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Going to see counselors OK everyone I just wanted to ask.....do many people here feel the need to seek counselling? Or have done so in the past.
I'm going to be heading to one within the next few weeks, just booked the initial appointment. There's a lot of shit I feel I have to come to terms with. But seriously, part of me thinks it's a waste of time to go and see one...not to mention money. Maybe I'm just wondering if other people here find or have found it useful....dunno "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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I suppose it depends on what you're going in for.
I went to a counselor last year for about 6 months for help with anxiety and it really helped. My insurance covered most of it, so it was just over $12 a session and that was well worth it for me. It might take a little bit to find the right fit with a counselor, though. My first experience with one was awful but after a while I tried again with a new one and I haven't regretted it since. | |
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If you find one that is helping you then that's great. If the one you go see is of no help then you may want to find another one.
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it's best to go to someone that's personally recommended to you by someone who's had sessions with them before.
some are total ripoffs. they'll ask you to come back over & over when you only get a 5 minute sit down with them, but get charged the price of a full session. if you couldn't find recommendations, just try your luck, but make sure you're the one that controls the appointments. whenever you feel you've got nothing to talk about, just delay the session to when you feel you need it. it shouldn't be a problem with them. | |
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I'm going to one any day now im loving it. I don't have to pay i just show up.
it's going to be some work getting there but i'll do it im checking this out Too no going to one and trying it out i don't think it would be bad mine is "families of alcholic's" so i'll be around many people who can talk about their stories, people respond differently. alot of people like me run away from their abusers and have done this their whole lives....other people don't.....thats abuse I choose to leave because im at a point where i've had enough and already been rebelious/self destructive, i been out on the streets. i find peace out on the streets then my own home. im not happy im the happiest person when im around people that i don't know. its strange, but i don't have a healthy relationship with my family its all an act. theres reasons why stayed and im glad i've reached this point and im doing this and not even my family knows about it i was told by a psychic it's going to get bad if i don't get out cuz for me this is just an excuse to get away from home okay it's an excuse to act fool in public [Edited 12/17/09 5:25am] | |
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i became house bound with severe panic attacks 6 mths after i got married.
i had had anxiety/panic attacks for years before this, but they became debilitating. My GP took one look at me, and recommended me to an excellent counsellor (she'd actually had "issues" in her life, overcame them, and trained to be a counsellor.) apparantly, my body rebelled on me, i wasnt supposed to be as happy as i was. counselling helped, and by my 6th session, (i had to sign up for 6) we hardly had anything to talk about. I had issues from when i was a child....my grandparents practically raised me for the first three years of my life, then my parents took me full time when my GP's "adopted" my baby sister. my very supportive husband was with me the whole time, through my euphoria after my first session (which i had to leave the house for ) to my crash and burn a few hrs later, (how could i have such resentment for my mother ) i still suffer from anxiety/depression, but have had one major PA in 14 odd years, when i couldnt return to the shop floor after a break. counselling gave me the tools to cope and i dont know what id do without my mum these days goodluck [Edited 12/17/09 1:03am] seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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prb said: i became house bound with severe panic attacks 6 mths after i got married.
i had had anxiety/panic attacks for years before this, but they became debilitating. My GP took one look at me, and recommended me to an excellent counsellor (she'd actually had "issues" in her life, overcame them, and trained to be a counsellor.) apparantly, my body rebelled on me, i wasnt supposed to be as happy as i was. counselling helped, and by my 6th session, (i had to sign up for 6) we hardly had anything to talk about. I had issues from when i was a child....my grandparents practically raised me for the first three years of my life, then my parents took me full time when my GP's "adopted" my baby sister. my very supportive husband was with me the whole time, through my euphoria after my first session (which i had to leave the house for ) to my crash and burn a few hrs later, (how could i have such resentment for my mother ) i still suffer from anxiety/depression, but have had one major PA in 14 odd years, when i couldnt return to the shop floor after a break. counselling gave me the tools to cope and i dont know what id do without my mum these days goodluck [Edited 12/17/09 1:03am] Finding the right counselor is important. Being patient, open and keep a journal. It is good to write things down, before you go so you can tackle the important stuff. Then journal in between seeing the counselor because once you open up and start talking, you will have a rush of feelings and things you want to tackle on the next visit. Best wishes Connorhawke. Many of us have been there. | |
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MrsMdiver said: prb said: i became house bound with severe panic attacks 6 mths after i got married.
i had had anxiety/panic attacks for years before this, but they became debilitating. My GP took one look at me, and recommended me to an excellent counsellor (she'd actually had "issues" in her life, overcame them, and trained to be a counsellor.) apparantly, my body rebelled on me, i wasnt supposed to be as happy as i was. counselling helped, and by my 6th session, (i had to sign up for 6) we hardly had anything to talk about. I had issues from when i was a child....my grandparents practically raised me for the first three years of my life, then my parents took me full time when my GP's "adopted" my baby sister. my very supportive husband was with me the whole time, through my euphoria after my first session (which i had to leave the house for ) to my crash and burn a few hrs later, (how could i have such resentment for my mother ) i still suffer from anxiety/depression, but have had one major PA in 14 odd years, when i couldnt return to the shop floor after a break. counselling gave me the tools to cope and i dont know what id do without my mum these days goodluck [Edited 12/17/09 1:03am] Finding the right counselor is important. Being patient, open and keep a journal. It is good to write things down, before you go so you can tackle the important stuff. Then journal in between seeing the counselor because once you open up and start talking, you will have a rush of feelings and things you want to tackle on the next visit. Best wishes Connorhawke. Many of us have been there. Hey Val yes, journals are great to look back on , to see how far you have come. and good friends to "vent to" when you feel the need to seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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All of you posts have been wonderful, to be honest. You've actually put my mind at ease a lot.
Luckily the one I will be seeing has actually helped my neighbour a fair bit, but I will take the advice of making sure they're not a 'quack', so to speak, before deciding whether to go back again. And thank you all for sharing your stories. It is very very appreciated. "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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connorhawke said: Luckily the one I will be seeing has actually helped my neighbour a fair bit, but I will take the advice of making sure they're not a 'quack', so to speak, before deciding whether to go back again. ok now that's great to know! good luck to you | |
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connorhawke said: All of you posts have been wonderful, to be honest. You've actually put my mind at ease a lot.
Luckily the one I will be seeing has actually helped my neighbour a fair bit, but I will take the advice of making sure they're not a 'quack', so to speak, before deciding whether to go back again. And thank you all for sharing your stories. It is very very appreciated. i dont care who knows about my past, it is part of who I am, and if sharing stories helps someone...even better. Even my mum said just recently, me without anxiety wouldnt be me (and she called me a hypochondriac for a good chunk of my life ) Finding someone you are comfortable with is crucial to counselling working. Its not a one size fits most situation, if one doesnt work, time to find one that does,. Sincerely, good luck and as MrsM said, a lot of us have been thru it seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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prb said: MrsMdiver said: Finding the right counselor is important. Being patient, open and keep a journal. It is good to write things down, before you go so you can tackle the important stuff. Then journal in between seeing the counselor because once you open up and start talking, you will have a rush of feelings and things you want to tackle on the next visit. Best wishes Connorhawke. Many of us have been there. Hey Val yes, journals are great to look back on , to see how far you have come. and good friends to "vent to" when you feel the need to Hey Tracy Funny thing is, I rarely go back and read them. I have found when I do that, it stirs up too many feelings that I do not want to relive. I found it helped keep my thoughts straight at the time though. When my anxiety and depression hit, my brain gets jumbled and I have trouble focusing on one thing at a time. Yes, good friends to vent to help. Thank you. | |
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it is nice to talk to someone especially if you can't talk to anyone else about things. Or if you feel you can't find a way out of things
see how you go after a few appts. | |
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MrsMdiver said: prb said: Hey Val yes, journals are great to look back on , to see how far you have come. and good friends to "vent to" when you feel the need to Hey Tracy Funny thing is, I rarely go back and read them. I have found when I do that, it stirs up too many feelings that I do not want to relive. I found it helped keep my thoughts straight at the time though. When my anxiety and depression hit, my brain gets jumbled and I have trouble focusing on one thing at a time. Yes, good friends to vent to help. Thank you. Thats goes both ways, thank you i dont deliberately re-read them, just come across them and think how far i have come...from the simple things like going to work, buying lunch, running errands...they were all major things for me.... going into a supermarket to get a few things for dinner became a major achievement baby steps, baby steps seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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missmad said: it is nice to talk to someone especially if you can't talk to anyone else about things. Or if you feel you can't find a way out of things
