OK I meet this guy.... he's older, much older like 14 yrs. my senior.

he's nice, polite and well, not that attractive, so I tell myself not to be a vain bitch and look past his lack of physical attributes because he looks his age.

He won me over with his charm and wit until.....

we had a sexual encounter (I really don't want to get into specifics), and he has a condition, PHIMOSIS, or more specifically, PREPUTIAL STENOSIS. google it

Yes, I looked up his condition because he (for lack of a more tactful way to put it) he grossed me the fuck out and I wanted to hurl when I saw his dick.

I realized I can not ever get physical with this man again, even kiss him because I can't get past his deformity. This may sound cold blooded but I don't want to risk back to back bacterial infection if he can clean his dick properly. I was never an advocate for radial circumcision until I saw his dick.

So my question is... how should I handle this?

Should I tell him about what I learned and ask him to seek medical help?
Or should I just lie and make a clean break?

paintedlady said:

If he hasn't sought medical help by now, I truly doubt he will. So, I'd just break ties with him and move on. However you choose to do so is on you.

you should be honest with him, and tell him that he is a great guy, but you just can't handle his condition...Unfortunately, he's probably heard it before

MuthaFunka said:

What if he is just thinking he's OK with this? Should i just be straight with him and tell him exactly why?

thekidsgirl said:

so then why doesn't he get it fixed? or is this one of those insurance issues?

paintedlady said:

Just tell him you aren't over ya previous dude and it would be unfair to him.

ZombieKitten said:

maybe some girls don't mind, so why bother?

thekidsgirl said:

so then why doesn't he get it fixed? or is this one of those insurance issues?

MuthaFunka said:

OK lie... but is it fair to him to lie? What if that's all women do to him, is it because you think he couldn't handle the truth? Are men that sensitive about their dicks?

paintedlady said:

Hell yeah men are sensitive about their dicks! So - LIE!

MuthaFunka said:

So don't tell dude he can use a topical steroid ointment and gently stretch his foreskin at home with a foreskin stretchy thingy to help him out? Just let dude suffer in silence wondering why he can't get a second try with anyone?

paintedlady said:

If YOU wanna go thru ALL THAT - JUST to get some dick...then knock yaself out!

Be honest but try not to call it a salt water clam.
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johnart said:

OK, I just would feel guilty just lying to him. I hate bullshitting people.

or am I just evil and want to get back at him for not warning me about his "condition". Muthafuggin gross azz nasty ..... ewwww!!!! that was THE most awkward moment ever when I saw it. Punkass should have told me something, I knew he saw my face twist up when I seen it. Yeah, I think I want to say "saltwater clam"

OK... I called him but he's not home, so I left him a cold message on FB. Thank goodness for technology, makes life easier to dump someone.

I gave him a link to this site,

http://www.glansie.com/?g...5QodYH1KJQ

and told him that he had a condition that I did not want to and could not deal with. I also told him to seek a doctor.

paintedlady said:

For Realz you put it out there like that? Wow.

just be honest with him.

i much rather hear from someone i don't want to date you because you are HIV positive than some dumb story that i later find out is a lie.

DesireeNevermind said:

Yes I did. He may call me, I'll just keep it real. He deserves the truth.

paintedlady said:

What if he calls and is mad about the website? Dayum that's a sensitive subject.

I can't imagine fucking something like that. He could get penis cancer with that. Yeah he needs a doctor bad.

MuthaFunka said:

No see, I wouldn't tell him that to GET his dick. I would tell him all that since he was nice to me and as a friend just be honest so he can fix his condition so he can go out and fuck someone else and leave me the hell alone.

OK... I called him but he's not home, so I left him a cold message on FB. Thank goodness for technology, makes life easier to dump someone.

I gave him a link to this site,

http://www.glansie.com/?g...5QodYH1KJQ

and told him that he had a condition that I did not want to and could not deal with. I also told him to seek a doctor.

the phimosis clit was horrid too. damn just think of all the fucked up genitalia out there. we should all be grateful to have healthy and normal looking and functioning dicks and pussies. okay you may faint now.