Liz and i grew up since childhood. we both got married around the same time, hers lasted longer than mine, but the shyt she goes through is simply unbelievable!

shes been married for twenty or so years, with a couple kids and they treat her like garbage. her husband is an recreational cheater and treats her like shyt. i've told her numerous times she could live with me in my apartment, but she cant leave him. she doesn't wnat to "abandon" him. whenever we go out, she never has any money cause he is busy spending it on his other "co-workers" and friends. he wont let her go anywhere, even to the store! i never hear her say they went anywhere, movies, park, nothing.


..shes got her education, shes attrative, but i feel that her freak of a husband has her under lock and key.

how can i help her!

Sounds like shes just to scared of the unknown and change at this point ...be there for her...one day Im sure if it continues she will be ready

I know you want to, but interfering or confronting her (and he gets wind of you trying to break them up) he'll just make sure she doesn't get to see you any more. Like what has already been said, just be there for her until she is ready.

She is not strong enough to take a stand and emancipate herself from her self made prison. So many women either live in fear, rejection and afraid of being alone. I believe freedom is the wisest choice a person can make for themselves especially knowing and recognising their self worth!

Sounds like yuu're helping by just being a good friend. I wouldn't get in the middle of her domestic situation.

Chiming in to agree with the rest. The best thing you can do for her is let her know your there for her no matter what. Until she's ready to leave theres nothin more you can do. God knows my friends are tryin.

.....understood ladies!..

...i'm wondering, where my fellas at???

Since you've been friends with her forever I'm sure you can smack some sense into her. Ultimately though, if she doesn't wanna leave, she's not going to. She must be getting something out of that relationship. Maybe she likes the victim status.