PunkMistress said:

mine could hardly go 2 weeks without me, it was embarrassing, him pawing me at the airport already when I picked him up

PunkMistress said:

Nah, not really taking it personal.

ZombieKitten said:

That's awesome!

I hope nobody thinks I'm saying people in long-term relationships aren't still horny for each other. Nothing could be further from the truth. I'm just defending what I see as a harmless aspect of normal men.

ZombieKitten said:

that should be a good thing...why the ?

BobGeorge909 said:

I had my three kids in tow, I was totally stressed out about losing them in the crowd, just wrong place wrong time for me

BobGeorge909 said:

Okay, I shouldn't posted to this dumb ass thread in the first place.

Vendetta1 said:

Stop taking this shit so personal!



Seriously though. I'm not trying to be mean. But it seems like you're taking to heart things that are not meant to make you feel bad.

PunkMistress said:

i think it's hard not to sometimes. i once had an ex excitedly comment on the hotness of a statuesque blonde model type to me, and half of me was annoyed but the other half thought 'eh, men, at least he's not trying to hide it'

evenstar3 said:

I totally get that. I have to fight my own jealous insecurities - I just try to be aware that they are jealous insecurities. I think we sometimes allow it to make us feel like somehow we aren't enough - as if only we were hotter, or thinner, or sexier, he wouldn't look at that girl that way. And it isn't true!

At the same time, you have every right to let your partner know what makes you feel uncomfortable and what things he should keep to his goddamn self. That's just decency!

PunkMistress said:

I think you're about spot on. I mean, if you're in a long-term relationship and you're attracted to your partner then hopefully you'll have that lust for them and as far as fantasies you can act them out together, but not all of them. Sometimes they're just very fleeting, for a start, and no matter how much he loves his woman a guy's going to be attracted to someone or something sometime that isn't to do with his wife and never could be. I could see a hot Air Asia stewardess and get to thinking. That's no stretch so with a bit of clothes shopping and a willing wife... but see I like women shorter than me, but if Evenstar3 crosses my mind for a dirty second my wife ain't never going to be 6 ft tall and that's cool.

Fauxie said:

Right!

PunkMistress said:

The main issue I had in that situation was that if I'd expressed similar sentiments about a man it would've caused problems. Ah well. I really find jealousy a total waste of time in relationships now.

evenstar3 said:

There's definitely a disparity there, I think, as far as the expectations of men and women. Men are dogs, always horny, always checking women out, can't help it etc. so to some extent get an eye roll and a pass.

evenstar3 said:

See, that's uncool.

Fauxie said:

why the hell are men's egos so fragile they couldn't accept their woman appreciating another man aesthetically

ZombieKitten said:

Look over this thread; women are just as fragile.

PunkMistress said:

but which women are actually saying it out loud?! I'm only commenting on how evenstar's guy didn't think twice about voicing it, yet she feels she couldn't get away with similar comment?

or did I read that wrong

I have to point out nice boobs to the master, he's always missing it

Fauxie said:

Yup, and if a woman openly expresses having that sort of sex drive/feeling she's thought of as a whore.

PunkMistress said:

Actually up until Bob's last comment to me, I wasn't taking any of this seriously. I just know that all men are not the same and even if they were, I'd have no problem with a man fantasizing about another woman. Hell, I fantasize about women and I'm not so insecure that a man doing it bothers me.

ZombieKitten said:

No, you read it right.

evenstar3 said:

but it's the whore thing, not the ego thing

unless they invented the whore thing to save face when their lady window-shops?
like if you think about sex (god forbid) with somebody else (SLUT!!!!!) because obviously if a woman doesn't just have eyes for you, you are not man enough, and that's OUCH, so better she just be a dirty whore instead, easier!!

ZombieKitten said:

Don't ask me. It's not something I really think about. My wife can find attractive whomever she finds attractive. How could she not?

Vendetta1 said:

Fauxie said:

And those last four words are all I'm trying to say, about men and women.

It is what it is, motherfuckers!

evenstar3 said:

And it's a shame. I'm not talking about making your partner really uncomfortable or doing it to the point of chipping away at even the strongest self-esteem, but having to repress yourself like that? I know I couldn't live that way. It's simply not fair on women in that case.

I've yet to see a guy in the street that makes me look twice

ZombieKitten said:

How about a robot?

Fauxie said:

they ALL catch my eye

ZombieKitten said:

i see them all the time! in fact, even if they aren't all that i'll do it anyway

ZombieKitten said: