my 14 year old niece has just confided in me that her mother and boyfriend are allegedly smoking crack cocaine. we both own 20% of the house we share (my 2 brothers and other sister own equal shares as well). this bum she's in love with is here all the time.

so my questions are:

1. if i get a legal affidavit from 1 of my siblings giving me the authority to act on their behalf, can i legally ban this mf from my house even if she wants him there?

2. if i can't get that done, is there a legal course of action to take?


okay...did my own investigating. it appears dumdum is smoking weed, nothing heavier than that. now my problem is that is she smoking so much that she's spending money that she doesn't have on it? besides, it's such a horrible example to have a 13 year old confide in me about her mother's behavior. i want to say something, but i don't want to betray my niece's confidence.
[Edited 11/19/09 5:48am]

hmmm, well I don't know if you want folk going to jail, but you could try to catch them in the act and tape it and try blackmail

or you can make him pay rent, that usually makes deadbeats run when you demand money...

I can't think legally what you can do.

call the police and let them sort him out proper... Sorry to hear this is happening to you!
[Edited 11/18/09 16:41pm]

with all these bs that parents doing to their kids lately, i'm concerned my nieces and nephew gonna get caught up in their dumbfuckery. she gave this numbfuck her key to the house like i don't have thousands of dollars worth of shit up in here

change the locks, don't give her a key because she obviously has a drug problem. or call the cops tell them you will keep the kids or have a family meeting and discuss what to do about your sister and the kids.

Another vote for call the cops.

i just chatted with my brother out if state--if it turns out o be true, he will grant me the legal authority to act on his behalf and ban this mf from the house

Fury said:

there could be legal implications, because of the fact that you know a crime is being committed on your property, and not doing anything about it. You say that you want to throw "him" out yet originally you said the girls mom and the bf are doing it. you can't protect the mom...shouldnt. she needs help and wont get it if you shelter her. they could burn the house down if they smoke and fall asleep. bye bye house. i suggest you move quickly, rather than slowly on this Fury, for so many reasons

BlackAdder7 said:

well hopefully if we can get this mf out of the picture she can straighten her ass out. trying to put her out is the last and worst option


my mom must be rolling in her grave

Fury, if you own part of the house that means you are a resident there. Get a restraining order againgst his as and tell the sis you will kick her ass out if you find the bf there again. Also, you may have to get your nieces and nephew because you could be held liable for whatever is going on in the house if the cops show up. Family services hears what is going on and the kids will be gone. Talk to the sis and if she does not listen, get the kids and kick her out too. But tell the bf and sis what the fuck is up and you are not having it! I will pray for you sweety. Put foot to ass I always say!

after talking to my niece again, there's a chaance this could be weed and not crack. but it could be weed laced with something. she is always inexplicably broke for somebody with no car and no mortgage. i'll know more tomorrow when i go snooping. my niece TOLD ME WHERE WHERE TO FIND WHATEVER SHE IS SMOKING

Question, Fury: I know you and your siblings all have equal shares of the house, but who all currently lives there... not just stores personal belongings there, but actually lives there? And is there a drawn-up tenancy agreement between the adult occupant(s) and the rest of you as owners?
[Edited 11/18/09 21:09pm]

RenHoek said:

I'm sorry to hear this.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

This action here has my vote. If they are smoking shit and the cops come in, all of you guys could have some serious problems. Get a restraining order and if she has a problem, she has to go. She has made a decision to mess up her life. Your job is to protect the kids and the property you own. Also, you should know that if she is smoking crack, you CANNOT just get her help...she has to want it.