Sometimes a friendship comes to an end because the two people have "grown apart", other times it's due to things done/not done: what is your basis for ending a friendship? Or should we hold onto them no matter what?

I drained their blood by mistake.When i brought them back to life,they were still pissed at me and tried to kill me.So i had to put them away

Cracula said:

ungrateful bastards

i would back off of a friendship
for lies, or theft...
the door may remain open,
but the screen will be LOCKED!!!

DORA said:

That is why i love you.You are the one who understands me.Makes me feel HUMAN again.

00769BAD said:

I like the way you put that, bad: "the door may remain open (as in, you wouldn't shut them out entirely) but the screen will be locked (the final barrier to entering your home/your most personal space, will be locked).

Nice symbolism

Cracula said:

wake...


wake...


from that deep sleep


i command u

AnotherLover2 said:

that's cos you and i see eye to eye on so many avenues

DORA said:

Stop jacking the thread, you and Cracula!

AnotherLover2 said:

ooops

ziping me lips again

AnotherLover2 said:

Flying away quickly

Supernova said:

but tell me... would you not still have a place
in your heart for that friend???

A while back my best friend and eye ended are friendship all because of her boyfriend, but I got even, I turned around and slept with him.You know what they say, "revenge is soo sweet"! I usually dont do things like that but somehow it happened.

I think a Friend is the Hardest thing too truly have.a Real Friend.I think the only things that wreck it: are saying My Biz out&about,&basically trying too do Harm were Fists might start flying.but I Learned a Lesson from my Grandmother a long time ago: not everybody is your Friend.there are people you Associate with&then there are your Friends I always know the difference.

Paisley said:

Why do you say it was her boyfriend who ended your friendship? And did you sleep with him after you ended the friendship? Were they still dating? (Inquiring Minds Want to Know! )

00769BAD said:

I think it all depends on what exactly the betrayal of trust was, or what exactly the lie was. I can think of some minor examples that wouldn't kill it, but definitely would strain it to the point that I couldn't trust the friend 100% anymore with just any information. I don't just discard people who I consider friends, it has to be something major.

Well, heh.

Friendships end pretty dern easy, it seems in some instances.

Generally, I just grow apart from mine. However, there are the occasional instances the latter thing you mention...things done/not done applies for.

But oh well. I really can't be arsed.

BattierBeMyDaddy said:

You're my friend, Battier! I can't imagine anyone not wanting to be your friend! You're extremely loyal and good-hearted.

AnotherLover2 said:

And you, are my friend! (((warm, caring, profound sigh)))

Err, sorry! Heh heh.

You are a lovely friend as well, AL! I value our discussions!

Supernova said:

THERE IN LIES THE ISSUE...
in friendship, don't you tend to just overlook
alot of things as just being 'a pettie trait'
and don't the REALLY BIG missunderstandings even fall
into that catigory?
after a time, don't even the most vile act
seem a trifle

BattierBeMyDaddy said:

(((cold, calculating, hateful, hard kick in the ass!)))

AnotherLover2 said:

You are lucky I am your friend! If not, I would kick that arse!
[This message was edited Sun Jan 5 20:40:42 PST 2003 by BattierBeMyDaddy]

Interesting topic! I have had to end a friendship before. It is not an easy thing to do. I'm pretty loyal to my friends. However, there was a time when I needed to end a friendship in order to grow. My former friend Arwen had continued to hurt me (intentionally perhaps) for a year and a half over a tumultuous romance we once had. It tore me apart, but I knew that I needed to end things. I've been much happier as a result. Since then, I have emailed her and told her that she was a blessing my life and that I was thankful that God had thrown us together, because it helped me learn and grow a great deal.

I'd say that in general, I would only end a friendship if I felt it stunted my growth as a person and was a continual source of stress and hurt for a long time.

00769BAD said:

And this in turn makes me wonder: what would I end a friendship over, if this friend of mine did something horrible to someone else, not necessarily to me? Like, would I still consider my friend a "friend" if he raped and murdered someone?

AnotherLover2 said:

you'ld be a prime canidate for INOCENT TIL PROVEN GUILTY
then you'ld be sure that they were WRONG if he lost the case

00769BAD said:

Sure, a really big misunderstanding can happen to any set of friends for various minor reasons. But if I already know about petty traits I don't do anything to help that trait come to the surface. If that trait comes out, it won't have anything to do with ME giving my private information because I won't voluntarily give it.


The most vile act? No. The word "vile" connotes major damage, BAD MAN.

But, being a friend comes easily to me. I've never had to directly end a friendship.

Moonbeam said:

Absolutely!

Supernova said:

Supernova!!!
!!!

Christopher said:

Christopher!!! !!!