How do you handle rejection???

you spent the night at your best buddies house...you come home and you are ready for your night with the honey...but, she aint having it to the point she goes onna rant about where you've spent all your time and money and that she doesn't want to feel like yet another booty call...whatcha gonna do???

myfavorite said:

with a pick axe!!

As for the case presented, I don't really know what you're talking about.


As for me personally when it comes to men and relationships I take it extremely poorly. I don't like it one bit. So much so it plays a factor into why I don't date at all.

obviously she doesn't feel like she's much of a priority in his life

Not very well at all.

Rejection is horrible.

I get angry as hell, but I don't fight him or hold on, I just use that anger to propel me to move on... NEXT!

i take it ok.

i'm used to it.

whistle said:

You're just a ray of sunshine, aren't you?

JustErin said:

it's all false modesty.

If you constantly tell yourself that he doesn't really like you that much anyway, you won't feel so bad when you're rejected...trust me

whistle said:

Hot.

thekidsgirl said:

I walk up to hot guys and tell them I don't care if they think I'm heinous that I wanted to say I thought they were hot! You can't let em throw ya

u should not care to the point where it bothers u....i don't

thekidsgirl said:

oh man that's awful!

but yeah, in most areas of my life my expectations are so low I'm rarely disppointed. My friend is always going around CONSTANTLY being disappointed by EVERYTHING!!!! she exhausts me so much, so highly strung and on the verge of tears most of the time

ZombieKitten said:

I feel for your friend I used to be optimistic too, but when you find that it just leaves you let down all the time, maybe it's time to stop looking on the bright side

I don't take it well one bit. In fact, it always seems that whenever I want someone, I can't have him/her, and whenever someone wants me, I'm not interested in that person. I can't win.

I also gotta say something that pisses me the hell off: If you don't like me... if you're not interested in me as anything other than a friend... DON'T BEAT AROUND THE BUSH. Tell me the truth, for god's sake. I appreciate that far more than a liar, and I take it better, believe it or not. Guys have always given me that excuse "I just didn't want to hurt your feelings", and it really just backfired on them because given my knowledge that they were either being dishonest and leaving me hanging on a string, it hurt me even more than the truth would.
[Edited 10/30/09 19:20pm]

thekidsgirl said:

Leo hates me for always doing the worst case scenarios bizzo on him for EVERYTHING

I analyse and overanalyse "could I cope if THIS happened and it doesn't go as planned?"

YET

when things go bad, I'm the strong one, the non-panicking one at the scene of the emergency

PROBABLY because I DID sit there thinking - tic bite? croup? stab wound to the leg, missed out on our dream house at the auction, visiting dying friend in the hospital, how frail our lives are! And Valerie said to me on Tuesday "I like your driving so much better than Leo's"

Q: Men..(and women) ..how do you handle rejection?


A: With chocolate, wine and tears

My last boyf. left me for one of my friends younger sisters (just legal) ...now on that occasion I would have liked to have handled it with punching him in the face!

Not sure I've ever been rejected. Wait, once in primary school when I was about 9. I've never asked a girl out on a date, never asked her to a prom or anything like that. I asked my wife to spend her life with me and she said yes and that was that. She doesn't withhold sex if she's pissed either. Well, in theory she could try.

good lords...

Like everything else in life
Rejection can be good in moderation
It keeps things real
You just learn to deal with it and move on

ok, so what if the guy gets angry, cause he knows you are angry about the time he spent at his buddies house and he starts to pick a fight!!!!!



is that abuse???

myfavorite said:

Having emotions (like anger) isn't abuse. Arguing isn't abuse. Verbally or physically assaulting you as a consequence of that emotion is.

myfavorite said:

In the scenario you've laid out, I suggest you handle it with jewelry - with a "better behavior" chaser.

thekidsgirl said:

Never try to be counselor

I deleted my original post because I completely misread the topic!

I don't like being rejected in that way either. It makes a girl feel insecure.

But sometimes... well I'm not in the mood either.

It happens...
[Edited 11/1/09 6:07am]

whistle said:

Me too.

Alej said:

Me three. And I don't take it well, either. Usually I'd get drunk but this time I like her so much and I'm scared of the mood I'd get in when I drink. Had that last weekend and it wasn't nice. Not one bit.

And I'm like a junkie, I try to get every short conversation or glimpse of her I can get. Thankfully she works where I work.

And I write songs, lyrics. Doesn't help one bit but it's just what I do.

CarrieMpls said: