In Victorian times, Lem might have been described as a "confirmed bachelor," although by the end of his own lifetime he would have been described as gay. In a 2007 book review of Jack and Lem, The New Haven Register interviewed the author [David Pitts] and quoted from the book:

"Jack made a big difference in my life," Billings said. "Because of him, I was never lonely. He may have been the reason I never got married."

However, the relationship between the two men was friendship. "It’s the story of a really close friendship — and one of the guys just happened to be what we think of today as gay," Pitts said. John F. Kennedy was well aware of his friend's sexual orientation, as Billings had conveyed his interest in Kennedy early in their friendship. Kennedy rebuffed his advances sharply but actively continued the friendship for the rest of his life. Jackie Kennedy, who liked Billings for the most part, commented to a White House usher, "He (Lem) has been a house guest every weekend of my married life."

JFK was a Ho and I'd bet money that Lem was hooking him up with the ladies and playing the role of "cover."

DesireeNevermind said:

I've actually done that for a straight friend. His mother was dying of cancer; he was all over the place emotionally and I just wanted him to be happy. I covered for him whilst he basically had a three month affair.

God knows what his wife thought, everytime he told her he was with me. I wasn't her favourite person for a long time. It was six or seven years ago. He never strayed again and his wife is still clueless. After he'd gotten over his mother finally dying, I told him that he was never to put me in that position again.

Wow. She never knew really? See that's a rough position to be in because you're basically lying for someone else. But then, we do a lot for our close friends so what the hay.

DesireeNevermind said:

What's worse is that (much later) he seemed to blame me for "allowing him" to go off the rails. I know that what I did was classic enabling behaviour... But he gave me no option. It's a long story. It was a horrible period.

Anyway, we're all friends again now. I was at his home for dinner on Sunday evening, with him, his wife and kids.

Dayum. Well at least things turned out good for everybody in the end.

DesireeNevermind said:

Well, except for his bit-on-the-side whom he dumped. I try not to think about her.

Anyway... J.F.K. Loved the gays!

GirlBrother said:

she was an innocent bystander. um...wasn't she?

^ well of course. the hyper hetero guys are the ones getting all the chicks and half the time with the aid of their gay home boys. JFK was a Ho and I'd bet money that Lem was hooking him up with the ladies and playing the role of "cover."

DesireeNevermind said:

Or they are on the DL hence why they're "hyper hetero"

SCNDLS said:

You got a point there sis. I always thought of hyper hetero as men who really dig pussy but not so much talk about it versus the guy who just talks about it but never gets nowhere near the kitty.

DesireeNevermind said:

I've been around a lot of super masculine athletes, that were married and fucked around on the side with multiple hoes. But that didn't stop them from fucking around with dudes and having their heels in the air.

SCNDLS said:

You keep talking like that Ima think there's no straight guys left in the world except the ones I'm related to and you know I aint down with no inbreeding. Dayum wars!!!

DesireeNevermind said:

My girlfriends are always accusing me of thinking that all bruthas are gay (which I don't)

DesireeNevermind said:

My girlfriends are always accusing me of thinking that all bruthas are gay (which I don't)

SCNDLS said:

Say what?

Graycap23 said:

'cept you o' course

and ?
how is this relevant ?