. . . killed someone in self defense in a drug deal that went bad at the age of 19???

If they've done their time and are living a clean life would you seriously give this person a chance???
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SCNDLS said:

What have you got yourself into?

Shawnt27 said:

Them fools shoulda had my muthafuckin' money!

But for real ...

I found out a friend is dating a dude with a record and it was murder case from 10 years ago, Dude only got 6 years because it was self defense. I met him a few times and he's the most soft spoken, polite person EVER so I was shocked like a mug when she told me. So, I was wondering if I could be that open-minded/forgiving.

Would you date a chick that killed someone in self defense?

you... are fishin' in the wrong waters...

Shawnt27 said:

That's exactly what I thought.

Anyway, I think if I were truly interested in them, I would try to get to know the person better before I officially went about dating them.

That's a sticky situation
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RenHoek said:

It.ain't.me!!!

Answer the durn querstion!

Put yourself in this person's place, what else could you have done in the same situation?

It was self defense, you said it. Empathise with him/her.
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One of my dating prerequisites; parole card.

PurpleRighteous1 said:

I know right, not to mention he a fine ass muhfugga. But 6 years on the yard tends to do that to you.

Gurl, I just don't KNOW!

SCNDLS said:

"fixed" it for ya...

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

He ain't on parole cuz he did his full "bid." So he's free and clear for the last 4 years. You know my issue is that his job situation is shakier than a bitch! That shit makes my dry up QUICK!

SCNDLS said:

What else does six years on the yard tend to do to a brotha?

I guess it's tough to say without being in the situation. I can see it going either way. I don't see myself having much in common with someone who went through that, but then again, if it's that far in their past and it was indeed self defense and such then it shouldn't really matter.

as long as he is past the age of 30
didn't kill his baby momma for stealing his tylenol
didn't use any of the following weapons: machete, uzi, glock 9, nail gun
and didn't just get outta jail

oh...and he should be good looking but not so much so that your gut tells you he paid his dues in prison whilst on his knees. and he better not be missing any teeth either!


l'amour
l'amour

SCNDLS said:

Depends on the situation. If she killed someone who was attempting to harm/rape her, then I would have no problem dating her. A drug deal gone wrong though? Nope.

sextonseven said:

You know I asked her about that shit. His response was that he spent the time fighting and that once dudes know you can fight and if you join a gang you might not get got. My best friend was a parole officer for over 10 years and he said the same thing.

CarrieMpls said:

Agreed. Dude is VERY articulate and except for the 3/4 sleeve of tats (which are usually covered up) is pretty clean cut, beautiful teeth too. You would never think criminal, much less killer. Scary to think the secrets people are walking around with.

SCNDLS said:

well then he sho nuff betta have some stab wounds, scars, scratches or sumthin'. otherwise I'd consider him got... but with provisions.

DesireeNevermind said:

Girl, love don't conquer all.

But he's gorgeous, full set o' teeth, over 30, been out 4 years, and claims he didn't get got in the pen

Mayne, I still don't know what to say. I was like ummmm, is shit that bad or is he slangin' some major pipe???

SCNDLS said:

So some Oz-type history in men is a turn-off, correct?

DesireeNevermind said:

I'll pass that advice along

Shawnt27 said:

In one way I get what you're saying, but in another, did you ever do anything that could have got you into trouble when you were a teenager? I know I did.
If I was dating someone and they told me they did or dealt drugs briefly as a teenager, I wouldn't think anything of it as long as I know that's far in their past...

Self defense is self defense no matter the circumstances.

SCNDLS said:

I'm sure that "claim" has been made many times by many people.

SCNDLS said:

and there it is.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah, a lot of dumb shit happens at 19 and per my girl, he was in college at the time and deal drugs literally for a few months when this happenend. Is it fair to hold anyone accountable for poor judgment at 19?

Shawnt27 said:

That's my idea of self defense

MarySharon said:

Someone coming to your home to shoot you is self-defense also which is what happened in this case. The dude apparently owed him money and came to HIS house to rob him or sumthin and shot at him first, hence why he only got 6 years. Lawd, this all a hot ass mess

how long was he in for?

what kind of lawyer did he have that they couldn't use his college status an possible inexperience as a drug dealer to work in his favor?

was this his first and only time in the pen?


this is need to know info.

DesireeNevermind said:

Chile you know I'm Oprah and was interrogating her ass. Surprisingly, she had answers for everything which tells me he was pretty open with her about it.

This was his first and only offense of any kind, not even a speeding ticket before. He had EXCELLENT lawyers if he got only 6 years from a jury in TEXAS for killing someone in a drug deal.

SCNDLS said:

if he black then sho nuff that was a good deal...especially for texas.


damn, i guess i better not turn my nose up at them fools hanging at the county courthouse.

on second thought....hell nah. if you did your time then you dont need none of mine.