What's wrong with sensitive?

I'm super sensitive when it comes to my looks.

JustErin said:

i appreciate your honesty, Erin.
may i ask another: would something like this make you cry?

This never bothered me until I gained 80 lbs from taking meds. I am still fat as hell, and now I found a new sense of compassion for overweight people because NOW I understand.

I don't get angry or hurt when people call me fat... I only cried once when my sister taunted my excessive weight gain because I was at ideal weight 9 years ago. She was always a bully to me my whole life, so this was just another way to hurt me when she equated my weight with a lack of class.

So I let her have it and called her a raggety bitch that lacked not only tact but a sense of class herself. She used to starve herself to be thin, and she still has body image issues (even though she is fit and beautiful). She even landed herself in the emergency room numerous times because of her extreme dieting.
One day I blew up at her, and she left me alone, shocked at the way I stood up to her. She apologized to me which is hard for her to do.
She wonders why I am happy in any size I am. I don't let people ( men in particular) bother me. I walk in confidence, even as a size 18W, I keep a mean strut. My sister doesn't understand, why I am happy in my size. Its because I can breathe and I feel healthier now that my lungs are functioning in a normal way. Yes, I will work on losing the weight in the future, but I enjoy my body just the way it is, even love my swimsuit I bought (yes an 18W!) and I wear it proudly on the beach. No harpoon needed.

Weird thing, I have wayyyy better sex in my "meatball" form than I ever did slender. I am just as agile, even though I queef a bit more because of my um... thickness. TMI But its the truth... dudes love the squishiness of my "pillowtop" form.

meow85 said:

same here.


although my boss did call me fat once but I called him boney mutherfucker so wutevs.

i'm just wondering..is being fat a legitimate reason to cheat on your SO???

are there any legitimate reasons to cheat? you're supposed to split up with someone if you don't like them anymore, are you not?

whistle said:

WHAT if you like many people simultaneously? You're fucked then!

ZombieKitten said:

well, hopefully.

if you are prone to liking many people simultaneously, best not enter into relationships. that is, unless you and your mate(s) can handle an open relationship.

what if you didn't know that until 10+ years into it?

ZombieKitten said:

hang on, let me consult the rulebook...

apparently you're supposed to sit down with your partner and tell them straight 'i fancy other people'.

sod that! no wonder people cheat.

nobody knows this about themselves when the tie the knot, and no partner wants to hear this 10 years down the track do they?

ZombieKitten said:

it's a damn sight better than finding out your partner's been shagging other people behind your back and didn't tell you because they wanted to spare your feelings, no?

that sounds VERY sucky indeed

OK so 2 people with the best intentions marry

one finds out a decade later they are capable of loving more than one simultaneously that sucks for the other one, right?

whistle said:

what if you didn't know that until 10+ years into it?

if someone calls you fat, will you remember the incident for life?

Graycap23 said:

What's wrong with sensitive?

I'm super sensitive when it comes to my looks.

Yes...I already realize that I am sensitive and insecure, but I've accepted that as just a part off my personality and it's made me tougher. However, when I was a teen (and heavier) I would crumble on the inside everytime someone criticized my body/weight.

Never showed that side in public though. Didn't want anyone to put me in the "the weakest of minds" category just cause my feelings were hurt

JustErin said:

Nothing, skinny, fat, tall, short...all kinds of women and men have sensitivity issues. I think it's great to admit it too.

JustErin said:

Nothing, skinny, fat, tall, short...all kinds of women and men have sensitivity issues. I think it's great to admit it too.

Thanks guys (Kimmy, Chocolatyness, KatSkrizzy,Ivy )

right back at all of you... so many strong women on the org, even when you guys (all women on this thread) admit to being vulnerable on specific topics, yet, you guys are all so strong as well. All of you fineazz mofos inspire me.