Okay....what the fuck is up with all the jealousy in this world? I am soooo sick of all the jeolous people who just hate for nothing....WTF!!!

Okay...I have an inlaw who has a child one year older than my own. She literally always commented about how I was "lucky" because my child had long hair, was smart etc. The bitch she got angry (at me) when people around us were complimentary to my child. Needless to say, the bitch's daughter picked up her attitude and started doing shit to my daughter and I was like fuck that....and ended the play time they had. Anyway, my child is now a minor celebrity, and just so I wouldn't leave the bitch in law out, I shared a front page article that was literally about my child with the family. It was my daughters pic, her words, an interview all about her. Why did this bitch, turn around and send me an artcle and about her hudsband from months ago claiming it was written about him? (Mind you...it was a post on his job's website, his picture was there (he was standing in a group) but the article was about an event, not about him. It was just an event photo. And why does this piss me off? (Cuz inside I secretly want to drop kick her ass....)

If there is anybody who thinks like this.....humor me please.....I'm trying to understand jealousy[b]

I also want to add that I dont brag.....nor does my daughter. She's just a middle school girl.

StillGotIt said:

don't u hate peeps like that! esp if those jealous fuckers r related to ur ass ( im venting not ur ass hon) ! can't stand that fuckin shit! im in my 20's man do not need that shit.


everytime ur just talking they feel like ur bragging, and thus starts the childhood game of i got this, oh really well i got this and this.

id love to know what she did to get an interview very very cool!
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LOL missmad! Seriously...I know that nonfamily folks get jealous (and I dont give them the time of day) but a family member is a million times worse.

(BTW...my girl she is on a TV show...


(sorry...had to cut it...felt like it was too specific...)
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that totally sucks when someone cant be happy for a childs acheivements...
even worse when its family

prb said:

thanks prb.....it kills me to see this stuff...honestly it hurts my heart.....and then after I'm done feeling hurt I get so angry....who hates on a child?

With everything else my child has achieved, I have muffled it so that it wouldn't create problems both in school and in the family. I sat my girl down the other day and basically told her I am done doing that. I actually even muffled a press release from her last school. I was worried about the backlash my girl would get. There was even a student hating on her while she sang the solo during graduation....folks are breeding jealous children.

Anyway, if I gave you examples of this inlaw's behavior over the years you will ask why I didn't just beat the hell out of the inlaw and get it over with...I could write a book.

StillGotIt said:

you should start a book...your daughter might be able to use it in her memoirs if she goes on to bigger things,

it sounds like you are doing a brilliant job, keeping your daughter grounded,
we hear so many horror stories of stars/celebrities with overbearing stage moms.

Wow...memoirs.....I will try to do that. Its a great idea. Whether she does somethng bigger or not, it will give her a look at herself (and her brother) from my perspective. Thanks...I like that idea...its all warm and fuzzy....for a second I almost forgot that I feel like punching the inlaw right now.....

StillGotIt said:

My work here is done

i love warm and fuzzy
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I'm not sure whether this counts but I used to have a friend that would speak down to me and criticize anything that I was proud of and enjoyed... I did come to a realisation after awhile and am no longer friends with her. Obviously as a family member you can't so I feel for yer... the thing is humouring them (to keep the peace) just makes it worse doesn't it . Hopefully the woman will grow up!

You might just have to let her go. Do not engage "Negative Nellies"...in the end, you're just giving them the attention they crave. We are are all imperfect souls who cry out with something inside of us to feel heard, and to some degree to feel or be valued and understood. However, many of us are still stuck in the realm of "negative attention is better than no attention at all", and often act that premise out to the detriment of others as well as ourselves...just to feel for one small moment that we are one voice being head out of the 6 billion in the world...but that being said...her need to feel heard in a negative fashion is not your problem. Until she gets her mind right, she has to be let go. She can't be who you need her to be and vice versa, so you can pretty much end the realationship beyond "hello, good bye, good luck, and do your best "

StillGotIt said:

When you give your energy to the haters, they win. Just laugh at this shit.

Ottensen said:

Good stuff, Ottie.

Might I add that it is perfectly okay for your daughter to have this shine. Hell, if it were me, I'd be bragging about her. Make 'em madder.

everytime i find a new boyfriend, i get shyt from folks...hard to say...


but with kids in the family, its sooooo complicated sometimes.

Vendetta1 said:

Absolutely. This is how I live my life and I can honestly say it's quite stress free.

StillGotIt said:

instead of releasing your inner anger at your inlaw on a thread online, invite her out to tea and speak calmly and civilly. Tell her how her behaviour makes you feel, and how others see her when she acts that way. Then go to your house of worship and thank your higher power that you've been blessed with what you have.