see how you go after a few appts. Hy Miss M, how are things with you sweetie? seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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prb said: MrsMdiver said: Hey Tracy Funny thing is, I rarely go back and read them. I have found when I do that, it stirs up too many feelings that I do not want to relive. I found it helped keep my thoughts straight at the time though. When my anxiety and depression hit, my brain gets jumbled and I have trouble focusing on one thing at a time. Yes, good friends to vent to help. Thank you. Thats goes both ways, thank you i dont deliberately re-read them, just come across them and think how far i have come...from the simple things like going to work, buying lunch, running errands...they were all major things for me.... going into a supermarket to get a few things for dinner became a major achievement baby steps, baby steps | |
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319 said: I suppose it depends on what you're going in for.
I went to a counselor last year for about 6 months for help with anxiety and it really helped. My insurance covered most of it, so it was just over $12 a session and that was well worth it for me. It might take a little bit to find the right fit with a counselor, though. My first experience with one was awful but after a while I tried again with a new one and I haven't regretted it since. seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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prb said: missmad said: it is nice to talk to someone especially if you can't talk to anyone else about things. Or if you feel you can't find a way out of things
see how you go after a few appts. Hy Miss M, how are things with you sweetie? Hey hun, yea things are ok. Hope all is cool with you. | |
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Damn there are some good people on the org! "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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connorhawke said: OK everyone I just wanted to ask.....do many people here feel the need to seek counselling? Or have done so in the past.
I'm going to be heading to one within the next few weeks, just booked the initial appointment. There's a lot of shit I feel I have to come to terms with. But seriously, part of me thinks it's a waste of time to go and see one...not to mention money. Maybe I'm just wondering if other people here find or have found it useful....dunno It's all about the doctor; there're good ones and bad ones. If you find a good one and you have an open mind, I think you'll find it very useful. | |
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I know counselors deal with the most off the wall issues everyday, but I still wouldn't feel comfortable pouring my heart out to a stranger. looking for you in the woods tonight Switch FC SW-2874-2863-4789 (Rum&Coke) | |
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connorhawke said: Damn there are some good people on the org!
and dont you go forgetting it seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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prb said: connorhawke said: Damn there are some good people on the org!
and dont you go forgetting it Never. Especially the Oz contingent "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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I have really found it useful for the very reasons you mentioned.
Just talking out some shit I needed to deal with, with some trained help. I recommend it highly. | |
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I went through couple's counselling. Its hard, but it gives you perspective.
I remember having mixed feelings about it. Sometimes we would walk out feeling like its totally worth it, the other days it doesn't make anyreal difference. Try it, no hurt in that. [Edited 12/17/09 20:55pm] I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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I think they get swamped around Christmas. The initial consultation with a GP only couldn't be done before Tuesday....so I guess I won't have my first one until around New Year. Must be people with the fabled "Christmas blues" "...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb | |
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connorhawke said: I think they get swamped around Christmas. The initial consultation with a GP only couldn't be done before Tuesday....so I guess I won't have my first one until around New Year. Must be people with the fabled "Christmas blues"
And periods surrounding family holidays are popular. I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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connorhawke said: prb said: and dont you go forgetting it Never. Especially the Oz contingent Too right mate seems that i was busy doing something close to nothing, but different than the day before | |
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prb said: connorhawke said: Never. Especially the Oz contingent Too right mate I agree | |
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