What do you imagine needs to happen?
(write in point form please)

ZombieKitten said:

1. i need to take more of an interest in my job, my marriage, and my health. i am passively watching all 3 slide down the drain.

1. be content with all that I don't have

2. get out of my own way

3. find a new job

4. quit the

5. moderate my intake

6. adapt 2 a healthy diet...one meal a day is not cool...atleast 2

7. find some one who lights my fire

whistle said:

If you could break it down into smaller more accomplishable tasks to achieve this, what sorts of things will you need to do it?

1.not be afraid to trust and love again
2.anger management/not let little shit get to me
3.get more proactive in my life again
4.exercise

1. Find a new job that doesn't make me feel like a corporate drone.
2. Stop being such a lazyarsed idiot
3. Stop measuring happiness based on how I am relating to other people.
4. Get back into the groove of deliberately learning as much as possible every day, instead of being a passive student of life.
5. Art, art and more art.
6. Discover the perfect munchie food.

nyse said:

Don't hate!

sammij said:

in moderation =

connorhawke said:

nachos...lol

sammij said:

yeah who am I kidding...But it's not a every day thing anymore.

somedays I think I need some to mellow the fuck out. I've never really tried it. Unless secondhand movie smoke counts. Then I'm fucking Snoop!

BklynBabe said:

Argh all this talk makes me want a
It's cold on my mountain today. I'm all done up like an Uzbekistani grandma.

i have no fucking clue, and i think that's the problem.

evenstar3 said:

you need some direction!

connorhawke said:

are you studying art or something related?

ZombieKitten said:

1. either make a real effort to have a career in my field of study or give up that dream and pursue my current job to the fullest. i'm far too old to sit around waiting for miracles to happen.

2. my marriage- once you lose that feeling for someone, can you ever get it back? probably a thread topic in itself.

3. my health- i don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or eat meat. i'm extremely physically active. if i could just knock the takeaways on the head, i'll be fine.

My life IS significantly better. And I worked hard to make it so.

I guess to get even better I'd have my own business. Or a job that pays as well as I have now but was more like hanging out with my friends all day listening to music and not having to wear a suit.

But I'm working on that. So I will get there too.

ZombieKitten said:

I've started studying architecture this year because I thought it would be a perfect solution - being able to express myself artistically and also satisfy OCD tendencies but I just don't think it's for me

Don't know what to do

Morning LadyKitten!

ZombieKitten said:

i don't know what i want, though.

less stress at work

whistle said:

hope it all workss out 4 U..If ur dream is what makes u happy. don't persue it
for any other reason, my freind...

The marriage thing, How long have u been feeling this way, you don't have to answer caus its not my biz in the 1st place...just curious

nyse said:

sadly, quite some time...

have you ever been desperately in love with someone yet be unable to get along with them for more than 10 minutes at a time? it's a strange condition...

whistle said:

I have

Can be fixed if both parties really want to but sadly that's not always the case.

whistle said:

How difficult would it be to enter your field? Would you need to go back to school to refresh skill?


do you feel it's mutual or coming from your side only? Have you considered counselling?


this one is potentially easy, try limiting those to one night a week? Make lunch to bring to work - sandwiches or leftovers?

whistle said:

you might just not be compatible, perhaps you got together for all the wrong reasons

connorhawke said:

Hello up there!

architecture! My friend is an architect! She made a prison

ZombieKitten said:

there is a significant age difference. this was less of a problem in the past than it is today.

1. Make more money

2. Sell my house with a 50k net profit (possible in the next year)

3. finish losing the 30 remaining pounds I need to shed

4. add 'staff management' skills to my resume

5. finish both my novels and get them published

6. erase the last 2 years of my life from memory completely

7. let go of anger

8. get out of debt completely including student loans

9. apply my artistic skills to my career somehow


There's more. It's a daunting list, but I see it more as a challenge than a depressing series of roadblocks now.

ZombieKitten said:

Return to the monastery.... I destroy the prison! I begin practices tomorrow

whistle said:

that can't be changed, is there anything you could do to reconnect? Do you want to?