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The Impact of Your Name Okay....my child's teacher handed out this article in his ART class which is full of 12 and 13 year olds! Its an old ass article, no explanation was given, no purpose given, no conversations with the students. (here is a link to the full article: http://abcnews.go.com/202...266&page=1
Here is a quote from the article which just set my damn hair on fire "A distinctively black name tells us that a person typically comes from a neighborhood that has higher poverty, lower income, more likely to have teen mothers, etc." It is important to note that at no point does the article condemn this practice of discriminating, but instead specifically warns against selecting such names. Are these teachers friggin crazy? WTF!!!!! I am meeting with him in a few hours and I want to bite his damn head off. Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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StillGotIt said: It is important to note that at no point does the article condemn this practice of discriminating, but instead specifically warns against selecting such names. That's exactly what I noticed - the article doesn't say "these children are discriminated against and that is wrong." Instead, the expert says things that reinforce discrimination, like, and I quote, "Some of the blacker names tend to be things like Aida. Reginald is a very black name." "Blacker names"? "Very black name"? What does that even mean? Reginald has European roots!!! I would absolutely confront the teacher about this and ask him exactly what he was trying to get across to his students by handing out the article. I would also notify the principal, as I would bet that they know nothing about this. | |
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I'm glad you're meeting with the teacher, and finding out what was the purpose of giving the students that article. It is sad that in that report it states that those with so-called "blacker names", are less likely to get call backs for employment. Talk about racial discrimination. This country still has a very, long way to go in stamping out racial discrimination. [Edited 11/18/09 6:54am] | |
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What is even worse is that I am apparently the ONLY parent that had a problem with it. Seriously...if I would (and have in the past) stood up when other groups have been attacked this way. I'm like WTF is wrong with society today....I'm the only one making a big stink of it.....
yea....and that term "blacker names".....WTF WTF is that supposed to mean? Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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I read that article and I think the author´s main gripe is with names like in this article here:
http://stuffblackpeopleha...pid-names/ Not so much with more "regular" sounding names like Reginald. " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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Why would he even have a gripe against African Americans because of the names? Who the fuck has a grip against somebody over a name? I know plenty of people with these types of names who have MBA's and nothing but success, and I know people who are not so successful. This is just promoting hatred and discrimination against persons with African American names. If non whites dont sell out, then they will not be accepted and they deserve to be mistreated and judged? Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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StillGotIt said: Why would he even have a gripe against African Americans because of the names? Who the fuck has a grip against somebody over a name? I know plenty of people with these types of names who have MBA's and nothing but success, and I know people who are not so successful. This is just promoting hatred and discrimination against persons with African American names. If non whites dont sell out, then they will not be accepted and they deserve to be mistreated and judged?
Sell out to what? Having a name that isn't ridiculous? | |
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Names shouldn't be a big deal. Shit, African Americans have been belittled for all types of shit....it was always something...diction, accent, skin tone. A people picked on, pulled apart, who seek an identity and then the identities they choose are too black? WTF. Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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[Edited 11/18/09 7:21am] Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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I don´t think that the author is really having a problem with what you call African American names, he is merely pointing out that your name does indeed play a huge role in your career.Now whether this is fair or not is a whole different topic but unfortunately, it is a reality, and not just in the African-American communities.
