My homeboy just broke up with his girl of a year and a half cause he just couldn't deal with the lack of sex and intimacy in their relationship.

She was 31 and he is 26 and before she met him, after years of sleeping with guys she was in a relationship with, she decided to listen to the advice of one of her church members and stop having sex with men altogether and re-virginize herself. This same church women wrote a book and holds seminars monthly entitled:



Here are some excerpts from this book:

There are 3 types of unmarried women, according to Pembleton. The single woman who is living her life for herself, the "married" unmarried woman who gives her boyfriends all the benefits of marriage without the commitment, and the "wife-in-waiting" who is ready to be a wife, but waiting until the actual marriage to act like one.

The single, unmarried woman lives her life the way she wants to. Any man she meets must fit himself into her life.

"This mindset preserves her life as a single woman and it works to keep her life where it should be - a life that fulfills her God-given destiny," she said.

The unmarried "married" woman acts as though she is married, but without the commitment. She washes his clothes, cooks his meals and may even engage in pre-marital sex because she loves him and wants to give him everything he "needs."

"She bases her life choices on what's important to him and his goals," she said.

The "wife-in-waiting" has a life of her own, but is flexible enough to meet her future husband partway in order to build a life together. She is willing to make huge adjustments in her life, but only for the benefit of a marriage license. It is the "wife-in-waiting" that a woman looking for a good Christian marriage should strive to be.

"A wife-in-waiting may wait a little longer for her husband and be frustrated with how
many men will try to challenge her standards," she said. "But when she meets a man who wants to be a husband to her, she'll have the best chance of having a happy marriage. And enjoying being a wife to one man, the man she'll prayerfully share the rest of her life with."

Pembleton believes that it is not enough to have the right mind-set to have a happy marriage; you must also make sure you choose a man who is ready to do the work of being a husband. It is important to identify the qualities we are looking for in a husband, not just discount men because of the negative aspects we find in them.

"Being able to identify the Godly character in a man is your strongest tool for recognizing the man the Lord has sent you," she said.

It is important, according to Pembleton, to trust in the Lord that he will bring the right person into your life. It is then up to you to recognize him.

Why do women adhere to advice like this so easily and spend money and devote time to this stuff which never seems to work?

I tend to ignore people who claim to be Godly because they are fucking up in some other part of their lives. The judging stuff needs to stop.

I dunno. If someone wants to give you advice in general, I think if their relationship is not perfect, they might wanna STFU.

I totally stopped listening to church women.
To be blunt, this bitch who called herself a pastor and actually was a prominent pastor of an prestigious Baptist church in Boston counseled me and told me this:

"God may not have marriage in your future, you may want to just go into ministry and stay single. Not all women are meant to be married."

Fucking bitch, she said that for a few reasons...
1. I have 3 children when I joined that church.
2. I was not dating a church member.
3. Her husband was dying of cancer at the time and she was miserable, even told me that marriage is hard and she was in so much pain.


To me, she told me what she told me because of her personal views and what she was going through at the time.
It was painful for me to hear that God would never want me to be happy and in love.

No, you don't have to be in love to be happy, but I want to experience my life with someone special. I will not give up on that search, everyone deserves to be full filled in that way.
Billions of fuckin' people on this earth and that MF'er told me that NO ONE would love me??? Bitch please.

The church gives perfectly good women a false sense of desperation and allows many women to marry beneath them simply because your worth is measured by a standard that should not be in place at any church.

If you are a single mom, overweight, too dark skinned, too unpopular, don't cook, and do not want a man that has one foot in a half-way house that is homeless looking for a place to live or a "recovered homosexual" or some other BS you are considered "un-marry-able" in the self-righteous eyes of the church.

For my sanity, I bought several dildos and left that God forsaken church, and reclaimed my sanity. I am not married yet, but I will not marry some of those messed up men in that church. Oh hell no! Amuthafuckin'men!

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purplemansionFL said:

This is just beyond any words, fucking ridiculous,..