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PrintableI like men that are absolutely, breathtakingly handsome. So I would say more attractive than I consider myself. I like beautiful men and don't care if that seems superficial. [Edited 12/4/09 8:18am] | |
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Lammastide said: Graycap23 said: If you only seek to please your eyes but neglect what can't be seen, you'll always be looking for more!
"Voici mon secret. Il est très simple: on ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux." Translation: "Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." From Le Petit Prince I likes..... | |
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The question itself sounds like some serious insecurity issues going on. I'm not trying to be funny, but if you are worried about "competition" as a basis for attractiveness, then you are too busy worrying about what other people think instead of your own happiness. | |
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whistle said: johnart said: What's the dick lookin like???
are you being funny, or is it really THAT important? That's the only thing I'm looking for in a man. If men didn't have those dicks, I'd be straight.  Andy is a four letter word. | |
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johnart said: ZombieKitten said: I've never dated
 WTF were you bought at a bride market?  nope, it's just that from the moment we met it was exclusively ON. | |
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vainandy said: That's the only thing I'm looking for in a man. If men didn't have those dicks, I'd be straight. so you have no interest in anybody apart from sexual gratification? everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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ZombieKitten said: johnart said: WTF were you bought at a bride market? nope, it's just that from the moment we met it was exclusively ON.  | |
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I like monogamous, beautiful men who are not vain, oh and I found one.  | |
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Honey said: ZombieKitten said: nope, it's just that from the moment we met it was exclusively ON. I've never gone out on dates hoping to hit it off with someone with view to possible relationship! | |
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This issue/question would never become part of the equation for me when dating.
For me, happiness comes from inside first and foremost... when that issue is settled then all your relationships (from friends to life partners) are based on the heart... so nah, looks don't factor in on the decision. Competition, jealousy, game playing and approval seeking don't play a part in my life, much less my personal relationships. Just sayin'... | |
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Looks had nothing to do with the last 2 people I've dated.
It was really about an emotional connection. My longest quazi-relationship of about 6 or 7 years was originally based on nothing but looks.
I'll say that neither is better than the other. 
Seriously. Folks can harp all they want about how beauty is on the inside, but that doesn't mean you'll be any more successful or happier in your relationships than if you just decided to fuck the brains out of someone because they're hot. Sure, there may be some correlation between not being typically attractive and intelligence/or personality, but do you know how much emotional baggage comes with folks like that? It's a landmine no matter which route you chose for yourself. One isn't better than the other in my experience. landmine edit [Edited 12/4/09 19:29pm] | |
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Imago said: Looks had nothing to do with the last 2 people I've dated.
It was really about an emotional connection. My longest quazi-relationship of about 6 or 7 years was originally based on nothing but looks.
I'll say that neither is better than the other.
Seriously. Folks can harp all they want about how beauty is on the inside, but that doesn't mean you'll be any more successful or happier in your relationships than if you just decided to fuck the brains out of someone because they're hot. Sure, there may be some correlation between not being typically attractive and intelligence/or personality, but do you know how much emotional baggage comes with folks like that? It's a landmine no matter which route you chose for yourself. One isn't better than the other in my experience. landmine edit [Edited 12/4/09 19:29pm] What's going on in your avatar?  | |
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drifit said: I've heard that women sometimes will date an "ugly" man or a man of a "lower league" because that man will admire her more, he won't be a pretty boy, he'll put her on a pedestal and most of all, won't compete with her when it comes to looks. She will always stand out as the prettier one. Also because they don't want other women to come on to that man, but then again women will anyway.
Men, feel free to answer this too. Any real life scenarios? Have you ever dated someone more attractive than you or less attractive than you and have you made your decision based on factors like peer pressure, competition, what your friends and family think is acceptable for you? Have you ever dated down? Or "up" when you felt like you weren't on their level of sexiness? [Edited 12/3/09 19:08pm] yep - I lost - I married him!!!! "I may not agree with what you say but I'll fight for your right to say it"
Be proud of who you are not what they want you to be... | |
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ZombieKitten said: johnart said: WTF were you bought at a bride market? nope, it's just that from the moment we met it was exclusively ON. From the moment I met Ron, it was pretty on. We had a date the following week and after that it was pretty exclusive...now 12 years later. I only dated a few other guys. None ever were as serious. | |
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slimhustle said: Imago said: Looks had nothing to do with the last 2 people I've dated.
