BoOTyLiCioUs said:

I can as well, actually I've been doing that with someone else off and on for even longer....I'm just happen to be emotionally attached to this crush. Wish I wasn't.

JustErin said:

I try but I can't empathise with this. Not saying it's bad, I just don't know how you do it. To me it would feel like complication, but I guess the point is it's the opposite in fact? It's casual and fun? The emotional attachment in this case aside, that is.

ultrablue said:

You got married mad young though. My personal perspective on romance definitely shifted (drifted?) after years of being single.

Someone post a Morrissey Youtube.

ultrablue said:

It's easy and practical actually. I'm a busy person between work and my son I don't really get out all that much...but if I want some, I just make a late night call - and there is no bs that comes with it. It's been with the same dude for years and years and I know him very, very well...we found out that we have great sexual chemistry one drunken night and just went with that...we used to hang out as friends as well but it hasn't been that way for a few years now. I'm just not interested in being with him romantically nor is he interested in being with me...but the sex is good. To be honest, I don't even think we like each other all that much. He's told me more than once that he thinks I'm "temperamental".

But this other dude....

JustErin said:

Cinnie said:

Well, I got married at 25/26 (paper/wedding), but yeah, I did settle pretty young (at 20). The casual thing, like a threesome, I get, but I have to be still firmly IN a relationship if you get what I mean. An off-shoot from the steady relationship. Being long-term not desperately looking kind of single, dating casually, not one person at a time and having the booty call setup going on. I don't think I could handle that.

ultrablue said:

Right. Well, basically the only difference is that your long term partner is a fleshlight, and you're seeing JustErin (or whoever) on the side.

JustErin said:

Now, some of that I can empathize with. Many times over the years my wife and I couldn't stand each other. The sex was great. There was always a LOT of love, of course. This last year we've clicked in every way, are totally on the same page (through growing up, probably) but it's not losing that spark sexually as well that's the challenge, when you're best buds as well as husband and wife. Sometimes I miss grudge fucks and make-up sex but we're trying to be creative.

I like you JustErin.

ultrablue said:

Ya, I can definitely see people not liking you...so makes sense.

Cinnie said:

And I like you....you're oh so close to being my facebook friend. You'd be the only one on there that I've never actually met and you'd have a first hand look right into my personal life and many that are in it.

JustErin said:

Only when they really get to know me. You must be on the fast track or something.

JustErin said:

If you ever make it, Cinnie, remember us mere 'org-wise' folks down below.

ultrablue said:

I will be ditching you like those kids in the sandbox when I got invited to light a cigarette.

Cinnie said:

We'd all do the same.

but anyway, I left last nite and he walked me to my car....i didn't even ask him to....he volunteered to. But he gave me a hug and I thought about giving him a kiss but I think I need to wait a bit. I've known him for a long time. should i let him make the move or I?

JustErin said:

dude, it totally ruins the mystique...

BoOTyLiCioUs said:

"but anyway"

You should totally make the move. I would.

roodboi said:

I'm scared to let people in.

"but anyway"

If there's one thing we orgers know it's thread jacking.

ultrablue said:

I totally posted the same response.

JustErin said:

!!!

JustErin said:

i dunno...it's kinda weird between me and him. We are casual friends and one of ladies I work with told him that I thought he was cute. then he tried to talk to me, I turned him down...he kept on tryin to talk to me...finally gave him my number. We were gonna hang out but plans fell through. then he had a gf...broke up and not with him anymore. started talkin to him again...asked me to hang out. I dunno like we are casual friends but he knows I have a crush on him. I remember when i turned him down the first time, i said we could be friends and he didn't want that. it's like we are friends but more...physical attraction there.

BoOTyLiCioUs said:

Just have sex and get it over with.

JustErin said:

Basically!

JustErin said:

nope, I believe in getting into a relationship before having sex. sex is important to me.

BoOTyLiCioUs said:

It is to me too! so important that I won't get into a relationship with someone if the sex is not good. It's the reverse for me.

JustErin said:

well i'll tease but not let him any until he asks me to be his gurl....if that doesn't happen, oh well and aleast i will not be emotionally attached.