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PrintableMach said: Lammastide said: Indeed. Best thing was to have long talks prior and refresh with long talks and share intentions and more talks without that/those I could not see staying with a person for over 24 yrs I learned that the hard ( mistrusting and assumption ) way before meeting Michael  AMEN!! My hard way of learning was actually breaching the trust and having to own up to it....but Mach hit it right on the head!! You have to talk about potentially uncomfortable stuff up front if you expect to deal with it... and despite my struggles with Peter Pan Syndrome in the past, my wife and I have been together for 21 years...don't let anyone convince you that you can't get past an infidelity or what have you...if the relationship is worth it, you can get past anything! He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.
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I'd probably get turned on. | |
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novabrkr said: I'd probably get turned on.
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reneGade20 said: Mach said: Best thing was to have long talks prior and refresh with long talks and share intentions and more talks without that/those I could not see staying with a person for over 24 yrs I learned that the hard ( mistrusting and assumption ) way before meeting Michael AMEN!! My hard way of learning was actually breaching the trust and having to own up to it....but Mach hit it right on the head!! You have to talk about potentially uncomfortable stuff up front if you expect to deal with it... and despite my struggles with Peter Pan Syndrome in the past, my wife and I have been together for 21 years...don't let anyone convince you that you can't get past an infidelity or what have you...if the relationship is worth it, you can get past anything!  Indeed
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Fauxie said: Vendetta1 said: I think some guys are trying to get their rocks off and that's one of the reasons I made the comparison to porn. I think a comparison can be made to strip clubs, too.
Other times, it could be a breakdown in communication with that couple. Can be the thrill of it, I guess, with no intention of taking things further. Shaky ground though. Plenty of men (and women) won't be able to stick at just that. It's already a betrayal of sorts, imho, but not a dealbreaker to me, if that's ALL it is and it stops. Suggests some major problems in a relationship though, so not something to sweep under the carpet. I agree and understand except I can't bring myself to not make it a deal breaker. Just not as forgiving as I used to be. for some reason the porn and strip clubs don't bother me. I think its because of the one on one intimacy of messaging that's the difference? | |
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Fauxie said: Vendetta1 said: I think some guys are trying to get their rocks off and that's one of the reasons I made the comparison to porn. I think a comparison can be made to strip clubs, too.
Other times, it could be a breakdown in communication with that couple. Can be the thrill of it, I guess, with no intention of taking things further. Shaky ground though. Plenty of men (and women) won't be able to stick at just that. It's already a betrayal of sorts, imho, but not a dealbreaker to me, if that's ALL it is and it stops. Suggests some major problems in a relationship though, so not something to sweep under the carpet. F that. If I found out my man was sexting some bitch I would knock his ass out! There's no need for it and if it's happening then he's not the one for me! | |
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I like to dial 1-800 and then some dirty phrase, like, HOT PUSS. The girls talk dirty.
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To make a thief, make an owner; to create crime, create laws. | |
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Fauxie said: heybaby said: Why would he? Which why I don't think its right. It's about whether there's an attempt to keep a secret. Personally I'd always look at whatever I'm doing and consider whether there's anything about it that I wouldn't want my wife to see or know about. Anything she wouldn't understand or that could make her worry. Any of those things and I know it'd be wrong.
People telling lies or being secretive is the big problem for me. "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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tackam said: Fauxie said: It's about whether there's an attempt to keep a secret. Personally I'd always look at whatever I'm doing and consider whether there's anything about it that I wouldn't want my wife to see or know about. Anything she wouldn't understand or that could make her worry. Any of those things and I know it'd be wrong.
People telling lies or being secretive is the big problem for me. Yep. | |
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ultrablue said: JustErin said: I wouldn't be happy about it, but I still don't think it's cheating. Your others are insignificant. Huh? | |
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JustErin said: ultrablue said: Your others are insignificant. Huh? AKA they aren't significant enough for you to care! | |
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CarrieLee said: JustErin said: Huh? AKA they aren't significant enough for you to care! Who the hell could someone who knows nothing about me or people I care about know how I feel about people?  | |
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That would be one shitty day for sure. I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt. | |
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Cheaters never prosper. FUNKNROLL!  "February 2014, wow". 'dre. | |
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JustErin said: CarrieLee said: AKA they aren't significant enough for you to care! Who the hell could someone who knows nothing about me or people I care about know how I feel about people? Maybe because it came off as though you wouldn't care if this happened? I dunno... | |
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CarrieLee said: JustErin said: Who the hell could someone who knows nothing about me or people I care about know how I feel about people? Maybe because it came off as though you wouldn't care if this happened? I dunno... Well, that would be a really stupid interpretation of what I wrote - which was simply that I didn't consider that cheating. I never said that I wouldn't care. | |
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JustErin said: CarrieLee said: Maybe because it came off as though you wouldn't care if this happened? I dunno... Well, that would be a really stupid interpretation of what I wrote - which was simply that I didn't consider that cheating. I never said that I wouldn't care. Please forgive my stupidity. | |
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ultrablue said: JustErin said: Well, that would be a really stupid interpretation of what I wrote - which was simply that I didn't consider that cheating. I never said that I wouldn't care. Please forgive my stupidity. Post your pic and then I'll let you know if I forgive you. | |
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cheating is cheating period | |
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Lammastide said: CarrieLee said: Punch him right in the balls.
A knee might be more effective and take him off guard better. depends on how tall you are punch or a knee dont matter what it is its gonna hurt. I know my 2 yr old punched me there I saw stars then i was on my knees head on the stong flag tiles gasping for breath whilst the wife laughed. I asked for a devorce but she said no i havent suffered enough!!!!! | |
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For all the progressiveness that happens in the P&R forum, there certainly isn't much of it here in this thread.
People need a reality check from this fairytale/soap opera madness of love and cheating.  To make a thief, make an owner; to create crime, create laws. | |
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novabrkr said: I'd probably get turned on.
co-sign To make a thief, make an owner; to create crime, create laws. | |
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