What are the essential traits of a life partner?
And has your opinion changed over time?

Strength and Kindness

johnart said:

To add to that:

1. Have some direction in life. You don't have to be successful, but at least show me that you have passion for something other than to have a good time.


2. What comes out of your mouth and your actions better match.


3. Make an effort. A handwritten note on the bed or kitchen counter saying 'xxx 000' for no reason whatsoever is far more important to me than good sex or physical chemistry. If all I wanted was good sex, I'd just call johnart up.

4. Must love to cook

5. Don't smoke...I don't care if it's cloves, regular cigs or reefer. I don't want to smell it on you.

6. I don't want kids, but if you're first reaction to children is repulsion or extreme discomfort, we're going to have problems.

7. Be confident. I don't care if you're dorky, eccentric, or just plain strange--don't try and cover it up or make others like you for traits you don't really possess. Just be yourself, warts and all.


I've learned alot these last few years, and I've come to the realization that what my ideal partner is someone who has long ago grown up. A rare find.

- Don't complain about stuff more than I do. Because if you really do, then you have serious problems.

- Faux-intellectualism or leading an "alternative lifstyle" only on the surface level is a turn-off. It's hard not to be hypocritical in regards with your own values sometimes, but just wearing a lot of green does not make you ecologically aware.

- Be prepared that your future husband might end up living on unemployment fees and even welfare checks from time to time. If that hurts your pride, then I am hardly the guy you would expect to offer you financial security. I really can't tell how much money I am going to be making in 5-10 years of time - I just can't tell under these circumstances.

- Dress up more femininely than I do, because I am still fundamentally materialistic and superficial like that.

- Please do dare to make up a joke sometimes, and don't just laugh at mine.

- Don't get too shocked if I can't get it up anymore after a night out involving alcohol consumption.

- Irrational crying, tantrums and moodiness is perfectly allowed from time to time, even expected. No robots for me please (unless you're a really hot robot).

- Don't complain about the synths.

- Drive your own damn car.

Needless to say, I haven't found the right one! I'm so going to die alone.
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Honesty, compassion, loyalty.

Manners. I don't appreciate rude people.

Sense of humor. Cliche, yes, but truly essential. I like to laugh.

Compatible taste in music. I know some find this odd but I can make up whatever rules I want.

Compassion and kindness. Johnart mentioned kindness and I totally agree. This is more than behaving politely but truly wishing others well. I can't be with an angry person or anyone who believes were all out for ourselves.

Loyalty and devotion. To me. Forsaking all others who wish to bone them and who they may secretly wish to bone. This is not negotiable.

a nice house a few doors up

no snoring

being home in the evenings

friendly and cuddly

loves to joke around and laugh

must love animals and babies and sci-fi movies

must clean up after himself because he knows that leaving the mess for me to clean up builds resentment over time

must like spicy food

someone i know is here to stay. i never proceed into relationships until i get that feeling from the person.

someone who will not:

1. dig in their nose or butt
2. burp or fart in front of guest


but who will:

1. clean the bathroom
2. let the toilet seat down
3. love your mother

Evvy said:

But it's... clamshell -patterned.

Confidence
Humour
Respects others

That's it really.

Kind
Open-minded
Honest
Easy going
Knowledgeable
Fun
Responsible

Imago said:

Now that I've quit I could never date a smoker. It's NASTY.

And I've never been big on dating pot smokers. That's always been a turn off.

novabrkr said:

Does this pose a problem very often? Do you wear lace pants?

oh, and they must respect animals. I couldn't date someone who hunted, for example.
If they weren't vegetarian I don't think that would be a deal breaker, but I definitely wouldn't put up with someone commenting on how much they love steak every time I made a tofu dish.
And I'm never cooking meat. So they had better be open to whatever I'm making for dinner or make their own.

trust and honesty are key butt then again ..soo overrated in these days and times when yall cant even trust your bank no more..finanshiall crises is hittin the country like a mawfugga.

I for one think that having the same SEXUAL interest is key..

if yall cant get your freak on in an adequate manner than fuckk it. why waste time wiht a so so partner when you could be sexxing much hotter wiht someone much hotter ? also..if she aint got the understanding for my innner DESIRES and YEARNINGS and if she underestimate daily TEMPTASHIONS then she better find some other mofo out there ...ha ha ah aha ha ha
cuz life is all about LOVE and understanding ....EAch other ....

its some universal shitt im talking abuot ...not no selfish love,.no

obsessive shitt aint part of my game.

some of yall know there aint no shame in my game...so the females better deal with it and reap the rewards of theyre tolearance cuz that s what they getting..some good ol luvin, some good old sexxin.... not no hypocrit shitt.ha hahha ha cuz thats what im all about



I m learning that havin a big dick is cool for the lady to see, to play with, and to brag about her man to her friends,,,, W hen it actually comes down to sexx I think the majority likke average.

This board has kind of opened my mind to that.

Now there are some girls that just love big cock for everything, butt majority like avg butt MOST chickss almos always LOVE girth ha ha ha

makes me think of how some girls love huge penises but when it comes down to it

there's still alot of the penis that goes un-used ha take into account that the vagina is an incredibly elastic part of the female anatomy. So, YES, when thers nothing in there, it may only be about 4 inches.... but that dont mean that 4 inches is the maximum amount of penis that can be inserted, and it certainly doesn't mean that 4 inches feel good.

does thhe combination of Jagermaster and Red Bull really affect your sexxing?

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that s just part of me...the fabric of my idenity.


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Fury said:

FReedom.....JOY....!

CarrieMpls said:

yeah I cant stand those alpha type personalities either....yall dont have to be vegertariens butt why comment on what I eat, right ? I do love seafood thouhg, makes me kinda horny..for real, its good for men.

be careful with the soy tho,...BE VERY VERY CAREFULL..

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I'll steal the first two from Dan...
* Some direction in life.
* What comes out of your mouth and your actions better match.

Also...
* Balance of confidence and humility. A complete self-loather/doubter or an arrogant S.O.B.: Two sides of a coin I could forever do without.
* A compatible spirituality. Not necessarily identical, but compatible.
* Some attractiveness. Needn't be conventional, but at least turn me on.
* Hunger to learn.
* Charitability.
* A sense of aesthetic. Whether it be the color of bath towels you buy, or the atmosphere of romance we create, at least care enough that not everything is a mere incidental.
* Love me in return.

Imago said:

Not to toot my own horn (tho if I could I might not need a partner ) but I give both.
I sent the hubby a short midday text yesterday saying "Love you. Hope your day is going ok" just cause I knew he was gonna be dealing with some stressful stuff at work.

johnart said:

youre one funny mofo up in this bitch ha ha ha ahha ha ha I likke your style..

did you know that Ron Jeremy used to be able to suck his own dick when he was in his prime ?
he´s got a teacher´s license, too.

CarrieMpls said:

Oh, I know the feeling. I smoked in the 20's. For me, there is a difference between a person smoking outdoors in a designated area, and them lighting up right in front of you. Depending on the setting it can be very rude. And someone who lights up a nasty ass smelling joint in front of me is being particularly rude, especially if it's indoors.

But I think it ties back in to what you said about manners.

RudyIsBackForGood said:

To teach folk how to suck their own? Or teacher, teacher???

johnart said:

Now, see. That's what I'm talking about.
A text out of the blue is über sweet.
Unless it's a text message on valentines day and that's all the communication you get.

CarrieMpls said:

I agree with this.
Though if someone owns more than 2 pets, or unusual pets like...oh, I don't know, a Lama.... then we may not be a good match.

CarrieMpls said:

I can NOT believe I left that one out.
I absolutely need someone to have a sense of humor.
I joke all the time in real life.

But to be more specific, whoever I'm with has to have the ability to laugh at themselves when they do something stupid. Like say...falling down stairs.

They should be:

Financially stable & independant
Tidy!
Not jealous and not a flirt
Decent IQ and high EQ
Take care of their appearance & not overweight
A positive mature character, no tempers,tantrums or manipulation
No heavy use of any mind altering substance
Not dominant or submissive - a good middle road
He cannot be an atheist

I had better stop there...the list might get longer

Bohemian67 said:

whyy not ? why you discrimiatingf?

RudyIsBackForGood said:

That is not discriminating. If I am going to be with someone for life then we need to have similar values.