Here in Germany, kids get discriminated against and ridiculed (and get stigmatized when looking for a job) if their name is Justin, Kevin, Jessica, Mandy etc. because these names have some sort of "ghettoish" connotation. Most of the names mentioned in the article with the link that I posted are not even remotely African to begin with...they´re just made up names who bear absolutely no resemblance to real African names, and why give your kids a pseudo East African or Central African sounding name when in fact the majority of African-Americans have Yoruba or Ibo or Haussa or Evi ancestry? If I were African-American and trying to give my kid an African sounding name,I´d much rather chose a name from those tribes I mentioned than some made up , pseudo African name which was inspired by some Ksuaehli name in East or Central Africa. African-Americans don´t stem from Tansania or Zimbabwe or Malawi, you can still tell by the way they look that most of them stem from places like Senegal,Ghana, Nigeria, Kameroon etc., hence the tribes I mentioned above. And don´t even get me started with all those ghettoish car brand names like Porsche or Ferrari or Mercedes, or those pseudo brand names, like some perfume or liqour names....sure, you can name your kids however you want but they have to live with those names for the rest of their lives and you know there are still a lot of prejudiced, racist people out there, why make it even more difficult for the kids? Besides, a lot of those names sound really ridiculous. In a nutshell, the article is trying to show that, on some deep,subconscious or psychological level, a name does indeed have a huge impact on our live and our choices ( partners ) . I look at it as an article about the effect of names. There are even studies that show how a name can shape the look of a kid...don´t know whether to take that one with a grain of salt though...some scientists think that a soft sounding name will have an effect on the facial features of a kid. [Edited 11/18/09 7:24am] " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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StillGotIt said: GetAwayFromMe said: Sell out to what? Having a name that isn't ridiculous? Sell out to choosing their own identities....if they don't readily assimilate into a culture that will not and never has fully accepted them anyway. Other persons who have come here and had their names ridiculed could simply change their name and blend in. The dark skin doesn't allow for that so why bother..... I don't think that article is appropriate for school either. In Art class? | |
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KoolEaze said: I don´t think that the author is really having a problem with what you call African American names, he is merely pointing out that your name does indeed play a huge role in your career.Now whether this is fair or not is a whole different topic but unfortunately, it is a reality, and not just in the African-American communities.
Here in Germany, kids get discriminated against and ridiculed (and get stigmatized when looking for a job) if their name is Justin, Kevin, Jessica, Mandy etc. because these names have some sort of "ghettoish" connotation. Most of the names mentioned in the article with the link that I posted are not even remotely African to begin with...they´re just made up names who bear absolutely no resemblance to real African names, and why give your kids a pseudo East African or Central African sounding name when in fact the majority of African-Americans have Yoruba or Ibo or Haussa or Evi ancestry? If I were African-American and trying to give my kid an African sounding name,I´d much rather chose a name from those tribes I mentioned than some made up , pseudo African name which was inspired by some Ksuaehli name in East or Central Africa. African-Americans don´t stem from Tansania or Zimbabwe or Malawi, you can still tell by the way they look that most of them stem from places like Senegal,Ghana, Nigeria, Kameroon etc., hence the tribes I mentioned above. And don´t even get me started with all those ghettoish car brand names like Porsche or Ferrari or Mercedes, or those pseudo brand names, like some perfume or liqour names....sure, you can name your kids however you want but they have to live with those names for the rest of their lives and you know there are still a lot of prejudiced, racist people out there, why make it even more difficult for the kids? Besides, a lot of those names sound really ridiculous. A lot of African Americans are not trying to identify with Africa. Far too many people dont understand that Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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GetAwayFromMe said: StillGotIt said: Sell out to choosing their own identities....if they don't readily assimilate into a culture that will not and never has fully accepted them anyway. Other persons who have come here and had their names ridiculed could simply change their name and blend in. The dark skin doesn't allow for that so why bother..... I don't think that article is appropriate for school either. In Art class? Exactly my point....fucking art class...and they are NOT studying any culture or anything having to do with African Americans. Every culture has names that are less popular but this advocates discriminating Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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So what´s the reason for coming up with such names? Just to make sure your kid has a unique name? " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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I gotta grab my coat and keys and make my way down to the school. Will be on later..... Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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Condoleeza...
'nuff said. | |
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KoolEaze said: So what´s the reason for coming up with such names? Just to make sure your kid has a unique name?
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GetAwayFromMe said: StillGotIt said: Why would he even have a gripe against African Americans because of the names? Who the fuck has a grip against somebody over a name? I know plenty of people with these types of names who have MBA's and nothing but success, and I know people who are not so successful. This is just promoting hatred and discrimination against persons with African American names. If non whites dont sell out, then they will not be accepted and they deserve to be mistreated and judged?
