I'm hanging out with this woman who has been a friend (I've dated another woman and broke up with her in the time that I've been friends with the new woman). So now... I need to break the ice with the "friend". At least try to!

Any good breaking the ice stories on here?

PS I went back and changed every instance of "girl" to "woman" in this post... just to be taken more seriously. She is 29.

Erm..

You're very good looking. I don't think you should have a problem.






With women it's tricky. With guys, I pretty much know in about 2 minutes whether he'll give me his nappy dugout.

how long has it been since you ended it with the other one?

i had an answer, but then i realized it was useless. sorry!
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kiss her

Being a man, you should already know that the opposite sex can't read your mind. Therefore, if you really think this relationship has a future, tell her how you feel.

You must be prepared to lose the friendship in doing this, so be sure. But if she's that good, then she must be worth taking the risk? Faint heart never won fair maiden, etc.

Start complimenting her.

Not in a pathetic desperate way, but in an offhand yet sincere way. Tell her she looks nice. Start making her feel good about herself and she'll unconsciously start feeling more confident and happy when she's around you.

Then find a way to get into an innocent discussion about likes and dislikes in relationships. Tell her something you like in a woman, and casually compare her favorably to that quality. For example, "I can't stand when a woman [is too insecure, wears too much makeup, won't eat in front of a man, etc]. It's so much hotter when a girl [is secure in herself, has natural beauty, eats like a damn pig, whatever] - you know, like you!" The key is to be smooth about it, though. Never make it seem like you're trying to gas her head up.

Tell her jokes. Even if they're stupid. If she likes you, she'll giggle - even if the jokes aren't funny. If she just likes you as a friend, she'll chuckle politely.

By now if you're paying attention, you'll notice whether she's warming up or remaining in a cool just-friends mode.

Good luck!

seriously... life is short... just kiss her

PunkMistress said:

Compare them to pigs. Interesting approach....

OhNoNotBlissAgain said:

or pour a bottle of beer over her breast.

Good Luck!

ZombieKitten said:

a few months (maybe 2?)

whistle said:

why was it useless? Now I'm curious!

OhNoNotBlissAgain said:

Probably the most simple thing to do! Just need that moment to arise (no pun intended)

PunkMistress said:

Oh, we're past the compliment phase... I just need to sense that open window to make a move. And if she only wants to be friends, I think it will stiff be cool. I guess I have nothing to lose and just need to try. My hesitation is that to find that moment when it seems smooth. Like Billy Dee Williams

ufoclub said:

I'm not a doctor, but I think that's what you call a Freudian Slip!

mcmeekle said:

You win!

ufoclub said:

Maybe your keyboard's different to mine, but the F and the L are miles apart!

And I think it'll be only a matter of time before you get your girl. Good luck!

mcmeekle said:

Busted!

If you're getting the vibe from her then just surprise her with the 'moment'! One of the previous posters was right, life is too short, man.

Just go for it, son

ufoclub said:

Just phone her up, tell her how you feel and ask if she wants to go on a proper date to dinner or a movie or something.

ufoclub said:

i didn't properly read your first post. i didn't notice that you were ready to make a move. i saw 'breaking the ice' and thought you were still at square one.

I say just go in and try to kiss her. If she responds, awesome! If she pushes you away then you know it's not gonna happen! Why beat around the bush and waste time? Just go in for the kill!

Good luck!