How do you feel when you receive it? Is it better to just accept it or to defend your position?

Personally it makes me feel like a school kid in the principal's office and I hate that feeling

BlackAdder7 said:

i hate it, but you just move on.

BlackAdder7 said:

There is this one 24 yo woman that worked in the office and she would cry every time something critical came up in a meeting.

It depends on what it is and how it's presented, but generally speaking it's an opportunity to improve.



If I don't agree I suppose I can get a bit defensive, but I've learned over the years that it's best not to show that. You can argue why your way is better but accept defeat graciously if the boss isn't budging.

CarrieMpls said:

You know? The last time I was given an "opportunity to improve", I ended the meeting by thanking my boss, and after that we were both relieved! Like, literally by me not getting my back up, it made us both exhale and the morning carried on very smoothly.

Cinnie said:

Rule one in workforce NO crying on the job.

Cinnie said:

Exactly! Bosses don't like to give bad feedback any more than you like to get it (unless they're really an asshole, but those people are few and far between). It makes it easier on everyone if you accept the feedback, thank them and move on.

Depending on the situation: I see constructive criticism as a great opportunity to learn something. I have a pretty thick skin being criticized really doesn't bother me, it's nothing personal. Tho' it's been a while since I've had a boss.

Lately I find myself getting better and better with receiving criticism. When I was younger I used to get all defensive. But now - even when I get no criticism at all and it's all positive feedback- I insist that they point out the weaker aspects. I rather have them being all honest than too polite.

My boss is a total nut. She just wants to be liked by everyone. So when I receive criticism from her (which I only receive when something occurs that will possibly make her look bad in any way) I just smile, nod, assure her that she is being totally reasonable, and thank her.

BlackAdder7 said:

UGH, my boss never did at my first job, but the senior art director used to re-do some of my work
Then she left and suddenly magazines I laid out were the highest selling issues



for a long time my confidence was completely absent thanks to her, it was my first job and I seriously wondered if I could do this. I couldn't imagine doing any other job, so it was a tough time!!

TD3 said:

Some people can't seem to cope with any lil' pressure though,,,,,I have a co-worker who's a crying mess everytime she gets defensive.

And to answer the thread's ?uestion - Accept it and move on, the smartest thing considering the recent circumstances.

if i deserved the criticism, i'll gladly take it. if i didn't, i'll just say ok and move on as i have no patience for pointless arguing. unless it was something really serious.

My boss has no problems doing it with me, she knows I am fine with it.
Im open minded and always seeking criticism anyway.
I want to know what people really think and why.
Why says all, if you should pay full attention to the criticism.
Usually my gut instinct says it all before anyone else has anything to say anyway.

Cuddles said:

brilliant, thanks

Harlepolis said:

me too or we do too. we always have to tip toe around her. and if she isnt the first person notified about things she thinks its as some sort of conspiracy. my boss is sick of it. she has no control over this worker because she has to compromise just to try and not make the least little ripple in the water, because this worker will turn it into what i call a therapy session. its at least a weekly thing and exhausting. it helps none that her boss and everyone else in the place is 20 to 30 years younger than this worker-the only salaried employee in a business that is just barely treading water in this economy, husband recently left her, spastastic control freak who cant control herself, listens to no one, crys at the drop of hat when she doesnt get her way. She can be funny and charming. but man it can do a 180 at the drop of a dime.