ThreadBare said:

I was in the military and went clubbing ALOT. I mean 3 or 4 times a week standard. Sometimes, every night but Wednessday night (cause nothing at the time was worth going to).

At age 23 my girlfriends where 18-20. At age 28, the were 18-20.
At around 29ish, I left the military and that lifestyle slowed down. I also matured slightly in my tastes.

In Bangkok, everyone I've bumped into have been 25-28ish. I, for some reason, attract younger women/men. And I don't really have any preference for younger types.

It hasn't been as easy the last 3 years or so as I got really out of shape compared to what the shape I was in, but I'm correcting that now. The difference is this time around, I have no interest of going back into that younger age meat market. I need someone with career aspirations, a good head on their shoulders, and no emotional neuroses . Someone confident--not the emotional crippled pigeons I seem to attract


I don't know you or what you're like. And I honestly am in no position to give advice. All I can say is that I'd rather be married with Children if I had to choice--but that ship has more or less sailed, so the next few years will be an adventure.

psychodelicide said:

Indeed.

CarrieMpls said:

I think I should state now that my entire Madonna comment was a dissengenous post set up strictly to use the very stupid and suggestive "making your person grow" line.


I apologize to anyone who takes my posts seriously.

ThreadBare said:

The question is are you willing to be responsible for another life? are you ok with dealing with the same woman for the rest of your life for the child if the relationship doesn't work out? That should give you your answer.

heybaby said:

thank u.

Biological Clock ticking? nope

Married? nope

Financially Secure? nope

Big props to those who are parents. I think since high school when I heard about girls getting pregnant, that sort of made me set against having children. Within the last decade, the door has slightly cracked, but it really comes down to the other factors. Children are expensive and that has to be a consideration as well as having a strong male figure in the child's life. The times are just so different compared to when I was born in the early 70's. I'm auntie to four children of three friends. Spending time with them and then letting them go is a great deal since they aren't mine. The idea of being pregnant for nine months also scares me, especially with possible medical issues that could arise. I know everything can't happen as planned out, and I know overthinking gets the best of me.

I like working with children at church or in tutoring role or as auntie, and I want to work with children in other capacities, so for me it is more important to work with the ones that are already here than having one. I don't get asked about having children, so I don't feel that pressure. Now to find a guy who is fine with that is probably the biggest challenge.

heybaby said:

Definitely think the capacity is there. The will? Hmmm...

Imago said:

What the fuck was I thinking???

one of me is too many.

SCNDLS said:

Imago said:

@ "adventure." It certainly is one.

Imago said:

Now he tells me...

Off my thread, Dan!!!!

funkyslsistah said:

Yeah, and in your case, having some time away from them might be crucial.

ThreadBare said:

I like your threads

ThreadBare said:

I don't mind, I just turned 42 in May. Granted I don't have a whole lot of time but I think I still have a small window.

Statuesqque said:

Yep, that's what I hear.

Statuesqque said:

Threadbare, meat Statuesque.


Fill out my "August 2009 Questionaire" thread, see if you're a good match, and send me 20 bucks.


thanks.

Imago said:

You better see about Dance... She got a little rattled, a few posts back.

ThreadBare said:

We're orgnoting

whistle said:

don't worry no matter how hard I try, my kids are NOTHING like me

SCNDLS said:

cosigned! kids kill all your mojo.
I woould kill to be "childless" again...raising a nephew and still single.

ThreadBare said:

we are going to name our children after his org accounts.
and apparently rushing07 will get involved at some point

DanceWme said:

HOT

Imago said:

You and your indeliberate puns...

DanceWme said:

heybaby said:

i know right?

Dan will make a wonderful father.

Imago said:

okay, I'll go check it out.

ThreadBare said:

Well... in a little over 14 days I'll be 42.
More than ANYTHING, I wanted children. That biological clock ticked sooooo loud all the time!
Last year, I had major surgery and that physical option was taken away from me.

Sure, I can adopt, but that's not what I'm talking about (so don't think U're "helping me" by offering it ). I wanted to experience pregnancy and childbirth and all those things like other women.

I'm a teacher. I've spent at least 7 hours a day, 180 days a year (+ summer school) with other people's children for the last 20 years. I've learned to adjust to the fact that I won't have my own.

no, i just dont like 'em in my business.