morning full of mosquito bites but we made do. We had no furniture and only some of our clothes at this point a d my mom had given me her vehicle to use because the school yr was coming. I kept my son in his old school because I didn't want to change one more thing on him. It got to the point where I couldn't afford the apt anymore and I decided to move to a one bedroom flea bag place worse than the first.....something similar to my moms but closer to my sons school. Out of no where a woman who I hadn't talked to inyears n really didn't know all that well appeared like an angel n offered me to stay in a house she bought and was going to flip in the spring and would only charge me $400 plus utilities. We've been here 2 months and I was finally getting on my feet again n my support stopped. Now I got an awesome job offer that I'm supposed to star nxt week and figure out for the life of me wat to do w my kids. They go to school/ daycare an hour away and I can't get them to n from n make it to from work too. My fucking stupid husband live 2 seconds away from where they go n won't pick them up for me. I watched him burn our furniture in our yard this weekend. Which I really don't care about the furniture....it's the point that he continues to get away with this shit. My kids n I slept on the floor for 2 months till I could get them beds at salvation army n he burns shit Then to top it all off the chic who owns the house shows up looking for her money n I don't have it. I feel bad. She's doing me ahuge favor n I don't have her money. There's so much more but that's just the jist OK, this doesn't help, but why did the payments stop? Is he authorized to stop paying? Shouldn't he be paying until they're 18? I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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BlackAdder7 said: Dani, talk to your pastor/priest. if you cant find help from within the church, well.....
Call up the local newspaper. tell them you have a story to be told...get the word out that way.. take the job. God didn't put you on earth without having good plans for you. one door closes, another door opens up Fuck my church! I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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Imago said: TotalANXiousNESS said: I've moved my kids to 4 different places in the last 6 months.
I'm in so much debt from my divorce. I don't have a vehicle cuz they are all in my husbands name. He dropped me from our car insurance in June. I rented a vehicle and bought there INS for June and July. I was living with my mom 40 mins away from the marital property. I needed to rent a vehicle because there was a lot of him draggi g me to court for bullshit. Plus custody stuff support stuff etc. I paid 370 a week for the rental car n about 1500 forhotwl rooms cuz I didn't think it was safe for anyone to know where I was in thebeginning. The last week I had the rental car I couldn't pay for it so I gave them my jewelery n promised I'd be back to pay them someday. I finally got an apartment and it was gross and the kids woke up evry morning full of mosquito bites but we made do. We had no furniture and only some of our clothes at this point a d my mom had given me her vehicle to use because the school yr was coming. I kept my son in his old school because I didn't want to change one more thing on him. It got to the point where I couldn't afford the apt anymore and I decided to move to a one bedroom flea bag place worse than the first.....something similar to my moms but closer to my sons school. Out of no where a woman who I hadn't talked to inyears n really didn't know all that well appeared like an angel n offered me to stay in a house she bought and was going to flip in the spring and would only charge me $400 plus utilities. We've been here 2 months and I was finally getting on my feet again n my support stopped. Now I got an awesome job offer that I'm supposed to star nxt week and figure out for the life of me wat to do w my kids. They go to school/ daycare an hour away and I can't get them to n from n make it to from work too. My fucking stupid husband live 2 seconds away from where they go n won't pick them up for me. I watched him burn our furniture in our yard this weekend. Which I really don't care about the furniture....it's the point that he continues to get away with this shit. My kids n I slept on the floor for 2 months till I could get them beds at salvation army n he burns shit Then to top it all off the chic who owns the house shows up looking for her money n I don't have it. I feel bad. She's doing me ahuge favor n I don't have her money. There's so much more but that's just the jist OK, this doesn't help, but why did the payments stop? Is he authorized to stop paying? Shouldn't he be paying until they're 18? seems like it's really hard to enforce child support for some people. I know others with that issue, too. My Legacy
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your ex sounds like a good candidate for burnt penis!  I cannot stand men that screw with their children's lives. Karma will handle that though.
but....you got to keep that fucker out of your life and focus on you. How far is your job from school and what time do you have to be there. I am thinking of applying for a job where I'll basically be in your predicament Job 1 hr away, starts at 7:30, School/daycare opens at 6 but that's crazy early.....but you have to do what you have to do. Anyway, you can ask the daycare if they know anyone that could take the kids earlier and get them to school for you for a few extra bucks. If you know a reputable cab or child transport you can try that. You need the job! Let me think on what else you can do. | |
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TotalANXiousNESS said: Fuck my church! 
if they can't help you find another one, but don't keep God from your life, okay hun!  | |
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BklynBabe said: TotalANXiousNESS said: Fuck my church!
if they can't help you find another one, but don't keep God from your life, okay hun! I know you're rite. I feel so betrayed by so much, basically all of my church family. But I no there only human and that's not god. Getting them there is ok it's picking them up. I get off at 5 daycare closes at 530 and my son gets off the bus at 340. Myhusband said he'd help as long as I sign off the property for $15000. LOL okayyyyy I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
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TotalANXiousNESS said: BklynBabe said:
if they can't help you find another one, but don't keep God from your life, okay hun! I know you're rite. I feel so betrayed by so much, basically all of my church family. But I no there only human and that's not god. Getting them there is ok it's picking them up. I get off at 5 daycare closes at 530 and my son gets off the bus at 340. Myhusband said he'd help as long as I sign off the property for $15000. LOL okayyyyy That's terrible! these are his kids too
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TotalANXiousNESS said: BklynBabe said:
if they can't help you find another one, but don't keep God from your life, okay hun! I know you're rite. I feel so betrayed by so much, basically all of my church family. But I no there only human and that's not god. Getting them there is ok it's picking them up. I get off at 5 daycare closes at 530 and my son gets off the bus at 340. Myhusband said he'd help as long as I sign off the property for $15000. LOL okayyyyy First off don't sign shit!!! I know it's hard but I found even in my rinky dink town a daycare that picked up and stayed open late, as around. Also what I used to do at my last job was take a late lunch to pick up the kid and take him to daycare. Tell the court about this for sure! Do you know any of the parents in your son's class? Check and see if any of them could keep him. I had this lady whose daughter was in my nephew's class and she offered to help me out if I needed it, so ask. Ask the school too if they know anyone that does after school care. Also Craigslist..... | |
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i know its hard when ur at the bottom but it will get better... i have been there before ... make sure that u document everything, like when he sells things, destroys things, get recordings pics etc... he is not allowed to do anything with community property until its settled n court.. if he does then he will have to pay you. make sure u stress to the court how much he is not willing to assist and be there for his children, make sure its not stated for u but for the kids, trust me judges don't like when a parent is not doing their part, check with any social services for assistance and they will go after his ass and trust me they will, if i recall you were a stay home mother and he owes U and made U displaced since he would not leave and U did for a better life.. check on getting assistance for daycare as well, its just finding the right contact in your state and when U do it will get u what you need to get through the rough patches.. If U don't know someone with Autism....... U will...... April is Autism awareness month.... please get involved.... | |
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I seriously can't believe how little he cares about the wellbeing of his own 2 children. | |
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BklynBabe said: your ex sounds like a good candidate for burnt penis!
  RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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| Dani RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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what about shelters? looked there? | |
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| You were doing so good.
I want to kick his ass again for this. | |
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| i'm in tears reading what you're going through right now! what kind of church doesn't help it's members? that's just wrong! i'm praying for you. Lord please send her the help she needs in this difficult time in her and her childrens lives! | |
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