evenstar3 said:

evenstar3siggy said:

onenitealone said:

I am definitely confident in my ability to function as a productive, intelligent adult but I am not confident when it comes to how I look.

Cinnie said:

How U doin' delicate?
can I have it?
Can I have it?
can i?
can i?
can I have yo numba?

dance4me3121 said:

depends if i bee'z lookn good like that.then they can stare at alot of this.

NMuzakNSoul said:

People can be insensitive.
When I first came out of the hospital last year, my Mom took me to the mall and pushed me around in a wheelchair because I couldn't walk for a long period of time. People would gawk, or salespeople would address my Mom like I was invisible. That experience taught me a lot.

Don't let them get U down. U keep givin' them that cute smile!

chocolate1 said:

Thanks.

Sorry you had to experience that.

And yes they can be, I remember a friend at school 8 years ago, he has a similar disability, he told me a story. When he would go to the store with his mother and go to the counter to pay for the product, even though he HELD it himself, and held his wallet HIMSELF, they still looked at his mom (they were not looking at him one second) the whole time. He got upset and told them off and left the store. I totally understand.

That's why Stevie Wonder is a huge influence on me personally also, the way he deals with his disability he beat all the odds. I was happy my father was able to pass this on to Stevie personally last year.

Imago said:

evenstar3 said:

I'm not talking about that.

It just seems to me that many people who complain about being gawked at actually do things that make them stand out. Women who wear clothing that shows off their...ahem..."attributes" - then bitch that men stare and otherwise objectify them. People who get conspicuous piercings or tattoos - and then whine when others look.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any of those things. But if you want to live an inconspicuous, anonymous life, that ain't the way to go about it.

whistle said:

it never worked for me again! but then again men in this country aren't forward like that

Thai people stare a LOT

If you look at them they don't look away either. They're not ashamed or self-conscious about staring. They just keep on staring as long as they feel like it. If you're walking past they'll often turn around as you go by if they wish to continue staring. I imagine I get this more as a foreigner here, but in general they do like a good stare. They have no qualms about picking their nose in public either, or walking around with a Poysian inhaler stuck up their nose.

Fauxie said:

yeah but that is to be expected since you are walking around with that mysterious glow all the time

NMuzakNSoul said:

Man I'm hip my sister was in a wheelchair most of her life and when we would go out people would look at her like she was inhuman it used to make me upset till my mother sat me down and said " Listen i know you love you sister and you would do anything for her but you have to look passed people's ignorance and smile at them"

Fauxie said:

They stare at Westerners cause we're "walking ATMs"

ZombieKitten said:

That was kinda freaky. I managed to get the only bright shard of light right across my face.

Imago said:

You should see them when we're out with New. People think he's Mon's kid (surely not mine!), but he doesn't even look remotely like her. Even more fun when Mon's not around and I'm with New. The stares!

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Fauxie said:

Trinis are totally the same. They will just stop their cars besides you and stare art you or start saying something to you.

if people stare at you it means you are really good looking or really ugly.

DesireeNevermind said:

Or looking really different from others.

Serious said:

Or being intensely fierce.

I pointedly stare back and smirk, or if I am walking with a friend I stare back then nudge my friend point at the starer and .

I find that puts their eyes back in their eyes back in their heads.

yes, it's mean...but it is only what they deserve for being rude in the first place.


Edited: I only use the Smirk if I feel the starer is being a dick about it. The Smirk is a scared and powerful weapon to be used only in the most extreme circumstances (I learned the smirk from watching DBZ - Vegeta is the Prince of Smirk!)
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IAintTheOne said:

Sorry to hear that, I must say nowadays it is more accepted overall and people are more used to seeing someone in a wheelchair. And when I see people I smile at them and 9 out of 10 they smile back.

It is not all bad, because I experienced a lot of great things too. Like when I went to the club a few years ago and had to go to a different room in the complex...All sorts of people of all sorts of cultures and backgrounds made way for me to pass through and smiled at me. Male and Female. That made me feel like a person of the world.

NMuzakNSoul said:

You know for me I am often insecure when I see somebody in a wheelchair. Of course I am aware that they are like everybody else apart from depending on it. But I am just afraid that if I look they might take it as staring and if I don't look they might think I look away on purpose . My dad was in a wheelchair himself for some years so I feel even more stupid to worry about maybe doing something wrong instead of just smiling and not even paying any attention to it .

Serious said:

It's okay, it really depends on the person in the wheelchair too, my dad used to make a good point: When you see someone walking they probably think a million things, so instead of playing what if I just look and smile regardless.

NMuzakNSoul said:

i just stare back.....

Oh you are not going to stare at me...if I catch it, I walk up to the person and say "Can I help you?" or "Are you lost?"

Unless it's an attractive woman...then I blush and try to complete a sentence.

Stare back. Have a staring contest

...but if a child is staring it's kind of cute because you know they are just examining everything in their orbit. You are just as interesting as a butterfly or can of Spaghetti O's.

Alej said:

God, you're brave.