*lose a bit more weight - it's coming off again but slower than hell!

*find a guy I like, someone who really digs me

*stop being such a scared little bitch & go after the career I really want instead of settling for a portion of it

missminky100 said:

Hiya Missminky!

I've found that although I definitely have the artistic talent for it, it's the knowledge base that is what I find doesn't gel with me. Building codes, construction law and materials etc. I'm great at designing pretty houses but the science of actually making the 'ideal' a physical reality is what I think I'm not good at.

What made you decide not to do it? What part did you think you couldn't cut it at?

Alej said:

Let's get some lads together and beat the tar out of 'em

GirlBrother said:

for me, not! it has been a great fight to learn to say not:

> not to smoke
> not to drink
> not to be foolish
> not to accept my former-woman's non rules
> to know to say my children not!

missminky100 said:

what can i tell you!
seems to be like this, although now being i am reformed from the arquitectura, it can invert the order.... but while activ, my logic was the following:

> in the work 80% it is effort; 10% are talent; 10% are inspiration
> the arquitectura course is a very demanding and, eventually, it 's the course that makes possible a larger knowledge of several areas - techniques, artistic, general knowledge.... although it doesn't develop you the taste for the learning of other expression means for besides the drawing (I was to be unable to learn another language for besides the projecção methods and of the drawing.... I have feather of not having made that in parallel, but it liked projecto too much and to be beyond informed of the occupation to have another focus of that)
> for you advance care with the work method: . it is necessary to sleep... don't leave the work for the last day before the delivery
> later I can tell you more some things....
(don't forget about the practical life out of the universe of AutoCad: to eat, to wash the teeth, to go to the purchases,....) and, you be not more than 20 minutes to the computer

I don't know. I have my little life to-do list.

- get into med school --> have a job I really love
- become an awesome guitar player
- buy and live on a sailboat
- make myself physically wicked strong and flexible

Those things feel small, though, compared to the internal mess that I need to clean up. I'm not sure that anything will make my life better as long as I keep handing off my heart to other people. Letting go of sex and romance and all of that would be the most leveling, energizing thing I could do for myself, and it's hard.

Or, you know, add
- find the right partner

but I don't think that's the answer.

Spend one hour a day writing my novel

It's a good beginning.

1. commit to a career which would turn me on.

2. explore dating and whether a committed relationship would be for me.

3. earn more money and go on holiday

Use my time better.
Shake myself out of the daze.
Challenge myself
have faith in myself

I am happy with most everything in my life but...

Right now if I could sort out some health issues that would be great.

If I had a real partner...someone to count on.....that would be wonderful.

Other than that I'm pretty content.

1. Be able to be completely self employed creatively with long term financial security.

2. Find fun, progressive, constructive, fulfilling, committed love, and get married and have at least one kid.

Find a (different) job that pays me what I deserve to earn and has health benefits.

virginie74 said:

I think that is an awesome and achievable goal, and your story idea is really good too

nyse said:

Probably

connorhawke said:

yes. They're getting on my nerves again

Alej said:

not if you weren't involved!

take out a hit

I have to be content with my life as it is at the moment
a job
money- cause I have nothing atm

ZombieKitten said:

Thanks Charlotte, in fact I started already...

virginie74 said:

Charlotte, I've been curious about this for some time.

You've expressed a lot of frustration about certain aspects of your daily routine, etc. etc., but you've found strength enough to pursue a career...an enviable career in photography, and try and go down that path.


Do you personally feel that your place in life has been chosen for you and that you are pursuing ways of coping. Or do you feel that you are in charge, and that there are things in your path that you just have to deal with?


I'm starting to think that my life is chosen for me. I don't feel awful about it. But I'm realizing no matter how hard I fight, I get steered in certain directions, and much of my discontent is in fighting it.

Imago said:

My life direction is this:

it went exactly the way I had always planned it to, and I've realised it isn't all that

now I want other things too!

I've kind of ended up without much further ambition, it's at this point rockstars turn to drugs and the occult, and I'm not even motivated enough to do that my life is full of "have tos" rather than "want tos". Even my photography became a have to as soon as I made it into a work thing I don't even feel like taking photos any more

I don't know if this even answers any of your questions!!!

I make the rules of my life, it's just hard to get the other 4 to comply

connorhawke said:

ZombieKitten said:

Nothing. I've been very blessed. It would be nice to work out all family issues, but that wouldn't make my life "significantly better"; I'm a firm believer in the maxim that happiness comes from within.

...Oh! I just thought of something!

No more bad hair days!

Ace said:

see!

ZombieKitten said:

Shit. That's what I'm afraid of. I'm pursing some artistic endeavors I used to think I didn't have time for. But I don't want them to end up feeling like work .

CalhounSq said:

If you keep hitting them with hammers, it's not going to happen.

connorhawke said:

If you have the talent you'll be fine, the construction stuff you can learn. I found the technical side of things really dull and learnt the minimum to get me through, I just didn't feel I had the flair to design great things and that's what I think an architect should do.

Stick at it, it's a great career if you have the talent.

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I had it in my hands when I was a teenager. Now they go for over ten grand - I won't be able to enjoy life fully until I get my baby back.

(N.B. notice the use of point form as instructed on the top post)