BlackAdder7 said:

You're such a nice guy.

But I disagree with everything you said.

Once she lets this person know face to face, it will only make things worse. It stands the chance to escalate because the in-law will know her bad behavior is irking StillGotIt.

JaneyPoos said:

LOl...I wish you were right.....she's like 37 years old! Just friggin ignorant...

I am glad that so many of you gave so much feedback. I think this individual is just a hopeless case.

At first I used to ignore things (but because she was targeting my girl and got her daughter doing it...I couldn't ignore something that was hurtful to my child)

I would ask her why she said things sometimes, and she was fucking clueless.

then one day I calmly sat down with her and very diplomatically told her I hate her and I wish she would shrivel up and dissappear....(okay...that isn't exactly what I told her, I pointed out her actions and told her that she seems to have a problem and asked that she reveal what the hell her mental instability is.)

Since she no longer lives nearby and because she does this shit. To this point, I have remained blameless, not wanting to fan the flames.

However, since she is such a bitch, I think I'm just gonna brag just to irritate her since my girls' success alone (without my talking about it) is irritating. What have I to lose? I'm gonna have to work on it...I think in order for it to be considered bragging, you must talk about something incessanty?

oh....i thought this thread was dedicated to all the girls jealous of Shelbey

I'm scared I might be one of the individuals U're speaking of. I don't take any action on my thought, but I still have them> I don'thave any kids myself...but my cousins have them, friends have them... Well they'll tell me, "My kid is SOOOOO smart!" I think to myself...your kid is 9...she can say her alphabets and multiply 10 and 10 and know the capitol of Louisiana is Baton ROuge...THEY"RE 9 fro christs sake! If that impresses U, it's more of a statement about you than your kid.


My aunt, she's like 60 sumin...she always...ALWAYS spouts "I was 2nd in my class!" Now she grew up, and still lives in a small town. One time, right after she said that, I replied with, "Out of how many?"



I know! I know! I'm an asshole!
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Vendetta1 said:

JustErin said:

I agree with the ladies.
And would add that just as your "bitch"-in-law's daughter is picking up her vibes, so will yours and come up to stress (outwardly or in) about dumb shit that really should have no impact in her life.

IMO the best example to set for her is to brush this sort of thing off without giving it the slightest importance.

When you give your energy to the haters, they win. Just laugh at this shit


damn I'm all laughed out!

johnart said:

I did brush things off as much as possible--but after a while you get sick of your kid feeling hurt because of the meaness. You get sick of the blatent attempts to hurt your kid, even though you remove her as much as possible from the bitch---brushing off doesn't always work. Its time to knock her out....

BobGeorge909 said:

If you ever decide to have or raise children, you will understand the joy you feel when a child accomplishes soemthing. When they start walking (and yes, obviously, 99% of the other children in their age group can walk at some point) but its about celebrating each child, individually, even if you have 10, you celebrate their first steps. If you have children, that will probably alter that part of your personality. I celebrated the first steps of the children around me, every child's accomplishments are amazing to me. An adult who keeps telling you the same bragging story over and over is a little different.

There is a bigger issue at hand here -- the difficulty of success. I grew up learning to hide my smarts and talents because it would threaten everybody around me (even my dad got jealous!). I had a fear of losing love and friendships if I were too talented or successful. Well, you know what? That fear is based on reality and it's quite sad. Hopefully, you and your daughter will know to surround yourself with people who support you as much as possible. Remove the naysayers from your life!


Create a wide distance between you and this relative. Do not let her in, don't give any information. Trying to talk to her or getting mad at her only empowers her involvement. Distance yourself so that she'll be unable to engage with it. (maybe easier said than done? but that's what I would do)

heartbeatocean said:

I love your post.....you truly understand what is going on from a personal perspective. This is her EXACT issue. She has been downplaying things, and then when people find out, they start acting all funny. This has happened to her for her entire life. It saddens me that she does not feel free enough to just be happy and not worry so much about others reactions.

Vendetta1 said:

I AGREE!

Which is where the "mental block" come in you'd be surprised at how effective it is.

My life has been smooth sailing eversince since I tried it on a couple of unwanted family members.

Life is too short to give them the satisfaction they seek.

StillGotIt said:

It's been the story of my life, and I've paid a pretty big price for it. This may sound weird to some, but that's why I practically worship Madonna. She's been hated all her life (and ostracized in her young life) by people who can't tolerate an outspoken successful superstar. Yet she does it anyway and that makes me really happy. I could never muster that level of chutzpah.