It was really about an emotional connection. My longest quazi-relationship of about 6 or 7 years was originally based on nothing but looks.
I'll say that neither is better than the other.
Seriously. Folks can harp all they want about how beauty is on the inside, but that doesn't mean you'll be any more successful or happier in your relationships than if you just decided to fuck the brains out of someone because they're hot. Sure, there may be some correlation between not being typically attractive and intelligence/or personality, but do you know how much emotional baggage comes with folks like that? It's a landmine no matter which route you chose for yourself. One isn't better than the other in my experience. landmine edit [Edited 12/4/09 19:29pm] What's going on in your avatar? That's moonbeam. He's very cute and very straight. Also, he's mean as hell. I hate him for all these reasons. But I love him for all the same reasons. 
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Most (but not all) of my GFs have tended to be slightly less attractive than me, for some reason.
This has led to: (a) them getting jealous and insecure when I get attention from very pretty women. (b) me feeling like I could do a bit better (sorry if that sounds shallow, but it's true). Right now though, I'll take anyone who'll have me.  Susan - turn the guitar up a little bit.... | |
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And what happens when someone dates you because they think you're less attractive? The very idea of the whole thing reeks of ego gone wild. Talk about judgment, and preconceived notions. So much for celebrating diversity, and all that nonsense. | |
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ernestsewell said: And what happens when someone dates you because they think you're less attractive? The very idea of the whole thing reeks of ego gone wild. Talk about judgment, and preconceived notions. So much for celebrating diversity, and all that nonsense.
I'm all into diversity in theory, but that doesn't mean I want to shag ugly women in practice.... Susan - turn the guitar up a little bit.... | |
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IDontBelieveYouHeardMe said: I'm all into diversity in theory, but that doesn't mean I want to shag ugly women in practice....
They're ugly to YOU. God doesn't see that "ugly" that we, as imperfect humans, see. The whole idea of what is "beautiful" or "ugly" is based on what society has said. And you know as well as anyone that that idealism is bullshit. | |
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ernestsewell said: IDontBelieveYouHeardMe said: I'm all into diversity in theory, but that doesn't mean I want to shag ugly women in practice....
They're ugly to YOU. God doesn't see that "ugly" that we, as imperfect humans, see. The whole idea of what is "beautiful" or "ugly" is based on what society has said. And you know as well as anyone that that idealism is bullshit. It isn't wholly based on what society has said. For one thing, sexual dymorphism (difference of appearance between the genders) is an evolutionary adaptation and therefore, if a woman looks more like a man, she is objectively less "beautiful" than a woman who looks very feminine. Two, again, evolution favours sexual partnerships between those who are young and physically vital, therefore if someone is old and decrepit, once again, they are objectively less attractive. There is of course, variation within those parameters, and some people tend to prefer a "type" (which to some extent is determined or at least influenced by culture and society), but on the whole, in a broad sense, as a purely biological/psychological construct, beauty is objective. Susan - turn the guitar up a little bit.... | |
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I don't like normal handsome...I like odd looking guys. unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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would never do it for that reason because I don't think it works. because the possible competition will wonder why your fine ass is with that person and start movin in on yo shit. Don't take life too seriously, noone gets out alive. | |
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no. if i feel attracted to someone, I'll go for it. simple as that. | |
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PricelessHo said: no. if i feel attracted to someone, I'll go for it. simple as that.
tramp! | |
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Imago said: PricelessHo said: no. if i feel attracted to someone, I'll go for it. simple as that.
tramp!  | |
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PricelessHo said: Imago said: tramp!  | |
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Imago said: PricelessHo said: your sig had me thinking you quoted again with the puke gif | |
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PricelessHo said: Imago said: your sig had me thinking you quoted again with the puke gif fixed it 
Gotta get to bed now | |
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Imago said: PricelessHo said: your sig had me thinking you quoted again with the puke gif fixed it
Gotta get to bed now you did NOT
alrighty you sleep tight sir | |
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