ZombieKitten said:

Direct eye contact absolutely gives me the creeps, and I immidiately distrust the people who do it

ThirdandFinal said:

I'm the opposite! Darting evasive eyes to me means dodginess

ZombieKitten said:

I have always distrusted eye contact, but I have also taken so many retail training courses where they stress again and again to hold eye contact as a sales (con) technique

ThirdandFinal said:

true, but teaching it stems from honesty, you just got cynicalised by the courses

What a silly question. Of course, looks matter.

Looks definitely matter. Everything from religious dictates to scientific observation speak to it. And, as I think it's a biological predisposition to gauge others in part by their physical presence, I can't imagine too many folk (including myself) are immune to that.

But humans aren't all animal instinct. We can learn that other things about a person -- their intelligence, their charitability, their humor, their lifestyle, a certain prowess they may have, etc. -- often are a lot more important to their overall assessment... and we should always develop that skill. The world is rife both with beautiful people who'd make our lives a living hell and trolls who'd make our lives 1000 times better for having known them.

Lammastide said:

Wow

Harlepolis said:

But age is a bitch to everybody, so the hot people are still better off than the non hot people who also got worse with age.

JustErin said:

Not always,,,I know some ugly people who turned better lookin' with age, the script was reveresed for some pretty people I know as well

Harlepolis said:

True, but if given a choice and hoping to be an attractive older person I would take being a hot young person over being a not hot young person every time.

They matter far less when I take my glasses / contacts off.

>the first impression is important, but less and less... the good taste notices better in the hands; for me it is important the appearance of the hands; the way like them moves, the pauses inserted with the conscience of doing / know that is to the left and the passage to the right... she are crossed, open or simply closed
> if I want to seduce: the appearance is important
> if I am to work, definitively I don't concern the appearance of the other ones: I want to know of the competence

I don't like really good looking guys...they are good looking, but meh.

Depends. I wouldn't have married my wife if I hadn't found her attractive, but on her looks alone I wouldn't have married her. Still, looks definitely matter in so many ways in life, for right or for wrong.

Looks have always mattered. Even the Bible makes mention of people's looks.

Looks always matter, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It would be very difficult to be with someone if you don't find them attractive. However, good looks are subjective. Sometimes I surprise my wife when I say that certain women are attractive. I imagine that she thinks that men only like tv good looks, but that is far from true (at least for me).

There are even some larger women that I have found attractive (when I say larger, I mean slightly overweight, not morbidly obese).

Darwintheorgangrinder said:

Physical attraction and being attracted to someone are two different things to me. I dated someone I was not physically attracted to. His personality was enough for me. I've fallen for people I had not even seen before. There are exceptions to every rule.

All the times I've been in love (three), it's been with someone who, the very first time I met him, I didn't find him all that attractive (or at least he wasn't my type). But a little while later, I thought they hung the moon. They were suddenly the hottest and sexiest guys in the world.

Looks matter, and I ogle guys all the time, but I think attraction is based on a whole mess of chemical and hormonal reactions in your body. Somebody might not flip the switch right away, but the good ones are pretty damn talented at rubbing some sticks together and getting a fire going.

Efan said:

Hot damn, you are awesome!!!