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Printableangelcat said: Mach said:  us tooi am so glad to hear that there are others with the same thinking. i was beginning to think that we were weird. No not at all  I know many sucessful long term couples that do exactly this
There is nothing wrong with needing alone time and space iside a relationship I think it helps might not be for everyone - just like our alone time/space is not for other what ever works best for the people inolved is what's important  | |
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Mach said: angelcat said: i am so glad to hear that there are others with the same thinking. i was beginning to think that we were weird. No not at all I know many sucessful long term couples that do exactly this
There is nothing wrong with needing alone time and space iside a relationship I think it helps might not be for everyone - just like our alone time/space is not for other what ever works best for the people inolved is what's important Amen to that!  | |
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JustErin said: onenitealone said: Erin: 'And that's that'.  ~slams door~
 
I'm sure some people probably think I'm full of shit about this, but whatever. It's natural to want to spend time with someone, and fun to live with someone for a while, but eventually you just share bad times, and don't make plans for the good times. When you live apart, you can revel in your own filth & depression separately, and you can plan to be together when you want sex. But then, I'm a hopeless romantic. My Legacy
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NDRU said: JustErin said:
I'm sure some people probably think I'm full of shit about this, but whatever. It's natural to want to spend time with someone, and fun to live with someone for a while, but eventually you just share bad times, and don't make plans for the good times. When you live apart, you can revel in your own filth & depression separately, and you can plan to be together when you want sex. But then, I'm a hopeless romantic. You need to write for Harlequin Romances... MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: NDRU said: It's natural to want to spend time with someone, and fun to live with someone for a while, but eventually you just share bad times, and don't make plans for the good times. When you live apart, you can revel in your own filth & depression separately, and you can plan to be together when you want sex. But then, I'm a hopeless romantic. You need to write for Harlequin Romances... | |
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ZombieKitten said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: You need to write for Harlequin Romances... I'll take your husband for a week..... 
Please don't tell him I said that!!! MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: NDRU said:
It's natural to want to spend time with someone, and fun to live with someone for a while, but eventually you just share bad times, and don't make plans for the good times. When you live apart, you can revel in your own filth & depression separately, and you can plan to be together when you want sex. But then, I'm a hopeless romantic You need to write for Harlequin Romances... Maybe it will look like this: 
The intensely passionate tale of a fiery, passionate Canadian single mother who couldn't pull herself away from the arms of her hunky, well-endowed lover....until after the lovemaking was through. Then her lover begged for her warm embrace, only to be pushed aside to another location in their stately mansion, until she felt her overwhelming desire bubbling up again!      | |
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ZombieKitten said: or even separate houses to their spouses?
I'm thinking I wouldn't mind my own space, which I can keep nice and neat and just the way I like it, and the rest of the mob can fend for themselves in their own part, I'll even let them hire a cleaner.  LOL, I know you're kidding, but I think that's just sad. I cannot imagine not living in the same bedroom as my wife. | |
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728huey said: MIGUELGOMEZ said:
NDRU said:.
You need to write for Harlequin Romances... Maybe it will look like this:
The intensely passionate tale of a fiery, passionate Canadian single mother who couldn't pull herself away from the arms of her hunky, well-endowed lover....until after the lovemaking was through. Then her lover begged for her warm embrace, only to be pushed aside to another location in their stately mansion, until she felt her overwhelming desire bubbling up again! nice, maybe I will read that in MY room, tonight! My Legacy
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RodeoSchro said: ZombieKitten said: or even separate houses to their spouses?
I'm thinking I wouldn't mind my own space, which I can keep nice and neat and just the way I like it, and the rest of the mob can fend for themselves in their own part, I'll even let them hire a cleaner. LOL, I know you're kidding, but I think that's just sad. I cannot imagine not living in the same bedroom as my wife. that is probably because she doesn't snore like a bulldozer or drop wet towels on the bed, now, does she! | |
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ZombieKitten said: Ottensen said: I feel like you just read my mind
I say if Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera could do it, damn it,so can the rest of us if we so choose .
I like my stuff UNBROKEN, nice and straight, without crumbs all over it and QUIET!  Lawd does this ever sound like a good idea! Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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JustErin said: That's the only kind of relationship I am willing to be in. I have zero interest in living with a person I am in a long term committed relationship with. Keep your place, I'll keep mine and we will see each other when we want to not because we have to.
I like your way of thinking...for real. | |
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ZombieKitten said: RodeoSchro said: LOL, I know you're kidding, but I think that's just sad. I cannot imagine not living in the same bedroom as my wife. that is probably because she doesn't snore like a bulldozer or drop wet towels on the bed, now, does she! that's HIS job! My Legacy
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ZombieKitten said: RodeoSchro said: LOL, I know you're kidding, but I think that's just sad. I cannot imagine not living in the same bedroom as my wife. that is probably because she doesn't snore like a bulldozer or drop wet towels on the bed, now, does she!
No, she doesn't! (And neither do I, Andrew!) | |
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I like my own space but the thought of being away from someone you love but living in the same house seems to me a bit sad.  There's Joy In Expatriation. | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: ZombieKitten said: I'll take your husband for a week.....
Please don't tell him I said that!!! 
he would LOVE to hear that though, are you sure?  | |
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Hubby & i are total opposites...he can sleep through a tornado..i have insomnia.
not only does he snore VERY loud, he talks in his sleep...do you know how annoying that can be? i was sleep deprived & pissed off. I had to get my own bedroom. its a good idea.  | |
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sonic said: Hubby & i are total opposites...he can sleep through a tornado..i have insomnia.
not only does he snore VERY loud, he talks in his sleep...do you know how annoying that can be? i was sleep deprived & pissed off. I had to get my own bedroom. its a good idea. I still don't mind sleeping in the same bed, we can do sleepovers.
I'm simply growing resentful of the mess I have to clean up constantly, that I didn't even make  | |
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CarrieMpls said: Charlotte, you really work hard to convince the rest of us to never get married or have children.
As for me, I could only live with someone if we have the means to have a place big enough to have our own space. I’d definitely want a shared bedroom, but I’m gonna need my own room besides. Charlotte, you brighten my everyday with your threads..thank you. | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: CarrieMpls said: Charlotte, you really work hard to convince the rest of us to never get married or have children.
As for me, I could only live with someone if we have the means to have a place big enough to have our own space. I’d definitely want a shared bedroom, but I’m gonna need my own room besides. Charlotte, you brighten my everyday with your threads..thank you. really?  thank you very much!  | |
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Mach said: ZombieKitten said: or even separate houses to their spouses?
I'm thinking I wouldn't mind my own space, which I can keep nice and neat and just the way I like it, and the rest of the mob can fend for themselves in their own part, I'll even let them hire a cleaner. I have my own space within my home we intentionally built it that way ...
My own bedroom and master bathroom
I HAVE to have PERSONAL SPACE sometimes  always haveReally? see I could never do that, even when we get mad at one another, we sleep in the same bed. Our fights never last, in a few one of us will hug the other (pretending they are asleep) next thing you know..all is well with the world. | |
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ZombieKitten said: PaisleyPark5083 said: Charlotte, you brighten my everyday with your threads..thank you. really? thank you very much! you are so honest and funny! | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: ZombieKitten said: really? thank you very much! you are so honest and funny! I thought folks just thought I was a whinger  | |
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ZombieKitten said: PaisleyPark5083 said: you are so honest and funny! I thought folks just thought I was a whinger whinger 
I think I am lost in the translation | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: ZombieKitten said: I thought folks just thought I was a whinger whinger
I think I am lost in the translation http://www.urbandictionar...rm=whinger  | |
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In my current relationship I could not imagine, especially when it comes to sleep time and waking up to start a new day.
I do love my time and space and have loved living alone for years, preferred it actually. Now, my time and space with this person beside me is far better than time and space alone. I never imagined it could be so. | |
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ZombieKitten said: PaisleyPark5083 said: whinger
I think I am lost in the translation http://www.urbandictionar...rm=whinger ooohhh got it! Nope you are just honest and say it as it is...and it always makes us laugh! | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: ZombieKitten said: ooohhh got it! Nope you are just honest and say it as it is...and it always makes us laugh! you are too kind | |
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PaisleyPark5083 said: Mach said: I have my own space within my home we intentionally built it that way ...
My own bedroom and master bathroom
I HAVE to have PERSONAL SPACE sometimes always haveReally? see I could never do that, even when we get mad at one another, we sleep in the same bed. Our fights never last, in a few one of us will hug the other (pretending they are asleep) next thing you know..all is well with the world. Really ...
my alone time/space has zero to do with anger  | |
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But.... when I was married some many years back... I did use a huge body pillow to seperate myself, sometimes. It became more regular in the end. Some nights I was so pissed off that I did sleep in another room, but that kind of arrangement was so not ideal, for me.   But it was and is true.
I would rather live single than to feel that way again. . | |
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