Flo6 said:

One of my co-workers is around that age and is pregnant with her second child. I've been hearing of women just starting to have their children in their forties because they established their careers firsts. That wasn’t what I set out to do it just happen to work out that way for me, I would like to have the experience of having at least one child.

now that i've reached my late 30s my biological kid clock is ticking way loud but i cannot fathom going into having a child 'alone' i'd at least want to start out as a married couple (one can never be sure how long ur marriage will truly last) but i definitely NEED a partner going in

in my 20s the urge to have kids wasnt nearly as strong for me as it is now...im not sure how much of it has to do with the quickly closing window of opportunity or if my sense of maternalness is just hitting its peak

sometimes i try to imagine how a 'normal' day with kid(s) would go and then my clock begins to tick at much lower volume and with less urgency

...but then i see a beautiful little bambino or bambina and the feelings come rushing back


no way!!!!!
sooo i guess my answer to the thread's question is yes

sweet said:

ZombieKitten said:

Did you comment?

ThreadBare said:

sorry I did I said "no way " but I did it all wrong

ThreadBare said:

sorry I did I said "no way " but I did it all wrong

ZombieKitten said:

we're the same age silly

sweet said:

I thought you were about 10 years younger than me

ZombieKitten said:

charlotte! r u SERIOUS (not the orger)?

ur funny + cute

I am extremely jealous of people who want kids. To want to bring another person in this world to give unconditional love to. Some people think it's selfish to bring a kid in the world, and I do agree on some levels but I know some folks who would make amazing parents. all I ask anyone do is consider every possible scenario when it is being considered.

In a way, I think kids make you selfless. When you want to do this job right, you give up everything you have for these tiny people you love. I don't particularly feel I should have had kids but I believe my life has been saved by them.

ZombieKitten said:

charlotte! r u SERIOUS (not the orger)?

ur funny + cute

I am extremely jealous of people who want kids. To want to bring another person in this world to give unconditional love to. Some people think it's selfish to bring a kid in the world, and I do agree on some levels but I know some folks who would make amazing parents. all I ask anyone do is consider every possible scenario when it is being considered.

In a way, I think kids make you selfless. When you want to do this job right, you give up everything you have for these tiny people you love. I don't particularly feel I should have had kids but I believe my life has been saved by them.

sweet said:

totally!!!!

I am extremely jealous of people who want kids. To want to bring another person in this world to give unconditional love to. Some people think it's selfish to bring a kid in the world, and I do agree on some levels but I know some folks who would make amazing parents. all I ask anyone do is consider every possible scenario when it is being considered.

In a way, I think kids make you selfless. When you want to do this job right, you give up everything you have for these tiny people you love. I don't particularly feel I should have had kids but I believe my life has been saved by them.

Vendetta1 said:

I was thinking about this, yesterday.

ThreadBare said:

I believe that people should take into consideration how hard it can be. One of my kids cried all the time so I cried all the time. The next one developed a disability. The third one I was left alone to be a single parent when her father got tired and walked away. it was the first time I had ever considered having an abortion. I had to pay for childcare for three kids and keep them fed and a roof over their heads. I was reminded again yesterday how blessed and fortunate I was that I had a friend that helped me get a job so I could provide for my kids.

I think people generally [at least in the West] are having children later than before.

Wish you all the best with your plan. You may have to make a compromise here and there, but I'm sue it will happen if you focus on this goal hard enough.

Statuesqque said:

i want *A* kid some day. i'd have to be in a place in life where i feel like i have an ideal home and that i'm in an ideal financial place to give a child a good upbringing, and that may never happen for me, but if it does...sure, i've always been open to the idea of being a parent.

Anxiety said:

Wouldn't that be terribly stressful for you though? I mean, having to wake up each morning and try and find your way home so you can dress and feed your child before school? I know mapquest helps, but I'd think it would still be a rough adjustment.

Imago said:

this coming from someone whose idea of parenthood is going to a beach and spraying his sperm on an abandoned eggsac, then skittering off to find some fresh barnacles for dinner.

Do I want kids? Yes.

Do I hate kids? Yes, that too.

I hear it's different when the crying child is yours, but I'm not so sure...

ThreadBare said:

I want to know what IS it that makes folks desire a child of their own.

is it because they want someone to love that will love them back unconditionally? (cause, you know kids only love you back if you give them a nintendo DS )

is it because you think you can raise a good human? (the only SOUND reason)

to fulfill a need in you? Your missing link to happiness?

to leave a lasting legacy of yourself? your ongoing bloodline?

to right all the wrongs in your own life? to make your kid get that doctorate you never had the chance to have?

to have someone to look after you in your old age? so you will never be lonely again?