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PrintableCarrieMpls said: I think it's downright rude to try to start conversation with someone who's otherwise engaged. If I am reading, on my iPod or generally minding my own business that means leave me the hell alone.
 I agree with this...but I do make an exception for attractive women.  | |
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Im very cautious of that, to always give women their space. I keep my distance cuz i dont want to make a woman feel threatened or uncomfortable.
most of the time they be like, "why you so distant, come gimme a hug!" then i pounce 
it works. pretend your not interested it drives 'em mad. [Edited 10/9/09 11:08am] | |
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You mean like all the hundreds of thousands of women that pass by you in public? | |
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I don't knooooow.
I mean, yeah, read body language. But I might be on the bus and reading and just have failed to notice your fine ass, in which case I might be happy if you say hi to me. It's flattering. Now, if I smile and look back to my book, I hope you can figure out that I'm not interested. . . yes? I was talking with a friend the other day about how I get attention from black guys, in that I see them check me out, and in a club setting they'll often come dance with me, but out-and-about on a daily basis, they NEVER approach me. Ever. And I have to wonder if it's because they have a fear of being read as intimidating by a white girl, no matter how polite they are. Culturally, I get why a black man might feel that way, but it really sucks. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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novabrkr said: Eh, that was just plain scary.
Sure I've approached women in public - which is actually quite rare in my own cultural climate - and the results have been admittedly mixed. Most have been flattered, but there have been a few that have seemed to have been bothered by it and one or two who clearly would have wished for me to never open up my mouth in their vicinity. From that I've learnt a simple rule: if the woman sends signs that she is interested, if she smiles at me and especially if she turns her head when we pass by or something, it is perfectly okay to go talk to her. In that case I've also learnt something that goes against the grain of what is usually taught of what women will react positively to. If you're the male approaching a woman you've never talked to before, don't be too damn confident about yourself. It's perfectly okay to stutter and show some of your insecurities as well. I just wish there were more intelligent proposals to be made than ask her "for a cup of coffee" though.  yeah me too, I hate coffee  | |
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