My dad's getting another divorce at 65, so age isn't always the deciding factor

Supa honey, did u not get your cheese again!!

tinaz said:

See what happens. It's a snowball effect!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

LMAO!

tinaz said:

Just give me my cheese and nobody gets hurt

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

18 is too early to get married.

Ok Im gonna write the note she wants. But I want to write it in spanish or french so that it pisses her off cuz she dont know the language, neither do I. Can anyone help me out on that??

I don't know about marriage but one thing this thread shows is that most 20 year olds are pretty stupid.

JustErin said:

meaning me?

dance4me3121 said:

Dude, go find a new girlfriend. Fuck, eat cheetos, play Wii

dance4me3121 said:

Why do all of that? Not worth it.

dance4me3121 said:

Why would any mature, sane adult want to help you do something childish like that?What end does it accomplish? One big fat, nuthin. It's just drama for drama's sake, when you could be out having fun with other people.

Seriously, you need to let this chick go, get some new hobbies, and find a new girl. Go look for some hobby specific websites so you can meet some new people who have the same interests as you, and go out and see some bands so you can meet girls.

This girl is with somebody else now. Not you. If she wanted to be with you, then she wouldn't be with this other guy period, she wouldn't have stood before God, Buddha, the judge, or whoever and married him.

Take it from an older woman who has had every variety of boyfriend-dating-marriage scenario possible since she was your age: your ex-girlfriend is trying to PLAY you. The fact that she's badgering you for a letter shows she's immature and selfish. She clearly has no idea what commitment is, otherwise she wouldn't be trying to have her cake and eat it too. She wants the false security she feels by being married, yet she still wants to be the life of the party by having "back burner" boys to fawn all over her and be at her beck and call. She doesn't want you, she wants the feelings you make her feel when you give her that attention she selfishly craves. She doesn't love you. She loves the idea of you... like a puppet she can manipulate when her heart is bored and needs some excitement.

Is that what you want to be, the "back burner" drama boy? Even if her marriage isn't perfect and she still showed interest in you, at the very least you've seen this is a dishonest girl who can't be true to any guy, so why would you want to accept that you'd never be her numero uno dude? Once a cheater and a liar, always a cheater and a liar. Surely you don't wanna go out like that, now do you? It makes you both look like you have the "sloppy seconds" label plastered all over you. Again, ask yourself if this is what you really want when there's so much world to see, and so many babes to be met.

Let's not even get started on the concept that marriage is serious business. It has far reaching social, financial, and legal implications that you do not want to get entangled in if something goes wrong with those two. Not to mention just the common sense decency of respecting the institution of marriage itself. Once that ring is on the finger and the wedding liscence is signed sealed and delivered, that means: [b]married person =no lookey, no touchey

As for all these stupid ideas you keep getting to provoke her: Dude, grow up and let it GO. Here's a list of reasons to help you along;

1. The more attention you give her, positive or negative, the more power she has over your feeling and emotions because you're opening the door for her to push your buttons.

2. You could seriously end up getting your ass kicked by her husband. Sorry, but a cheating, manipulative, ex who clearly didn't want you as her permanent man is not worth getting a beat-down over.

3. There are 4 billion people on this planet. There are more than enough girls to go around minus the drama.


Listen, you're obviously pissed off and jealous because she's moved on. But you're still vunerable and she knows it (and likes it because it strokes her ego). This is probably why she keeps dangling the carrot stick of friendship in front of your eyes; to keep you in a state of wishful thinking so you will continue to lavish attention on her, and she can get her jollies off on it. Let me tell you, besides getting back out there and meeting new people (for yourself), you want to know the coldest thing you could do to her to piss her off?

Never respond to her again.

Wish her congratulations and good luck with the marriage with a nice Hallmark card, adressed to her and her husband. It's the socially correct thing to do, and it also covers your butt in case they ever get into it about any secrets she may be trying create and keep. You've been transparent, said your peace respectfully, and that's it. After that, cut the ties cold turkey from this whole mess and move on with your life. No phone calls, no going out for coffee or hanging out. Just CUT it. It'll take about 3 months before you forget her. Beyond that, I'm with Cal, get a new chick, eat some cheetos, and play some Wii...
[Edited 8/19/09 2:00am]

novabrkr said:

I thought that was what university was for

dance4me3121 said:

So u were half-criticizing her?
There are couples who have gotten married only after a few weeks of knowin each other and have lasted til death parted them.

dance4me3121 said:

We all kno age is just a number and maturity has little to do wit age,
but it's statements like this that makes one ask "how young are u?"
Now, you're set out to be a homewrecker.
Let them wreck themselves...don't do it for them.

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dance4me3121 said:

ill be 20 december1. so wat? if im not very mature. shes played a ton of mind games with me in the past but I am gonna the advise and 4get about this girl for good. And I do have the strongest feeling they wont last a year.

Just read ottie's post everyday for the next week and you be fine.

NMuzakNSoul said:

Yeah, Ottensen's post is right on

Ottensen said:

I was typing up a note in Spanish