Got beatings with- Shoes (platform w/ wooden 4" heel), hangers (metal), belts, brushes, cords, switches, her hands (slapped and punched) and a bible.

Stuff thrown at me-
Hot iron, vaseline jar, glass, rock, scissors, and a rollerskate. (she missed every time she would throw stuff at me)

Still love that bitch with all my heart. Oh, yeah, and I talked back to her every time she did.

Stuff I said to my mom while she dished out beatings...

*I hate you.
*I can't wait til you're old so I can beat you the same way
*you're a bitch
*slut
*whore
*you gave me asthma with you're smoking so I had to put those exploding things in your cigarettes
*you need to go to jail
*I wish you never had me either
*just kill me now
*why don't you beat your boyfriend that way
*it didn't hurt
*do it again,
*just laugh uncontrollably-even if it hurt

and various other sarcastic crap. Good lord we were so dysfunctional, its no wonder why I still am able to breathe.
I was a horrible child to spank because I flipped off at the lip ALL the time.
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Not once, and I will not spank my children if I ever have them.

paintedlady said:

A short while ago I was at a PTA meeting (gave a neighbor a ride there) about banning cell phones so kids could not video teachers yelling at kids. I stood up and said "why not just tell the adults to NOT yell at the kids"

I wanted to go get my Pink Floyd the Wall CD and play the track called "The Happiest Days Of Our Lives" which goes:

'Well, when we grew up and went to school,
There were certain teachers,
Who would hurt the children in any way they could,
By pouring their derision,
Upon anything we did,
Exposing every weakness,
However carefully hidden by the kids."



*it is often played along with "another brick in the wall Part 2

Just treat kids well (even the a-holes as they learned that from someone)
teach them to respect themselves and the curriculum and leave it at that.

I got spanked by my mother and grandmother when my little ass deserved it. I was abused by my father though both physically and emotionally.

OnlyNDaUsa said:

Teaching and parenting are such important jobs, its too bad many fall short of even being adequate.

Thank God for my circle of moms that helped me to parent and do way better at parenting than my mom did. Even enough to forgive and understand my mom.

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This thread just breaks my heart.

Vendetta1 said:

I know but the subtext is that it is in the past, and everyone is alive today.

I can't imagine slapping Cuddles

Vendetta1 said:

It is actually pretty therapeutic for me. I do nt talk or think about that too often.

beat with a Bible?!?

damn...

An interesting question.

I thought my mom did regularly (and that it was okay) because I remember it happening. But according to her it only happened once, and she did it out of anger & felt horrible about it forever afterwards.

That changed my point of view a bit. Now it seems the best parents don't spank their children, they don't need to.

Cuddles said:

Vendetta1 said:

C'MERE!

Cinnie said:

no because my brother took them for me.
not that he wanted to. i just blamed everything on him.
he's my hero

DanceWme said:

OMG, My sister used to blame everything on me

I got my ass whooped good and proper so many times for shit she did.


I remember once she threw one of my dads uber heavy glass/lava ash treys at me, and I ducked. It went through the dry wall in the living room. She also broke one of my mom's plants and I tried to super-glue it back together so I wouldn't get my ass whooped.

Well, I got my ass whooped for both. My mom was like, "Don't say Jane did it cause you did it!" !!!!


Lawd, it's a good thing she never broke the law--my ass would be serving time for her.

When I was REALLY bad my Nana would smack my ass with a wooden spoon... one smack was MORE than sufficient...

You learn a lot about behavior when you're looking at a spoon shaped welt across your ass in the mirror...

my Parents would spank but it'd be one-two-three and then off to my room...

Imago said:

i dont understand how i was so evil. probably got it from my dad.
my mother said she was honsetly scared to beat me when i was little because i would scream so loud, she didnt want the neighbors calling the cops.


thats how i rolled

BklynBabe said:

Yup! Because I tore the pictures out of it, will never forget that I was like 6.
My mom practices Santaria and she has like an alter set up in her room (creepy) so I used to like looking at the pictures in it (huge bible, looks expensive) me so ya, I ripped the pictures of these saints out of it. She caught me in the act, picked up the bible and beat my ass.

While she pummeled me, she dropped her precious bible started crying and hugged me apologizing. She was raised in foster homes abandoned by her parents since age 5, so she was abused all her life. I didn't understand as a child, but now do since my aunt told me what they went through. I am still meeting cousins for the first time and I am 38 and one of the youngest in my generation.

NDRU said:

I can relate. i had virtually the same experience, but i trust my own memories - my Mum's seem to be distorting each year...

paintedlady said:

sounds like something mine would do!

today he woke up, I caught him twitching his sheet up, I look in his bed and last night when I had told him to get ready he had taken all his brand new pencil eraser tops and hid them in the bed so he could play with them at night instead of going to sleep and then tried to hide it and lie about it this morning. I can't lie, the chronic lying, sneakiness, and destructiveness is NOT cute, even though he is a child. It's not that you want to smack on a child, but seriously I think you don't realize as a child how fucking annoying you can be. Especially when it's shit you've been told 20-30-50 eleven times not to do. Truthfully that shit gets fucking old to see adults do too. It's like watching drunk drivers continue to get behind the wheel of a car after having their license taken, going to jail, killing someone. You just want to go "damn, cut the stupidness out already!"

Like I said I think back to all the drama I put my momma through and I was not a stupid kid either and I wish there would have been some way for it to sink into my brain a lot sooner that I was not being very nice. My mother was VERY good to me. I can freely admit I was a stank lil child to her. I would have deserved any ass whupping she had decided to give me. And she didn't.

The worst spanking is the mental feeling that I endangered my mother's health by constantly getting on her fucking nerves.

Cinnie said:

Hell yeah...with a fucking swishy army cane which had a metal tip. Wasn't right but I'm happy with how I turned out

O wouldn't spank my son, not like that but if he was about to do something where he could really hurt himself then he might get a slapped hand.

Yes, I'll have to say all of them I got I needed. Mostly a belt or a switch.

my dad kept a huge black belt in the closet and when we needed it you best believe

Yes and it wasn't a spanking. Wasn't often, but when it happened it wasn't good.

wasitgood4u said:

the funny thing is, when she told me I realized that I could only remember the one time. I had just assumed that it happened more often than that because it made such an impression. My brother & sister don't ever remember getting spanked.

Of course, my mom revises history in many other ways!