Sell out to what? Having a name that isn't ridiculous? | |
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SCNDLS said: KoolEaze said: So what´s the reason for coming up with such names? Just to make sure your kid has a unique name?
I don´t quite get your reaction. " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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SCNDLS said: KoolEaze said: So what´s the reason for coming up with such names? Just to make sure your kid has a unique name?
Here´s a blog with some interesting thoughts on this topic, you might find it interesting, too: http://freakonomics.blogs...t/?apage=3 The readers´ comments, especially those from a Nigerian reader, are worth pondering upon. " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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StillGotIt said: KoolEaze said: I don´t think that the author is really having a problem with what you call African American names, he is merely pointing out that your name does indeed play a huge role in your career.Now whether this is fair or not is a whole different topic but unfortunately, it is a reality, and not just in the African-American communities.
Here in Germany, kids get discriminated against and ridiculed (and get stigmatized when looking for a job) if their name is Justin, Kevin, Jessica, Mandy etc. because these names have some sort of "ghettoish" connotation. Most of the names mentioned in the article with the link that I posted are not even remotely African to begin with...they´re just made up names who bear absolutely no resemblance to real African names, and why give your kids a pseudo East African or Central African sounding name when in fact the majority of African-Americans have Yoruba or Ibo or Haussa or Evi ancestry? If I were African-American and trying to give my kid an African sounding name,I´d much rather chose a name from those tribes I mentioned than some made up , pseudo African name which was inspired by some Ksuaehli name in East or Central Africa. African-Americans don´t stem from Tansania or Zimbabwe or Malawi, you can still tell by the way they look that most of them stem from places like Senegal,Ghana, Nigeria, Kameroon etc., hence the tribes I mentioned above. And don´t even get me started with all those ghettoish car brand names like Porsche or Ferrari or Mercedes, or those pseudo brand names, like some perfume or liqour names....sure, you can name your kids however you want but they have to live with those names for the rest of their lives and you know there are still a lot of prejudiced, racist people out there, why make it even more difficult for the kids? Besides, a lot of those names sound really ridiculous. A lot of African Americans are not trying to identify with Africa. Far too many people dont understand that Did I really say that they´re trying to "identify" with Africa? I think you have misinterpreted my post ( and my intentions). " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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StillGotIt said: I gotta grab my coat and keys and make my way down to the school. Will be on later.....
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StillGotIt said: What is even worse is that I am apparently the ONLY parent that had a problem with it. Seriously...if I would (and have in the past) stood up when other groups have been attacked this way. I'm like WTF is wrong with society today....I'm the only one making a big stink of it.....
yea....and that term "blacker names".....WTF WTF is that supposed to mean? I agree, does sound a bit ridiculous. | |
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StillGotIt said: Names shouldn't be a big deal. Shit, African Americans have been belittled for all types of shit....it was always something...diction, accent, skin tone. A people picked on, pulled apart, who seek an identity and then the identities they choose are too black? WTF.
Exactly, I know it's disgusting. Why can't people just let us "be?" | |
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KoolEaze said: I don´t think that the author is really having a problem with what you call African American names, he is merely pointing out that your name does indeed play a huge role in your career.Now whether this is fair or not is a whole different topic but unfortunately, it is a reality, and not just in the African-American communities.
