Ok so the love of my life or should I say ex love of my life,recently got married. Shes not 30,shes not in her 20s,she is 18. What is the deal with people getting married so early? I dont ever want to be married,the idea of waking up 2 the same person everyday and arguing a lot and even sharing a bed or tv just isnt 4 me. I was in love with her,still am actually but I would never marry her.

First comes job then comes marriage then comes shawty with a baby carriage

Marriage isn't for everybody. I think that 18 is too young to get married. but to each its own. I've learned to live and let live and wish them the best. Sure you don't have sour grapes over her not being with you?

Well she still wants me 2 write her letters,and Ill do that. Im gonna have flowers sent to her also,see what her man thinks about that

I don't get the early marriage thing myself, either. But then again I guess some people are really just that lucky to meet their special someone in their youth. Hell, half of my classmates from elementary school on up are married. Kinda depresses me a bit. Am I behind at 23? But if they're happy, I can't hate.

It separates you from your mother.

dance4me3121 said:

Yea, children shouldn't get married... or send flowers

I've been wondering that too. I remember my senior year, at least 3 girls were pregnant



barely 2 years later, people were getting married, having babies.....

I got married when I was 18. I've been married 18 years now. I don't regret getting married that young at all. I've never cheated on him or had any desire to. He does get on my nerves now though, but then again, so does a lot!

Like I said, I was 18. He was 22. We decided to get married then because we were so crazy, desperately, madly in love. There was nothing else we could do. We had to get married. I wasn't pregnant or anything, but we wanted each other that much. Waiting never crossed my mind, nor did just living together.

Of course, I wouldn't want my kids to get married that young. I would figure that they were making a mistake and that person just wasn't right for them.

It depends on the person, I guess. I wasn't a partier, so I wasn't missing the party life. I had no desire or money to travel or see the world, so I didn't miss out on that. I didn't want to go to college. I basically got of high school, got a job and got married. It was right for me, but not for everyone.

dustysgirl said:

I was 19 he was 21...weve been married for 22 VERY happy years! Some people are just "ready" some are not...

dance4me3121 said:

Maybe it's a good thing u didn't get married indeed.
Criticizing her for gettin married young and still being a homewrecker


I know of cpuples that have gotten married pretty early and have gone right through til death parted them.

JayJai said:

I wasnt really crititicizing her, shes only known the guy for a few months

don't send the flowers.

Marriage happens at different times for everyone. I actually went to school with a girl who got married at 14, and she is still married to this day. Now not all cases will turn out as great as hers, but hey...if they are happy, think they can make it, then more power to them.

I wanted to get married ever since I was in H.S...I'm 24 now....it's not for everyone. If someone is 18 and wants to get married let them do it....they will learn about it later on...life lessons. I'm not religious, but I can't imagine doing IT or having kids before I'm married...not religious...

I got married when I had just turned 21... It has been the longest hardest road imaginable...18 years and counting...that being said...it should be ILLEGAL to get married before you are 25... just my opinion...

pardonme4livin said:

just because it was a bumpy road for you..doesn't mean it will be for others...but I should shut up...since I'm not married.

Early marriage guarantees 2 things:

Male entrapment
Fulfillment of the Princess fantasy

An 18 year old boy is likely to cave to all kinds of pressure from family and friends.

Girls are raised to believe and expect that they deserve a Princess existence. Pushing a boy into marriage only helps further that goal.

Marriage at 18 is a guaranteed divorce sentence. Check back with her in 3 years. She'll probably be a single mom.
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And don't send the flowers!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You're making it sound scary...

peacenlovealways said:

It is! I agree with Kenny, it should be illegal until after 25. 18 is way too young. you don't even know who the hell you are at 18. You think you know the world but you don't know shit. Anyone who's been 18 and grown up, will tell you the exact same thing

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

suppose they are mature?...I was always picky with men...that's why I'm still single... hmmm

peacenlovealways said:

Men don't mature. Not even in the 40s. They fake it well, but they don't really mature, certainly not at 18

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Why shouldnt I send the flowers?

dance4me3121 said:

Because you're being a stupid asshole or you're helping her to be a stupid cunt. Her being in a new relationship she should really be concentrating on that new person but it sounds like she's playing games and you giving her flowers and notes when she isn't going to be with you is just getting played. Why would you want that?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

and yeah getting married at 18 is fucking insane (perhaps getting married is insane )

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I agree 100%

I'll say this...marrying the WRONG person is a bad idea.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Not to mention he might get his fucking ass kicked

CalhounSq said:

well there's that too. And you know the sick thing? These dudes will be fighting when she is the problem and she will stand back, watching the blood flow feeling completely vindicated in her princess mentality that she is just a damsel in distress and these men are only trying to protect her.

See, women can be evil as men

peacenlovealways said: