Ok so should I be mad if my boy is playing darts right now with his best friend and his ex? I mean they were only kind of "dating / messing around" for 2 months maybe and the dude wanted to "be straight" again and dumped my boy.
His best friend and the dude are good friends and they play softball together so I understand that they were already friends, but should I be mad or upset about this? Being that if he never even told me they did stuff in the past I would have never even known anything about him.

So then after I hung up with him he send me a text:
Hey love
My day was somehow spontaneous
Crazy new things happened today.

Hmm, maybe I should let him know my ex wants me to burn his old records on a cd for him, or want me to come over 4 a bit.

I know it aint nothing but why am I kinda mad?

Should I be mad?


To be continued.

paisleypark4 said:

Nope, not at all. If it's over it's over. Don't deny him a potential friendship

Why are you mad? Do you think your boyfriend is likely to stray?

Personally, I wouldn't hang out with an ex if I had an SO. But that's just me.

ahh youth and the emotional roller coaster ride of love. Do you trust him? If the answer is yes then let it be. If ya don't then the problem lies with you and him, not the ex.

don't be jealous, that's a huge turn off.

no. he was honest with you, and jealousy is an asinine waste of time.

I don't get this at all...

My girl comes and goes as she pleases and she sees whomever she wants 2 see and do U know why?

Because she is a grown ass woman and she can make her own damn decisions.

Just because U are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean U own them. U just spend time 2gether and enjoy the time U have. There is no need 2 get bogged down in all that jealousy bullshit.

If my girl wanted 2 sleep with someone else, that's her choice and I would never hold that against her but I know that she doesn't because that's her choice also. Honestly, last year she spent a week on holiday in Wales with her ex-husband and I have absolutely no problem with that (He's a nice guy). The same goes 4 me if I wanted 2 sleep with another girl then I would but I don't because I'm more than happy with the girl I'm with.

It's simple really, we are both adults and we choose our own paths and right now and for the foreseeable future our paths are joined. That much keeps us happy, committed and free from jealousy. If I couldn't achieve this in a relationship then 2 be honest, I'd be wondering if it's the right one.

Try it though, it's much better with a clear conscience and a free mind.

Thank you guys

This has been a relief. Soemtime I just want some real sound advice.

paisleypark4 said:

Hey, turnabout is fair play. If he has no problem haning out with HIS ex, he should have no problem with you haning out with yours. But then you're playing games.
*Aw hell, guess I'm to old school for all of this "open minded" bullshit. An ex is an ex for a reason and if you're a couple, leave the past behind for a better future TOGETHER!

joseph8 said:

Oh he realy didnt like meeting my exes but he suffered through it..hardly lol. But really it came down to my own insecurities of my past because I found out it was just his mom's boyfriend. I was jumping the gun. Im glad I didnt say anything.