Here in Germany, kids get discriminated against and ridiculed (and get stigmatized when looking for a job) if their name is Justin, Kevin, Jessica, Mandy etc. because these names have some sort of "ghettoish" connotation. Most of the names mentioned in the article with the link that I posted are not even remotely African to begin with...they´re just made up names who bear absolutely no resemblance to real African names, and why give your kids a pseudo East African or Central African sounding name when in fact the majority of African-Americans have Yoruba or Ibo or Haussa or Evi ancestry? If I were African-American and trying to give my kid an African sounding name,I´d much rather chose a name from those tribes I mentioned than some made up , pseudo African name which was inspired by some Ksuaehli name in East or Central Africa. African-Americans don´t stem from Tansania or Zimbabwe or Malawi, you can still tell by the way they look that most of them stem from places like Senegal,Ghana, Nigeria, Kameroon etc., hence the tribes I mentioned above. And don´t even get me started with all those ghettoish car brand names like Porsche or Ferrari or Mercedes, or those pseudo brand names, like some perfume or liqour names....sure, you can name your kids however you want but they have to live with those names for the rest of their lives and you know there are still a lot of prejudiced, racist people out there, why make it even more difficult for the kids? Besides, a lot of those names sound really ridiculous. In a nutshell, the article is trying to show that, on some deep,subconscious or psychological level, a name does indeed have a huge impact on our live and our choices ( partners ) . I look at it as an article about the effect of names. There are even studies that show how a name can shape the look of a kid...don´t know whether to take that one with a grain of salt though...some scientists think that a soft sounding name will have an effect on the facial features of a kid. [Edited 11/18/09 7:24am] Kooleaze, I get some of your points, , but no one should be discriminated or denied employment, housing, etc., because of a name that is considered "too ethnic" especially if it is not offensive to anyone. [Edited 11/18/09 8:08am] | |
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2elijah said: KoolEaze said: I don´t think that the author is really having a problem with what you call African American names, he is merely pointing out that your name does indeed play a huge role in your career.Now whether this is fair or not is a whole different topic but unfortunately, it is a reality, and not just in the African-American communities.
Here in Germany, kids get discriminated against and ridiculed (and get stigmatized when looking for a job) if their name is Justin, Kevin, Jessica, Mandy etc. because these names have some sort of "ghettoish" connotation. Most of the names mentioned in the article with the link that I posted are not even remotely African to begin with...they´re just made up names who bear absolutely no resemblance to real African names, and why give your kids a pseudo East African or Central African sounding name when in fact the majority of African-Americans have Yoruba or Ibo or Haussa or Evi ancestry? If I were African-American and trying to give my kid an African sounding name,I´d much rather chose a name from those tribes I mentioned than some made up , pseudo African name which was inspired by some Ksuaehli name in East or Central Africa. African-Americans don´t stem from Tansania or Zimbabwe or Malawi, you can still tell by the way they look that most of them stem from places like Senegal,Ghana, Nigeria, Kameroon etc., hence the tribes I mentioned above. And don´t even get me started with all those ghettoish car brand names like Porsche or Ferrari or Mercedes, or those pseudo brand names, like some perfume or liqour names....sure, you can name your kids however you want but they have to live with those names for the rest of their lives and you know there are still a lot of prejudiced, racist people out there, why make it even more difficult for the kids? Besides, a lot of those names sound really ridiculous. In a nutshell, the article is trying to show that, on some deep,subconscious or psychological level, a name does indeed have a huge impact on our live and our choices ( partners ) . I look at it as an article about the effect of names. There are even studies that show how a name can shape the look of a kid...don´t know whether to take that one with a grain of salt though...some scientists think that a soft sounding name will have an effect on the facial features of a kid. [Edited 11/18/09 7:24am] Kooleaze, I get some of your points, , but no one should be discriminated or denied employment, housing, etc., because of a name that is considered "too ethnic" especially if it is not offensive to anyone. [Edited 11/18/09 8:08am] Of course not ! I know what it´s like since I have a VERY "ethnic" sounding name that has always been some sort of conversation piece so,yes, I can relate to that. Also, it´s not always about "ethnic" sounding names, as I pointed out in my post above. Sometimes it is also a class thing, like with those ghettoish German names I mentioned. People are really biased in Germany as soon as someone says his name is Justin, Kevin,Jessica, Mandy, Enrico, or whatever. It is definitely not fair and very ugly but the phenomenon exists, and it is not limited to the African American communities.You probably have similarly ghettoish names in the socalled "trailer park, white trash" communities in the USA. Far be it from me to judge AfricanAmericans by their names, I was merely saying that psychologically, a lot of people will give you a strange reaction when you have a strange sounding name. This is very unfortunate, but true. I take it one step further and deliberately pronounce my name correctly instead of using a "Germanized" version like most of my Turkish peers would do.But I also understand that a lot of people have problems with my name. " I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?" | |
