Alej said:

So am i.....

babooshleeky said:

!

*pulls out her Waiting to Exhale kit*

It's on like Donkey Kong.

JDInteractive said:

It would be the end of it

CarrieLee said:

~laughs~

Really ... over a 24 yr period ?

I don't consider it cheating.

JustErin said:

But you'd still get pissed if your significant other was texting naughty things to another girl. Especially if she's younger

If you say no I won't believe you!

I saw on Dr, Phil one time that it is considered a "mental affair"

JustErin said:

CarrieLee said:

I wouldn't be happy about it, but I still don't think it's cheating.

heybaby said:

JustErin said:

Your others are insignificant.

JustErin said:

Me neither.

babooshleeky said:

I consider something a mental affair if that person was sharing part of his or her life, secrets and such, with this other person. Talking about sex? Big fuckin' deal. Do people get upset if their man or woman watches porn?

Alej said:

now that's hot

Tell her to stop it or else leave.

Vendetta1 said:

That's not the same. Just watching porn is one thing (by yourself and no its not right to watch it with some one else other than who your in a relationship with either-imo). There is a difference between just talking about sex in general with a person but to do it intimately in an attempt to turn that person on or flirt is not appropriate to do with another person if your in a relationship with someone else. In a sense I think its coupled with emotional and mental unfaithfulness.

heybaby said:

I know it's not the same but in a way, it's similar. A man is looking at another woman getting turned on by her. Too me, it's a huge difference when you are not actually going to have sex with that person that you are flirting or whatever with.

Getting to the bottom of the matter, I believe, is key. Why would a man want to flirt by email or text?

Vendetta1 said:

Exactly. What are the motivations and intentions? What are they trying to get out of it and why?

Fauxie said:

exactly

Vendetta1 said:

Why would he? Which why I don't think its right.

Fauxie said:

I think some guys are trying to get their rocks off and that's one of the reasons I made the comparison to porn. I think a comparison can be made to strip clubs, too.

Other times, it could be a breakdown in communication with that couple.

heybaby said:

It's about whether there's an attempt to keep a secret. Personally I'd always look at whatever I'm doing and consider whether there's anything about it that I wouldn't want my wife to see or know about. Anything she wouldn't understand or that could make her worry. Any of those things and I know it'd be wrong.

Vendetta1 said:

Can be the thrill of it, I guess, with no intention of taking things further. Shaky ground though. Plenty of men (and women) won't be able to stick at just that. It's already a betrayal of sorts, imho, but not a dealbreaker to me, if that's ALL it is and it stops. Suggests some major problems in a relationship though, so not something to sweep under the carpet.

Fauxie said:

I agree.

Vendetta1 said:

i luv u dnt tell mon kthnx

Fauxie said:

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