Alittle odd . Now i can imagine you guys have some interesting family dynamics too ... but this was a unique night ...

My uncle got re-married. He is getting close to 70 and he met this lady through grief counseling . My aunt died about a yr ago .

What was odd to me occurred around the "toasts" . Both of the "best man" type toasts were from "her" side of the family and they were both very heartfelt - and funny . Kinda joking how they wanted to "hate" my uncle when they first met him .... but then were somewhat smitten with him (and of course wanted their mom to be happy , above all ).

What was odd to me was also mostly my side of the family .... especially my uncle's one daughter who was visibly upset . You can tell she didnt want him re-married and - well ... it made me think how tough it has to be in some ways .... I wonder how i would have reacted if my mom died etc ....

at the same time i was happy for him . He looked after his wife for years while she just vegged out and did nothing . So it was nice to see him happy .

ColAngus said:

Sometimes family can get offended by a new person on the block taking the place, so to speak, of their father/mother. Looks like "her" side of the family realized that your uncle was a good man afterall.



She may have felt insulted that her father "replaced" her mother (his wife) or insulted her memory. Some grown children may not like their parents choice in a new spouse.

When my brother-in-law's mother passed away his father married a woman, a woman he was seeing while his wife was dying of cancer. Shortly after she passed, I believe less than a year... he got re-married. The grown kids have, as far as I know, been polite to her, talk to her so she's not out in the cold. I've never seen them be disrespectful towards her.



Your uncle has moved on and found a new love in his life.

Some people who have lost a spouse/partner do not remarry again for reasons such as the person was their one true love, etc. He put a lot of time/years into looking after his wife and getting over the grief. Let him be happy with what years he has left.

When I got married one of my friends wanted to come, naturally. The thing is, he was the ex-husband of both my wife and her sister. Of course, my wife's parents (well, her father. Her mother still cares about him) weren't too keen on him coming, understandably, but he still got pissed when I told him he couldn't come. Didn't talk to me for months after. What an ass. I'd say that's a pretty weird friend/family dynamic.

When my aunt announced that she was remarrying 6 years after her husband slipped and fell (down some very steep steps and hit his head on concrete), my dad was absolutely pissed off. He was infuriated.

I, of course, felt it was a good thing. My aunt wasn't the type of person who could handle being alone very long. Unfortunately 2 years after she remarried, she had a stroke and her mind went all wonky up until her death 3 years later.

Fauxie said:

this whole thing boggles my mind

ZombieKitten said:

It doesn't boggle mine anymore, which should probably unnerve me in itself.

I don't know quite how I took to that whole situation in the beginning so well, when I became friends with him when he was married to Mon's sister. Actually, I don't know how either Mon or her sister handled it all either. It's probably all for the best now that he has nothing to do with this family aside from being friends with Mon and I. I was worried for a while he might think about marrying one of Mon's brothers.

Fauxie said:

i thought that kind of thing only happened in my family.
2 of my husbands step-sisters have been married to the same man.

Fauxie said:

so there were no other sisters?

i knew some of you guys would make me feel like my family isnt "TOO WEIRD" ..

i love the whole "perfect family " concept .... but i do sometimes think my family takes some cake . My mom (whose brother was getting married) was such a baby throughout the night ... she is just getting old and i feel i have to babysit her so much !

But taking that all in stride ... i am thankful for alot of family memories and good times etc ...

ZombieKitten said:

Fortunately not.