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KoolEaze said: 2elijah said: Kooleaze, I get some of your points, , but no one should be discriminated or denied employment, housing, etc., because of a name that is considered "too ethnic" especially if it is not offensive to anyone. [Edited 11/18/09 8:08am] Of course not ! I know what it´s like since I have a VERY "ethnic" sounding name that has always been some sort of conversation piece so,yes, I can relate to that. Also, it´s not always about "ethnic" sounding names, as I pointed out in my post above. Sometimes it is also a class thing, like with those ghettoish German names I mentioned. People are really biased in Germany as soon as someone says his name is Justin, Kevin,Jessica, Mandy, Enrico, or whatever. It is definitely not fair and very ugly but the phenomenon exists, and it is not limited to the African American communities.You probably have similarly ghettoish names in the socalled "trailer park, white trash" communities in the USA. Far be it from me to judge AfricanAmericans by their names, I was merely saying that psychologically, a lot of people will give you a strange reaction when you have a strange sounding name. This is very unfortunate, but true. I take it one step further and deliberately pronounce my name correctly instead of using a "Germanized" version like most of my Turkish peers would do.But I also understand that a lot of people have problems with my name. Point taken. | |
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StillGotIt said: Why would he even have a gripe against African Americans because of the names? Who the fuck has a grip against somebody over a name? I know plenty of people with these types of names who have MBA's and nothing but success, and I know people who are not so successful. This is just promoting hatred and discrimination against persons with African American names. If non whites dont sell out, then they will not be accepted and they deserve to be mistreated and judged?[
Absolutely. It's like someone saying their culture is better than yours. I think discriminating against someone over a name, which is not offensive to anyone, should not be permitted. It just opens the door to discriminatory practices, in employment, real estate market, etc.. [Edited 11/18/09 8:43am] | |
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When I was working at the private school, I had a Caucasian coworker who was pregnant with her first son. I remember asking her if she had picked out a name: She wanted to name him "Malcolm", but her mother told her "no" because it sounded "Black"!
I forgot what she did name him, but it wasn't Malcolm. I think that this whole thing is terrible. I hope there is some kind of resolution with the teacher.... "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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KoolEaze said: SCNDLS said: Here´s a blog with some interesting thoughts on this topic, you might find it interesting, too: http://freakonomics.blogs...t/?apage=3 The readers´ comments, especially those from a Nigerian reader, are worth pondering upon. Not quite, I found that specific comment to be filled with hatred towards the African American community. It is well known that many Africans have a dislike of the unique African American culture. They don't understand it, nor do they want to. Typical response from a Nigerian that feels a sense of superiority because she is from "the motherland". Here's the thing, ridiculous is merely a POV. You can not impose that on anyone else. No one should be judged by their name. I know a guy named Hei Yu (pronounced hey you ) . That to me is a good name in Vietman, his parents named him something that has no meaning in American society where he lives and it is considered ridiculous by many that are not in his culture. This is that same thing many modern mothers are facing in an ever changing culture that names its children "Apple", "Latifa", "Feather" and other names that people will ridicule them for. The name has value to the parent, and no one else should decide for anyone what name is valuable and what name is not. To do so is racist, and only racist people would judge someone by their name and not by the content of their character. BTW.... The long post following the post made by that ignorant ass Nigerian (pen-named "sugar belly" )is the one that is worth the read and the one that is truly worth pondering upon written by Colum Paget . added name of respondees edit [Edited 11/18/09 9:06am] | |
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