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Why is dating so hard? Maybe I should post on a dating site? My AD:
I'm sorta smart. I can at least fool folks by taking really good pics and I don't look like Tiny. I'm a black chick, if you're into that sorta thing. I have a job. I've never been a stripper. I'm not a former crack user. I know how to say some big words. I can read. My parents new each other before having sex and having me. What else do I need to put? This dating thing SUCKSSSSS! I was told by someone that I don't "put myself out there". I have no idea what that means. HELP!!! ( I know this is the nuttiest thing to do, asking the Org for dating tips.  ) | |
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For goodness sake DO NOT join a dating site  PRINCE IS WATCHING U  " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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I think when people say u have to "put ureself out there" is that u have to swan around in all the bars and clubs etc...but I don;'t know what they expect u to do
Does it mean u have to look depserate...give every guy u think is cute the  or wear a freakin big sign "IM SINGLE TAKE ME" PRINCE IS WATCHING U " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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chillichocaholic said: I think when people say u have to "put ureself out there" is that u have to swan around in all the bars and clubs etc...but I don;'t know what they expect u to do
Does it mean u have to look depserate...give every guy u think is cute the or wear a freakin big sign "IM SINGLE TAKE ME" Maybe I need a sign!!!! That's it!! | |
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I hate that whole " you gotta put yourself out there " thing , you know it will happen when you least expect it . I always think that if you make yourself too available people can pick up on it and thats not good .
I wouldnt join anything online if you are seriously looking for dates .... | |
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Pochacco said: I hate that whole " you gotta put yourself out there " thing , you know it will happen when you least expect it . I always think that if you make yourself too available people can pick up on it and thats not good .
I wouldnt join anything online if you are seriously looking for dates .... Exactly....  | |
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I'm sort of right there with you. Except I'm done looking. Or even wasting time thinking about looking. I've come to the conclusion that I'm far happier on my own.
So I've got no help for you. |
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PanthaGirl said: Pochacco said: I hate that whole " you gotta put yourself out there " thing , you know it will happen when you least expect it . I always think that if you make yourself too available people can pick up on it and thats not good .
I wouldnt join anything online if you are seriously looking for dates .... Exactly.... Unless of course ure up for meeeting people that Crazy dosent even begin to describe PRINCE IS WATCHING U " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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Pochacco said: I hate that whole " you gotta put yourself out there " thing , you know it will happen when you least expect it . I always think that if you make yourself too available people can pick up on it and thats not good .
I wouldnt join anything online if you are seriously looking for dates .... Sorry, but I hate that even more. That's utter BS. I NEVER expect it. And nothing ever happens either.
I think some people (myself, I'm talking about here) simply aren't made to be in relationships. |
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Relationships are  trouble is finding someone who is completely honest , now thats as rare as rocking horse shit  | |
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I think "put yourself out there" might mean simply get out and meet people, but not pubs/clubs. Join classes, take up a sport or hobby, etc.
If you have a love of embroidery say, joining an embroidery class will at least put you in contact with people with something in common. And that's a start. Bonus: You could embroider yourself a sign!  |
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mcmeekle said: I think "put yourself out there" might mean simply get out and meet people, but not pubs/clubs. Join classes, take up a sport or hobby, etc.
If you have a love of embroidery say, joining an embroidery class will at least put you in contact with people with something in common. And that's a start. Bonus: You could embroider yourself a sign! Yeah, there are always tons of single men in embroidery classes! |
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CarrieMpls said: mcmeekle said: I think "put yourself out there" might mean simply get out and meet people, but not pubs/clubs. Join classes, take up a sport or hobby, etc.
If you have a love of embroidery say, joining an embroidery class will at least put you in contact with people with something in common. And that's a start. Bonus: You could embroider yourself a sign! Yeah, there are always tons of single men in embroidery classes! 
One of the ladies there might have a husband you could steal, though. | |
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mcmeekle said: I think "put yourself out there" might mean simply get out and meet people, but not pubs/clubs. Join classes, take up a sport or hobby, etc.
If you have a love of embroidery say, joining an embroidery class will at least put you in contact with people with something in common. And that's a start. Bonus: You could embroider yourself a sign! embroidery??? Excuse my laughter but are u serious? ALl I can think is 
Anna Anna ANna Nicole PRINCE IS WATCHING U " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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U guys suck at the dating stuff.  | |
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PunkMistress said: CarrieMpls said: Yeah, there are always tons of single men in embroidery classes!
One of the ladies there might have a husband you could steal, though.
Years ago a friend and I were talking about the whole "take a class" or "join an activity" strategy and realized we don't like to do anything that straight men typically like to do. We'd only meet more women and gay men. |
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TheResurrection said: U guys suck at the dating stuff.
Dont blame me, after 11 years of marraige Ive lost it 
Just dont join embroidery class PRINCE IS WATCHING U " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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You know why: It's because you're always into something. You're always thinking.
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ThreadBare said: You know why: It's because you're always into something. You're always thinking.
So tell us do U like a thinking woman enquiring minds want to know  PRINCE IS WATCHING U " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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It is true that you have to "put yourself out there" and play the game so to speak.
I found that being a bit forward and orgnoting nudes helps on THIS dating site. | |
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chillichocaholic said: ThreadBare said: You know why: It's because you're always into something. You're always thinking.
So tell us do U like a thinking woman enquiring minds want to know I do. Women who can't communicate their thoughts and I just never work out. | |
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forget about it, relationships suck.  |
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moderatorMilitant said: forget about it, relationships suck.
well yes, if ure doing it right  PRINCE IS WATCHING U " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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ThreadBare said: You know why: It's because you're always into something. You're always thinking.
Thinking gets me into trouble. I must stop!!! | |
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TheResurrection said: ThreadBare said: You know why: It's because you're always into something. You're always thinking.
Thinking gets me into trouble. I must stop!!! And, do something with those locs. You know it takes a while to take all that in. | |
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ThreadBare said: TheResurrection said: Thinking gets me into trouble. I must stop!!! And, do something with those locs. You know it takes a while to take all that in. Dang..I forgot! need to cut those too!! Jesus don't like locs  | |
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chillichocaholic said: Militant said: forget about it, relationships suck.
well yes, if ure doing it right that is a good one! thanks, i needed cheering up |
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TheResurrection said: ThreadBare said: And, do something with those locs. You know it takes a while to take all that in. Dang..I forgot! need to cut those too!! Jesus don't like locs Get you a real obvious wig or weave instead. Bless her heart. | |
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Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly. | |
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paintedlady said: Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly. girl, that doesn't sound inviting at all...lol. I don't do the list thing. Just deal with men on their own merits and situations. | |
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