connorhawke said:

we met in 94 and it's been on ever since, so yes potentially there is hope.
Tell your guy you were a big chicken and in breaking up you properly understood how much he means to you.

ZombieKitten said:

Have done this. I think we're just trying to get past the nervous 'have we done the right thing' phase.

Thanks Zombie!

connorhawke said:

all the best, love!

ZombieKitten said:

Nothing but joy so far!!!!!

connorhawke said:

Aww..that's so great. I miss my ex boyfriend terribly at times but I don't think we will ever be an item again. Good for you though connorhawke!

connorhawke said:

Yes I've been in this situation before and it didn't end up like I had hoped. I was just like you, my heart is saying, "everybody makes mistakes, a second chance won't hurt". But my head was saying, "he always says that he's changed but he really hasn't." In the end, I went with my heart and got heart broken again, and a third time. After the third time, I still tried being friends with him, but it just didn't work. He kept hinting and playing around, even after all that he had put me through, with wanting to get back together all over again, so I had to cut him off. It hurt me to my heart at the time, but how was I supposed to move on with him hanging around and still calling?

A good thing I did cut him off too, because I eventually met and fell in love with the man that I'm SUPPOSED to be with. Heart, body and soul.

Take it from me, LET IT GO! Exes are an EX for a reason.
[Edited 10/11/09 12:57pm]

Been there done that. It never worked for me but I wish you the best.

heybaby said:

If your instincts are already telling you to watch out, then thats a sure sign to leave things alone and move on.

missfee said:

Yeah, sad but true. Even though you might love each other to bits, just love is not enough unfortunately. Well, not for me at least. But still; Connorhawke, I'm happy for you and hope it'll work

Not a good idea.

But if it works for some, I heard it does, and they like it, then I love it.
[Edited 10/11/09 15:30pm]

went to dinner last week with an ex that i hadn't seen in two years. i got stuck paying for dinner because apparently when you say "let's go out and get something to eat" that means "you order a drink, appetizer and entree and i'll pay for it"

MacDaddy said:

It isn't

don't do go backs

or - DO over's...let the past die we can be friends in time - maybe

JustErin said:

Ditto.

ScarLett said:

It's interesting that so many people are against the idea because of their past experiences. If two people are open and honest, recognise the problems that were there in the past and want to get over them and move on, I see it as a positive thing.

Luckily though, I think we are both intelligent and mature enough to be able to do so. Of course in a year or so we might have fucked it up but you never know if you never go.

Alej said:

wtf are you smoking today?

connorhawke said:

So many people are against it because they have "been there and done that" already. We know what's to come. But I also feel that people need to live out their own experiences as well. If you feel that getting back with your ex is a positive thing at this moment then by all means, give it a second go and the best of luck to you. But remember, it was you who created the thread asked for feedback. So you must take the positive along with the realistic (I think what you may deem as negative) opinions as well. Good Luck.

missfee said:

Oh I haven't forgotten. That's why I didn't say anything against the posts. I just said it was interesting.

Hopefully it will work but I know history says that it probably won't. Thinking about it, there is no way in hell I would go back to any of my other previous exes as I'm definitely not one to beat myself up or relive past problems. This just seems way more positive than that, albeit risky.

not really an option for me. people have usually had quite enough of me the first time round, no call for seconds.

connorhawke said:

I like to see the ending of true love conquers all. Good luck to you hope it works. My ex and I have been apart for 9 yrs often when asked if we'll get back together my response is no since she's moved on and I've been with several people plus there is alot of bad blood between us still. However if it were to happen it would be after everyone is all old or dead, we are old, nobody wants me, nobody wants her, everybody's looks have gone south . And most importantly I won't have to hear any I told you so's from anyone.

connorhawke said: